Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I asked my fiance a few weeks ago what type of boutonnieres he wanted.
His response: “boot-in WHAT?”
He had no idea what they were. lol
I pried him again and he said that he doesn’t care, I can pick. But he also asked if it would be a big deal if we didn’t have them.
Sure, it’s more “decoration,” but we have a pretty small budget anyways, so, really, is anyone going to notice if we don’t do boutonnieres?
I’m indifferent either way.
So did anyone forgo them?
Or are there any other alternative suggestions?
(PS we are probably doing silk bouqets from the bridesboquet.com. They have a small selection of lapel flowers but I am open to other options).
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Everyone does them, even in very casual weddings. I don’t really like them, so I did a search on some popular sites and this is what I came up with. You can do something that he can relate to, like if he plays golf, glue ribbon and small simple flower to a golf tee. If he has a favorite sport – maybe a patch with flower trim, or a button with a slogan attached to ribbon & a silk bud. If his father was in the army, a medal of some kind or a pocket watch with a little baby’s breath attached. Your florist can do something if you bring them the item. Good luck. 
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I made ours. We got a bouquet of red roses at walmart for about $12.00 and a small bundle of babys breath for $3.00. I had floral tape, ribbon and straight pins from other projects for the wedding. With those supplies I made 3 corsages and 5 boutonierres. It took me about 30 minutes to assemble them the night before the wedding, and I laid them out on a tray of ice covered by a paper towel over night.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’m kind of on the fence if I want them or not too. I’m doing all our flowers myself, and it’s no problem to make boutonnieres, but I do think they are sort of silly. I’m not doing corsages for the mothers/grandmothers either, silly to me. Who knows, when it gets closer I may change my mind LOL
What about just a colorful pocket square? Although if they have a colorful tie that might be too much.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
My FH really doesnt like how they look so I think we wont be having them..
Post # 7
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Worker bee
I didn’t do them! I worked as a florist and while they are popular they are by no means a must!
I gave my Darling Husband the option of bout or pocket square, and he opted for nice pockesquares instead.
It incorporated our colours better and there was no worrying about the bouts being all squished in all that inevitable hugging after the ceremony and having them look like crap/ need replacements for photos.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
@Stace126: i had pretty much the same conversation, with the whole “bouton-what” bit hahaha. only difference is that my fi is strongly against them. his response was “what? so theyre flowers? men dont wear flowers” hahaha
Post # 9
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Helper bee
We had one just for the groom… and he forgot to put it on… Meh.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
We did skull lapel pins. I think it’s fun to make it personal.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
We didn’t do them for the guys. Turns out, no one notices whether or not there is a small flower pinned to your husband.
I did do them for the moms and grandmas
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
We were actually having the same debate this weekend! I think we’ll either go for nice pocket squares or something like this ala Chuck Bass:
Or Fiance would probably really enjoy a fly lure as a fun surprise:
Post # 13
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Honey bee
My Husband made his and his groomsmens. We loved them because we can keep them forever. (They’ll never die) We opted for non-floral for our groomsmen and bridesmaids.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
@Peoniesplease: I really like this idea, and I bet it looked nice!
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
We did pinwheel boutenneires just so the guys matched in that way. Our groomsmen didn’t match the groom.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
Thanks for the awesome ideas everybody! I really like the pocket squares idea and the option of doing a lapel decoration based on a hobby. We are really big hockey fans so I’m wondering if I could find little mini hockey sticks and decorate them with some snazzy fabric behind them or something.
Hmmmm….. I think I better get my graphic designer Bridesmaid or Best Man in on this
!
