- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
We didn’t do RSVP cards, just a combination of e-mail, online form and telephone numbers. We figured guests can decide themselves which way to respond was easier. We ended up having to contact a handful of people anyway (we did a plated dinner with menu options, so we needed to know what they wanted to eat), but it was worth the hassle.
I can’t really imagine not having an approximate number of guests, just to make sure there’s enough food and drinks (and not too much waste). For us, even if we had chosen a buffet we had to pay the caterer based on the number of guests so they could get the portions correct. Plus even if your venue can hold 500 people, if you only have 100 people show up and tables/chairs set up for 200 it will look like half your guests blew it off. That, and the extra tables take up space that could be used for dancing 🙂
I also second the table assignments. It’s a huge pain in the ass, but I think it only works well if you’re doing a really informal reception where you can mingle/eat throughout the evening (like a barbecue or garden party or something) and aren’t just sitting at the tables for specific courses. No one wants to get stuck sitting through a meal with a table of strangers.