(Closed) Did anyone NOT do RSVPs?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We didn’t do RSVP cards, just a combination of e-mail, online form and telephone numbers. We figured guests can decide themselves which way to respond was easier. We ended up having to contact a handful of people anyway (we did a plated dinner with menu options, so we needed to know what they wanted to eat), but it was worth the hassle.

I can’t really imagine not having an approximate number of guests, just to make sure there’s enough food and drinks (and not too much waste). For us, even if we had chosen a buffet we had to pay the caterer based on the number of guests so they could get the portions correct. Plus even if your venue can hold 500 people, if you only have 100 people show up and tables/chairs set up for 200 it will look like half your guests blew it off. That, and the extra tables take up space that could be used for dancing 🙂

I also second the table assignments. It’s a huge pain in the ass, but I think it only works well if you’re doing a really informal reception where you can mingle/eat throughout the evening (like a barbecue or garden party or something) and aren’t just sitting at the tables for specific courses. No one wants to get stuck sitting through a meal with a table of strangers.

Post # 17
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

RSVPs are a pain in the ass but im curious how you thing the venue will magic quantity numbers without a head count


also please dear god do a seating chart… ever been on a bus? you know how everyone leave a space between them and the next person – unless you have more than triple the amount of seat people will still get seperated and have to squeeze in between other people and its really rude to put couples and families in that position


we are doing electronic RSVPs, it should be easier hopefully as no postal system to worry about

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