Post # 16
I didn’t do either, and I married in the late 1970s. I haven’t seen a garter tossed in at least 10 years. Occassionally – like 25% of the time, a bouquet will get tossed; however, the last time I saw it tried, no one wanted to participate. My daughter gave her bouquet to her grandmother.
Post # 17
We aren’t going to do either. I always despised being called out on being single in front of tons of people especially if I didn’t know the couple/other guests really well. I also think the garter toss is tacky (just my opinion) so that is a definite no. Every wedding I have been to both have been done but this is the one time where I’m not even slightly concerned if people miss it or not!
Post # 18
No did not do either !!!!! Don’t think they are necessary nowdays ……have not seen it don’t at weddings in Australia in a while , well not the ones I have been to
Post # 19
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
We didn’t do either. We had a classy reception at a restaurant, and I find the garter/bouquet toss kind of tacky and not us at all. I cringe when couples do the garter toss.
Post # 20
that’s super sweet! Of you and your brother!
Post # 21
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
I love bouquet tosses, so I did that. I find garter tosses gross. Actually, I find the process of getting the garter gross. So we did one, but not the other.
Post # 22
Not planning to do either at mine! We’ve been to quite a few weddings in the past few years and less than half have included a bouquet toss or anything to do with a garter.
From observation alone it has tended to be regional. My friends on the coasts have not included it and my friends in the Midwest and south have been more likely to include it.
Post # 23
Let’s be real…how many single gals actually enjoy being called out with Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” to come out to the dance floor to catch a bouquet no one even keeps? I won’t even go into how awkward the garter toss is… Obviously we didn’t do it — and DEFINITELY didn’t miss it! 🙂
Post # 24
We never had one, since a) neither of us are comfortable with it, and b) we had a small wedding. Even if we had a big wedding reception, most of our friends and family members are married, or single and don’t want to be singled out for being single. No one will miss it, trust me!
Post # 25
We did neither and I havent been to a wedding in a LONG time that actually did do it. Personally, I think it’s embarassing and weird.
Post # 27
We didn’t have them. I was much happier using that time to keep the party flowing.
Post # 28
We won’t be doing either at our upcoming wedding. It’s a regular sized wedding (about 120 guests), but I can’t think of many guests who are single, we’d probably end up singling out 2 or 3 which seems awkward. I’m glad to have come across this post, I was thinking people would think it was odd to skip (I’ve never been to a wedding that skipped either garter or bouqet toss). Although, from everything I keep hearing, the worst thing you can do during the dance portion of your reception is to stop the dancing. I was at a wedding once where the DJ kept stopping a full dance floor to play silly games and it really killed the party.
Post # 29
- Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard
No bouquet toss. No garter toss (didn’t even wear one). no announcing of the wedding party. No first dance. The list goes on.
Post # 30
I tossed a bouquet, but we didnt do a garter. I hate the garter toss thing. Pretty much I only did the bouquet toss as an excuse to have “Chapel of Love” played at the wedding. I will say that people seemed more willing to go out to try to catch the bouquet knowing there was no garter stuff happening. I have been to weddings where catching the bouquet basically means you have to be sexually assaulted by a random stranger… gross.