Post # 1
I’m getting married next June, we’re having a small ceremony (40 guests or so) at a beautiful B&B. I love fashion, so I’ve loved picking out my dress, and I’m so excited for the day, but the one thing I keep feeling is that I’m not super into the whole hair and make up thing. I want to wear my hair in long, loose waves and I usually keep my own makeup fairly simplistic (foundation and mascara). Because of the small size of our wedding, we aren’t having a formal wedding party (though I defintely want my girlfriends to hang out with me as I put the dress on and stuff). I just keep wondering if it’s even worth it to pay for hair and makeup if I don’t personally care that much. I obviously want our photos to look good, that is important to me, but we’re getting married in a very rural area and no one else is getting their hair and makeup done but me, part of me wonders if I should even bother? Has anyone gone w/o these on their wedding day?
Post # 2
I didn’t and I really don’t see what the big deal is about pro hair and makeup, to be honest. A lot of people say the makeup keeps you from being washed out in photos, but I look completely fine in ours and no one ever claims that the male will be washed out – totally illogical. Of course the women who do go pro wind up looking gorgeous or glamorous, but I’m not a glamorous person and would rather look like myself, not someone else. Regarding hair, that just depends on how fancy you want to look, I guess. Again I wanted to look pretty normal, so I just curled mine and was done with it. But I also didn’t have a fancy wedding, so a curly updo or something would have been out of place in any case.
Do what makes you comfortable. Wear normal or no makeup if you like, get your hair done if you want it or just get a basic cut that always looks nice if you would rather sleep in. You aren’t going to look bad in your photos without these things unless you look bad every single day of your life, which I doubt sincerely.
Post # 3
This is super helpful to hear. I have been reading all these things online that professional photos will turn out horrible if you’re wearing light makeup beacuse it’s not “professional” makeup. I mean, I think I look pretty good in day-to-day life when I’m wearing mascara and a little foundation/powder. I’m sure a professional who is styling me to look “natural” would also do an awesome job, but I’m just wondering if it’s worth the couple hundred dollar cost to get them out to our venue to do just me that day. The venue is in the middle of nowhere in northern Maine, so I’m thinking high travel costs, and why pay someone to come all the way out there to do it very minimally? Cost isn’t as much an issue, but I’m just wondering if it makes sense.
I’m so glad to hear your photos still turned out just fine, haha. Everything I’m reading says that pics up close just won’t look as good – so you didn’t find that at all?
Post # 4
I got my hair done because I have a terrible time with my hair. It’s not very cooperative! I did my own make-up. You might feel more comfortable with your own make-up/hair. I’ve heard stories about people not feeling like themselves at the wedding due to the make-up being so different. I wore more make-up than usual for the wedding because of the photography. Actually, I don’t wear any make-up usually, so it was more just because I wore it!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
If you’re confident in putting it on yourself, go for it. I’ll be doing my own and I DID do fiance’s makeup for our engagement shoot to even out his color. I’ll be teaching him to apply just BB cream and powder for the wedding. We’re both prone to redness. False lashes is what really gives the most effect in professional makeup, you can always add those yourself if you want some glamour.
Post # 6
Thanks guys. I appreciate this feedback. I think the other thing is that I’m not going to have the opportunity to do a trial before the wedding. Of the weddings I’ve been in, it’s been pretty hit-or-miss with how I feel with the makeup the bride has generously provided. There have been a couple weddings I’ve been in where I do not think I look like myself at all. The only wedding I’ve felt comfortable wearing bridesmaid makeup was someone had their mom’s friend come in and just do it for us and it was very simple, and pics turned out great. Since this is a destination wedding for us, it just makes me a little nervous that I’ll pay someone to get all the way out there and then have them do something that I feel like doesn’t make me look as “natural” as I want….. that said, I also get nervous it’ll be my wedding day and I’ll be like “omg what I was thinking!!” but I really only plan to do basic foundation/powder and mascara (I’m not a fan of fake eyelashes as I have sensitive eyes and they cause my eyes to water! haha)
Post # 7
Personally, I think professionally done hair make-up versus doing your own (unless you are very talented) can be like night and day. It can be the difference between absolutely looking your best (whether that entails a light, more natural look or something more glam) and looking like you might any other day (not that there’s anything wrong with that, but this is the one day I would splurge for the pros.).
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2022 - Maui
I couldnʻt afford it the first time and i thought i looked just “okay” in my photos. this time around weʻre dong a much smaller wedding and Iʻm going ALL out for hair and makeup
Post # 9
I actually had a super small destination wedding in Bali with just 10 people. My fiance really wanted me to do my own hair and makeup but I thought, hey, if I’m ever going to have my hair and makeup professionally done this should be the ocassion for it! I was also worried about the humidity and the fake eyelashes and wanted someone who knew how to handle those things.
Unfortunately, I deeply regret my decision. Due to traveling circumstances, I wasn’t able to have a trial, either! But after months of going through portfolios and stalking MUA instagram accounts, I selected a hair and makeup person I thought could do no wrong. Sadly, she made my hair look greasy and the makeup was far too heavy even though I showed her super natural looking examples from her own portfolio. I ended up wiping most of it off, and regretably didn’t realize how bad the hair was till I saw the photos.
So I’d say, if it turns out you can do a trial and really want to have that extra polish, go for it! But honestly, I realized afterwards that I really like how my hair and makeup look when I do it myself and it was silly to pay someone to do it for me. I would have rather looked like myself and knew what I was getting than attempted some super glam version of myself. Your husband will think you’re perfect either way. xo
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I’m not getting pro hair or make-up. Like you, I don’t wear make-up much, and I practically never do anything with my hair. My hair will be curled for my wedding, which is fairly simple to do…but it’s very fine and doesn’t hold a curl well. My hair stylist knows exactly what prodcuts to use for my hair to hold a curl longer than normal. I bought those prodcuts for $60, and my sister is doing both my hair and make-up. Altogether, I’ll only be spending $60 because we’ll be using a curling iron she already owns and make-up that we already own. Unless I wanted a really complicated hair style and/or very glam make-up, I can’t imagine paying someone to do this. Plus, it’ll give a chance for my sister and me to bond a little before I walk down the aisle!
Post # 11
I had a pro do my hair since we got married in August and I didn’t know how to keep my hair up and fancy-like in the heat & humidity. I’m not good with hair other than a scraggly ponytail. But I did my own makeup.
Post # 12
It was really important that I “looked like myself” so I did my own hair and make-up for my wedding. Even though I did the make-up/hair I would normally do for a night on the town, I still did my own “trial” and took photos to make sure I was happy with how I looked. As a result, I ended up adding a touch of color to my lips. I love the way I felt on my wedding day and the way I looked in my photos. I think the key to not looking washed out is the way in which the photos are edited.
Post # 13
I didn’t do anything for my engagement pics and you can totally tell the difference. The professional makeup in my wedding pics highlights my face and my pics don’t look like I took them at a family gathering.
I told my makeup guy to make myself look natural and I think he acomplished that. As for my hair, I wanted it up, so thats different than what you are doing.
Honestly it was worth every penny and I would do it again. I think I looked great and 100xs better than my engagement photos.
For reference we had a 70 person wedding in a barn.
Post # 14
Here’s a closeup – you can decide if I look bad or not, barring the stupid smile. I do not wear makeup on a regular basis. For this I had a neutral shadow, mascara, powder foundation and gloss. Might have been smart to do eyeliner or something for an extra pop, but that stuff freaks me out. Personally I don’t think closeups look as good anyway and I’m not into them in general. I don’t need anyone’s face shoved into mine – I hate HD TV for the same reason… I don’t want to see every defect up close and personal, lol.
Post # 15
I had my hair done because it can be difficult to tame and I wanted my girls to have their hair done and spend the time with them. I’m not a make up guru but I’m pretty dang good at it because I enjoy it and I know what looks good on me and I didn’t want to pay someone to do something that THEY think should look good on me but won’t.
If you don’t want these things done, don’t waste the money. All I suggest is doing a little research to make whatever face you do last. Prepping and setting sprays, long lasting formulas. Play around. And do what feels best for you. Sorry if the image is huge it’s from my phone but this was my trial run for my wedding day face done by me and none of my wedding pictures are washed out or have issues.