(Closed) Did anyone NOT go overboard on Bridesmaid gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsFutureG:  I honestly think the card/thank you note is the most important part and that’s pretty close to free! I just wanted to know that I was appreciated and I will be letting all my girls know I am thankful and appreciate each of them. All the other stuff is just a bonus…

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am getting my girls personalized jewerly with their name initial and birth stone as a gift, so I think think its enough.

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I only had 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and I got her a card and a pandora charm for her bracelet b/c she loves pandora….I def did not go overboard at all.

 

Post # 21
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Worker bee

@MrsFutureG:  I’m spending maybe 50 dollars per girl.  I am planning on buying them a wine bottle stopper, a bottle of wine (they both love wine) and am going to purchase earrings and necklace from etsy.  That plus a note thanking them.

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I have a very small wedding budget and have 7 bridesmaids. I didn’t want to limit the number of bridesmaids just because I couldn’t afford presents for them. I know my girls and know they really won’t care about getting presents so I am just going to get them each a card and write them a thank you letter. I know some people will think this is totally tacky but I know my girls and they will appreciate the personalized thank you as much as they would me scrounging to buy them each a 30$ random gift or something.

Maybe I should add that I am letting my girls pick their own simple sundresses so they can spend like $30 on them if they want and wear them many times again. we are going barefoot so no shoes needed to buy either.

 

 

 

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly, I think being considerate of your girls and understanding that your wedding isn’t their life is probably the best gift you can give your BMs.  Every wedding has a budget and a unique set of circumstances.  I got carried away with my gifts, but I only have 2 BMs, so I could spend about $100 (coach wristlets, gift cards, emergency kits, jewelry, macaron coin purse) on each even with a modest wedding budget ($12k including rings/honeymoon).  Plus they’ve been super helpful, they’re traveling to be here, and my Maid/Matron of Honor has just gone above and beyond; so even though they’re not paying for dresses, shoes, jewelry, and hair/make-up, they are still incurring a decent travel expense bill.

 

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I gave my girls a cute tote bag, some bath and body works stuff, nail polish, and a customized hanger. I probably spent $50 max, and the gift was adorable and appreciated.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I once got a cute bin full of goodies from bath and body works, but the bride worked there so she got a discount. It was in each of our favorite scents. I’m thinking of doing a little clutch with a gift card for nails and facials at a local salon to offset the costs of being in the wedding. 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I didn’t go overboard as well but I am pretty crafty and really searched and found some great deals.    I have a decent sized wedding party including 7 BMs so it was hard for me to pay for their dresses or treat everyone to a massage.

One Gift that I am giving at the Rehearsal Dinner is a frame picture and poem of that Bridesmaid or Best Man.   I found a frame at IKEA for $10 that had three 4 x 6 picture openings.   I cut the mat and eliminated the break between two of the openings and made it one big one (like 4 x 12).   Then I took made a vinyl decal sign with a poem about friendship and put it in that large opening.  At my Jack and Jill and Bachelorette I am planning to take a picture of me with each girl and use either of the photo’s to fill the last 4 x 6 opening and they will have a personalized frame with a picture of us!

For the wedding day I made each girl a Bridesmaid Survival Kit including a personalized tumbler, flip-flops (I wrote a thank you note on them), makeup remover, nail filing kit, lip gloss, bunch of makeup (small travel size), sewing kit, Tide pen, Advil, sunglasses, perfume, razor, q-tips, shaving cream, chocolate and some other things.  Mostly everything was small/travel size to cut down on costs but still show the girls how much I appreciate them and make sure they have everything they might need.   Including the basket to put it in I think each girl’s basket cost me about $25 each!   But I had to really search; but was worth it!

Hope this gives you some ideas!    Don’t feel guilty about not being able to go crazy with gifts; I’m sure the girls completely understand.  Getting them something small and personal with a thank you note will mean so much to them!  Best of Luck!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I spent about $70 on a nightie (thank you nordstrom anniversary sale) and a nameplate bracelet (etsy) for each Bridesmaid or Best Man. They loved the gifts and I don’t think anyone expected any more. I think weddings around here are pretty low key in general and I don’t think any of us have used a coach wristlet since 2005.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I had NO intention of going overboard.  I bought the three of them a locket that fit our theme and the design means something to each of them.  I put a personal picture in that locket.  Cost me $35 on ETSY.

 

That said I put $300 down on a dress at DB that I returned, because a girl at work had the same dress and gave  it to me (yesssss for free!!).  DB does store credit so I gave them the credit to pick out their dresses.  So it turned o ut I gifted them $135 each.. not intended and not expected at all.  They were all trying to slip me $100 at the wedding to cover the cost of their dresses lol. 

Post # 30
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Much like the squeeky wheel getting the oil, I think we see a lot of extremes on Weddingbee. People who are SUPER excited about their Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts post them. People who did something super unique to ask their BMs post those. But I think plenty of people do something modest and/or just call their maids and ask… there’s not much to post about. Meanwhile, I don’t think most people have family screaming at them about not making so-and-so a bridesmaid… but we sure see a lot of it here cause when it happens, it’s post worthy!

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My best friend just had each of our hair done.  Where we went she may have spent $20 a piece of our hair. It wasn’t much, and it wasn’t something that we could keep, but I was more than okay with it.  I’m planning on doing bridesmaids survival kits…which again, will be about $20-$25 a piece.  Oh, and my cousin just bought some frames that fit two pictures.  One side she put a poem that was titled something like “Thanks for being beside me” or something like that.  Then later on she gave us each a picture of the bridesmaid and the bride by themselves and had us put it in the frame.  I don’t think she spent $3 a frame, but it was sweet and I still have mine 🙂

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