(Closed) Did anyone NOT go overboard on Bridesmaid gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsFutureG:  I’ve spent about $60-65 total on 5 girls.  

I got my girls each something from Society6.com.  It’s an online hub for graphic artists to have their designs printed on just about anything.  I got them either a phone case, a pillow, or a framed print.  Each is different and picked based around what I know of them personally.  For example, one of my girls and her husband are National Park junkies and their lifetime goal is to visit all the NPs.  They take 2-3 road trips a year.  They also love Apple.  I got her a phone case for her iPhone with a John Muir quote, who was a huge NP activist they often talk about naming their child after.  I spent $25-30 each here.

I also got them kimono robes from SunsettoSunrise on Etsy.  $25 each.

Lastly, I bought a cheap set of white mugs from TJ Maxx and some chalkboard paint.  I taped off the upper half of the mugs and painted the bottom.  Then I wrote something cute like, “you are beautiful” on each of the mugs and also bought some tea from the grocery store.  They can erase and write whatever they want for forever!  This was about $8 each.

I think you can get them a really great gift, without breaking the bank, if you just put some thought into it, to make it personal.  Honestly, gifts from the heart are better than anything super expensive.  

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve been thinking about this.  I’m having a Destination Wedding and want to show that I really REALLY appreciate them making the trip and whatnot. I’m having 2 attendants so I feel like I can splurge on them a little more. I got one a whole freaking BUNCH of makeup and brushes with a nice makeup bag and a tutorial book. I think this is a good gift for her as I know she loves makeup but I’ve noticed she doesn’t have any brushes (she uses those q-tip spongey applicator things) or high quality product.

My other attendant isn’t so easy to shop for. She and her husband love alcohol (as do my fiance and I) so I’m thinking of getting her a complete shaker set (possibly carrying case) with a recipe book.

I’m also having a “day of beauty” before the wedding and they don’t know this, but I’m paying for their facials, mani/pedis & eyebrows.  I’m also paying for their hair and makeup the morning of the wedding. I don’t consider that overboard, and I feel like that should be good enough. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it all depends on your wedding, your bridesmaids, and their taste. I feel bad that my girls have to spend so much on a dress, so I’m spending about $75 per girl when all is said and done. I think as long as what you get them is heartfelt and you think they’ll enjoy it, then you’ve done a good job. I see a lot of “is this a good bridesmaid gift” types of posts, and most of those are things that I would never want for myself and I can’t see my bridesmaids ever wanting, but it’s all about knowing if your girls will appreciate it.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I got each bridesmaid a pashmina and a little lipgloss. I made some earrings for each of them. Sometimes something handmade can mean more than spending a fortune on a gift.

Good luck!

 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am close to going overboard, I only have two so it’s easier for me to spend a little bit more. Fiance spent quite a bit on his GMs. He bought their ties, super hero cufflinks, and he bought some really neat super hero prints off Etsy and framed them, he paid about $100 on each guy and he has 4 of them.

I made custom tote bags (free with VP groupon), bought really nice beach towels, custom clutches for the wedding which I’ll fill with day-of things, I’m taking them to the spa for a massage and manicure, and I’m thinking about getting some engraved bracelets too.

Frankly though, it kind of blows my mind that people in the bridal party are supposed to shell out money for the dress and attire, bachelorette party, bridal shower, wedding gift, and most likely hotel stay, in addition to all their time, and then they are gifted a $10 item in return. Huh?

Not saying they spend $300, you spend $300, but I’d rather get a card thanking me for my time than a really cheap gift.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

All of my girls are traveling long-distance to the wedding, so I purchased their dresses to help offset their cost.  I’m also planning on getting them pashminas (probably $8/each on eBay) and making dressing robes for them.  I might end up giving them a tote or something to put all this into as well.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had two BMs for my Destination Wedding. They are my close cousins.  I didn’t get them anything except bought their dresses. =)

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kmarie719:  I agree, or when the gift is something with the bride and groom’s names and/or wedding date on it, or when the gift is jewelry that they’re expected to wear to the wedding (that doesn’t reflect something they would enjoy), or when everybody gets the same generic gift just because it’s easy.

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My bridesmaids are going to be spending about $200 (plus any costs they would pay to attend the wedding as a guest anyway) and I’m planning to pay for their hair ($65 each), got them a personalized hanger ($22 each), and then maybe just write them each a nice note. I think that’s plenty, they’re also getting a $65 dinner and free drinks all night!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I spent about $50 per girl and I have 9 girls.. it added up quickly! I don’t think I went overboard by any means, but I think I got them nice things. I got them each a nice picture frame with a picture in it of me and the particular girl, a pair of flip flops for the reception, a personalized hanger & a $20 gc to help them pay for their hair.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I just ordered them Alex and Ani bracelets in their favorite metal with birthstone.  

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper

I’m having a Destination Wedding and I have 6 bridesmaids and I bought them each their dresses,  the brooches for there dresses and the cost to cut the dresses shorter. I also got them each a personalized thank you card thanking them for being in my wedding and my Maid/Matron of Honor got a necklace and earrings to wear at the wedding also. I was in a wedding once where I go not even a verbal thank you and some crap jewellery that gave me a rash so I wanted to make sure each of my girls felt appreciated.

Post # 44
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve been a bridesmaid a billion times over so i bought the Bridesmaid’s dresses (69.99 silk chiffon Evie dress from Jcrew!) and am paying for their hair (55.00 per girl). This was a non-negotiable thing for me cause i really feel like forcing them to get a dress which they will never wear again is cruel and unusual punishment.   As their actual bridemaid gifts I am giving them a Kate Spade necklace from Nordstroms which I got on sale for 33.00 each. 

 

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I got them a few things but they were not very expensive.  I got them a picture frame ($10 maybe), a tank top with “bridesmaid” on it that I made ($5 for tank, a few $ for iron on letters), and then some nice earrings to wear at the wedding (around $30).

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I kept it small since I was on a budget and had 6 bridesmaids and one ceremony reader.  I got them each a gift card for a pedi+gratuity at our favorite nail spa.  And also a note pad that happened to be in my wedding colors (just ’cause I liked them) and a reusable water bottle (which sounds lame, but they were actually a hit!)  I wanted to get them something they could use post-wedding that wasn’t wedding related.  

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