(Closed) Did anyone NOT go overboard on Bridesmaid gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am hoping to pay for their hair, but it’s looking unlikely since i have 6 girls on my side and Fiance has 2 on his, so itd be at least 400, before tip.

i might be going overboard, but many of my things are DIY, so its not too bag. i made personalized name hangers, i am making little monogrammed jewelry trays with their fav colors, totes that i designed that are specific to the town we are getting married but not to our wedding (read: reusable), then we bought them all flip flops for the reception and a nice pearl pendant necklace that fits most of their styles. 

i’ll also be writing out thoughtful cards for each of them.

idk, i kinda feel like im not doing enough :/ 

Post # 48
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

@MrsFutureG:  Honestly, it depends on what your girls are doing. My in-laws are throwing my shower, my maid’s haven’t really helped out with any wedding tasks, I am paying for hair, makeup, and alterations. They are all moving out of state before the wedding, so I may have to find housing for them too.They are planning a bachelorette, but I will be hosting them at my house because they have moved, so it isn’t going to be a wild night (can’t make everyone breakfast hungover). For my girls, it will be much smaller gifts than most on the boards– probably in the $30 range.


However, the Groomsmen are going overboard for FI– they are flying him to Vegas for a bachelor party where he isn’t paying a dime, they are paying for their tuxes and all wedding day costs, and they bought really nice shower gifts to send with their girlfriends. We will probably be doing $100 range gifts for them.


Post # 49
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

The two times I’ve been a bridesmaid I’ve recieved personalized gifts that were certainly less than $100 and I didn’t realize that could be unusual. One bride bought a jewelry box with my initials on it and a photograph of us on the front. It’s cute and I use it. The other gave me luggage tags and a matching passport holder. I definitely use those! 


A thoughtful, personalized gift is far better than a generic expensive one.


Post # 50
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think its much more important to get a thoughtful gift than an expensive one.  I am picking out individual gifts for each girl that I think will fit their personalities.  I am spending about $50 per Bridesmaid or Best Man

Post # 51
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I gave my two bridesmaids makeup palettes.

Post # 52
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think it depends on your budget and what you are asking of your girls. It’s also gifts to show you how much you appreciate them.

Not to mention, they have just dropped $150+ on dresses – and no matter how much you tell yourself, those dresses are not re-wearable. While I haven’t been in as many wedding as Katherine Heigl nor had to wear quite as hideous dresses, I have quite a few. Haven’t been able to rewear any of them. 

Most people don’t realize until they are in a wedding, being a Bridesmaid or Best Man costs about $1000 between all the expenses. So yes, I think “cheaping out” on the present or getting something impersonal or totally useless and impractical items is a little obnoxious and kind of ungrateful of the bride.

Post # 53
2119 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

im on a pretty tight budget and wish i could get them everything they deserve. but im getting them anchor earings.(forever 21) to wear for the wedding. and im making them a a brecelet with thick yellow leather and a larger anchor. (ebay)and a navy blue glitter nail polish.( forever 21) i have five bridesmaids. i want to get my Maid/Matron of Honor something else but not sure yet. her and i also talked about getting the girls shirts but we will see. it might be too much but always sounded like fun! i would love to get my Maid/Matron of Honor a flask and a garter to hold it lol

Post # 54
21 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I got each of mine one of those pretty decorative boxes from Michaels and I ordered custom tank tops with thier names on them. They were about $14 a shirt. I’ve started to get cute little things like roll up travel flats, jewled mirror, a bottle of moscato. Just stuff they like and would use. all in all its been under $75 per girl. I have 6 total.

Post # 55
2437 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had totes made with their names on them, they already have them.  I plan giving them a $5 gift card to starbucks (buying their morning wedding drink), and paying for them to get a mani.

Post # 56
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

I bought each Bridesmaid (and JR Bridesmaid) a necklace with their initial that cost me $25, and then I’m buying a little day-of bag that will have tylenol, nail polish, kleenex, and a few other things in it.


Total for each girl will be about $40.

Post # 57
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

So I was just going to pay for my girls hair and makeup but at my bridal shower my godmother gave me her charm bracelet (my mom had given it to her as her bridesmaid gift) and I loved it!  It was so sentimental and sweet and decided that I will wear it for my wedding day.  I decided to get the girls matching charm bracelets as well engraved with their initials and my wedding date on the back and now I’ll just pay for either their hair or makeup.. So should be a bit over a $100 but it’s worth it 🙂

Post # 58
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it really depends on the size of the bridal party, budget, how close you are & how much you expect or had help from your bms.

I’m having 2 BMS, I don’t expect much for them as we aren’t extremely close – but we are family, and they will have to travel to be at my wedding.

I’m purchasing them a name brand handbag, stuffing it will all kinds of things to suit their personalities.. makeup, gift cards, jewelry, maybe even some candies and snacks.

I’m also presenting them matching bracelets & rings that all 3 of us will have, but don’t have to wear to the wedding.

Also providing simple heart necklaces & earrings for the wedding.

I’m hoping to purchase their dresses as well, but not quite sure if I can fit it into the budget, sure going to try though.

Post # 59
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I haven’t bought anything for my BMs yet, but I will certainly take into consideration all the money they’ve spent to be in my wedding when I think about how much to spend to thank them for their time and money.  Maybe if you don’t want to do extravagant gifts, you can just pay for something?  Like their dress?  I would love for someone to actually pay for the attire I’m wearing to their wedding or to get my hair and makeup done or something.  It’s friggin expensive to be in someone’s wedding and I would hope there was a thank you.  Now, it’s not about the amount that was spent, it’s about the thought involved.  So if my friend spent $5 but it was really thoughtful and totally something I wanted, I’d be happy – but just remember how much it costs to be in your wedding.  How much was the dress, alterations, hair, makeup, shoes, the shower gift, the time spent to go dress shopping with you, plan details of the wedding, any diy stuff you did, etc?  Just take that into consideration and do what you can afford!

Post # 60
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

I have 5 girls in my wedding party including my Maid/Matron of Honor.  So far I’ve got them each an awesome robe to get ready in.  I found a GREAT deal on them at Macy’s 60% off sale plus a 20% off coupon – so I got them each a robe for just under $17.  

I don’t know what else I plan to do for them for the wedding.  I am considering doing a spa day the day before and paying for that?  I don’t know if those 2 things together are enough.

I also want to do a little extra for my Maid/Matron of Honor because she’s been SO awesome, but I have to figure out what.


I am also getting them gifts for throwing the shower.  My shower is in June and we are going to a wine tour in August, so I am thinking of getting them each a painted wine glass maybe. 

Post # 61
1756 posts
Buzzing bee

I plan on just “gifting” my girls their wedding day jewelry and a clutch to carry instead of flowers.

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