Did anyone not have a bridal shower and bachelorette party?

posted 10 months ago in Parties
Post # 16
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I opted out of all pre-wedding activities.  They just weren’t a priority for us and we wanted to keep things as simple and stress-free as possible.  Even still, planning a wedding had its moments.  Lol

Post # 17
186 posts
Blushing bee

kygirl242 :  I’m skipping both of these. We’re also not having a gift registry. Half of our guests have to travel from other states/countries so we’re making it clear that their presence is gift enough for us. We’re older and have already accumulated all the “things” we need. I really feel that a wedding shower is for people who have never lived on their own and probably need certain things to get them started in their life as a couple together. I’ve never really understood the purpose of a bachelorette party.

Post # 18
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I went out for dinner and a drink with a few friends, but I wouldn’t really call it a bachelorette….  It was fun, laid back, and more ‘me’.  I’m not one to love the center of attention.  I did have a small shower though with about 12 ladies.  It was fun because I don’t see my older relatives all that often, and I got to talk to them a bit more than at just the wedding.

Post # 20
272 posts
Helper bee

I don’t have a bridal party (or a lot of close friends) so I likely won’t be having a bachelorette party, which is fine by me. 

I’m italian, and usually bridal showers are these big grand events where I live (at a hall with open bar, full on decor (linens, charger plates, etc.), flowers, lots of games, etc.). I said from day one that I absolutely did not want this. My mom is hosting a “ladies lunch” for me instead. We’ll be taking my closest family and friends to a winery for a day to have lunch and do a wine tour. maybe you could do something small like that IF it’s something you do want (and you just don’t think you deserve it). I definitely don’t think it’s bad to opt out of a bachelorette and/or shower though if you don’t want them!  

Post # 21
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We are having a co-ed bridal shower but we aren’t having a bachelor or bachelorette party.

Post # 22
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We had a private ceremony and are throwing a few smaller receptions. We have skipped most traditions, and didn’t have a bridal shower or hen’s do. My girlfriends wanted to do something, so they organised a post ceremony get together to celebrate our recent marriage. It was girls only, we went out, but was it was very low key and not a hen’s do. Do (or don’t do) what feels best for you!

Post # 23
1579 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

kygirl242 :  I’m in my late twenties and skipped both as well (also no engagement party). I didn’t have a bridal party and overall wanted to keep the pre-wedding fuss to a minimum. It all worked out fine for me, and everyone still had a lot of fun at our wedding.

Post # 24
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We’re skipping all pre-wedding events. We just aren’t interested in them.

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