(Closed) Did anyone NOT have a guest book?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had a guest book, and honestly, it is kind of a waste. We looked at it yesterday for the first time and we were like “this is it?!?!?” We also had a picture for people to sign bc my Mother-In-Law made it and so we figured might as well. It is cute and all, but I will probably never hang it up bc it is just not really my style. I hope this helps. 

Edit: I don’t think I really answered your post….since you are doing the video messages I would skip a guest book. No one will notice or care. A guest book IMO is a waste. It is literally a book with a couple pages of signatures. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am going to have a cut out of our monogram either on really heavy weight paper, or just on normal cardstock mounted on wood. I am not into these display items either. We will probably mount ours on a coat rack or something ridiculous like that.

Anyway, the point is, no I don’t want to lug out a book to see people’s poorly written names and addresses. I know who is coming and should have pictures that will mean a lot more than a book. Plus, how many times have you seen your mom’s wedding guest book? Never! Seen the dress, the pictures, the freaking cake cutter… but no guest book. To me that answers your question as to whether married bees think it is necessary. 

Also, can I offer my opinion on something? Ok, I will anyway. Please don’t have your videographer go to all the tables (have them off to the side with a background screen and let people know that messages are being recorded at “x”). Or if they do, have them (or the MC) let everyone know first that they will be coming around for a table-wide/coordinated message. Individual ones suck. I always feel put on the spot and awkward (and I am normally not a shy person). Even if it is just for a few seconds, do you really want to do that to the guests? It totally ruins all the good parts of the wedding for me and all I ever remember is the stupid message. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We didn’t have one, we had cards from everyone I’ve stuck into a pretty photo album.  The guestbook thing reminds me too much of those guestbooks you sign at funerals so we by passed that whole thing.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think we are going to have one at all. No need. I know we’ll never go back and look through it.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We didn’t have one, and I have never regretted it. To be totally honest, I kind of dread signing guest books at weddings because I feel pressure to say something profound. I’d rather get my thoughts out in a card, when I can think it over and am not also trying to socialize.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I had one, honestly, it ended up in the garbage after time. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We aren’t planning on having one. I honestly don’t think I would ever look at it again after the one time post-wedding. People give cards with their well wishes and we will have the photos, I don’t think the guest book is necessary. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not doing one.  No offense to anyone who is, but I think the whole thing is kinda pointless.  When we were throwing around the idea of having one, I asked my mom how many times she’s actually looked at hers since marrying my dad nearly 30 years ago and she said she’d only pulled it out like 3 or 4 times…to me that’s pointless!  We’re just having people sign a large matte around one of our engagement pics and I plan to hang it somewhere in our house so that we will actually see the sweet things that people had to say to us on our wedding day. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was also thinking about the guest book and realised that it’s a waste of money. How often will you be going through it to see ? I mean with photos and all… no one really looks back at their guest book i don’t think.

So instead we will have rocks and people can sign them, then they will be kept in a decorative clear vase and be part of our home decor. I thought it’s a new fun way of having a rock solid marriage LOL

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We won’t be having one. I don’t see the point in a “traditional” guest book, as all of the ones I’ve seen you write your name and your address…but if you got an invitation, the couple should have your address, so…what’s the point? I’m a fan of non traditional ones, like something the couple can hang in their home. I think we’re going to do question cards on each table.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re having a photobooth, so part of the included service is that they cut the strips in half, put them in a book, and people can sign next to them if they want. I like that idea.

IF we weren’t having the photobooth, I would definitely not have a guest book.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@stillme:+1! I’m so bad at coming up with something good at the spot. I always panic and end up putting down nothing more than my name.

 

Personally, I love guest books in lighthouses and mountain cabins – but that’s pretty much it. To have a wedding one feels like adding another item to our house that’ll collect dust. However, Fiance thought we should have one… So, we compromised and decided that we’ll have a “wine box”. The idea is that we’ll leave a bunch of small notes by a nice wood wine box, people write whatever they want on the notes and put them in the box. We’ll add our favourite bottle of bubbly and seal it all for our 1-year anniversary, when we’ll have the wine and read the notes.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I saw a practical idea of having a rolodex and having guests sign their contact info, and maybe wishes on the back of their card. Very functional, and you may actually use it!

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