Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Does anyone read A Practical Wedding? It’s one of my favorite wedding blogs.
Anyway, she had a post last month about not loving your wedding and I’m wondering if any of the newlywed bees out there didn’t love theirs, and why? And what would you do differently if you could?
Post # 3
Oh gosh, I hope I love my wedding. But I’ll be honest, I’d rather be a guest at my wedding than the bride! It’ll be a great party, but I do NOT want to be the center of attention or wear my wedding gown…or walk down the aisle.
Post # 4
Great question Dana!!!!!!! I’m also wondering.. . . .
Post # 6
Well, while I had fun and everything went semi-well, I did not love my wedding. It was kind of a hot mess. I forgot like everything in Chicago (we go married in Ohio). Then forgot to bring important stuff to the church, like the marriage license and the programs. Also our DJ bailed on us an hour before the ceremony. My sister and father both got injured at the reception and my brother and sister-in-law were unable to attend. Also because of the DJ issue, we didn’t get as many pictures as we would have liked and we got 0 pictures with grandparents. There are a lot of things I would like to do-over again for my wedding if I could. Basically, I was way, way, way less organized than I should have been. Mostly because during our 5 month engagement we moved, started new jobs, got a cat, got a fish tank, and bought a house. I did enjoy my wedding, and I did have fun despite these things, but I didn’t love it.
Post # 7
I loved my wedding and had such an amazing time. But I think I owe that to the very important advice I got from many other friends, which was to delegate and let go of the wedding planning on the big day and just simply enjoy being the bride!
Post # 8
I didn’t love my wedding. My husband did, and I love that he did, but my mom made my wedding absolute hell. She was everything I was fearing on our big day. She kept me so stressed all day and I just couldn’t relax…so, I did not love my wedding.
I tell my husband to this day that while I loved marrying him, the happiest day of my life was when he proposed to me.
Post # 9
LOVED my wedding. There is absolutely nothing I would change. I must say, we had un-traditional plans with the very simple Destination Wedding. Our parents protested a bit, but we did not budge on anything at all (unless for very important serious reasons). So the wedding was US and everything went perfectly – there’s no way not to love it. 🙂
Post # 10
I liked my wedding but I didn’t LOVE it. There were some things I would do different in hindsight but I don’t worry too much about it now that its over.
The only part that really bothers me is that I was really disappointed in our photos. Our photographer made such a big point that we wouldn’t even notice him. Well I think that was a little too true. He obviously wasn’t getting great shots and he never said anything. We didn’t end up with even one single photo of my husband and I that I would want to frame.
We are talking about doing an anniversary shoot in our wedding clothes so that makes me happy tho.
Post # 11
Yeah, I’m the same as derby, I liked my wedding, but didn’t love it. I love the fact that I married my husband, and the ceremony itself was perfect, but there were a couple really bad things that happened that cast a shadow over the day.
Post # 12
If I could do it over again I’d pay the $2k for a DOC. I was SO stressed out (so was my DH) the whole day. A lot of details never came to fruition because I was the one setting them up. My Darling Husband and I were the last ones at the venue and had to clean up (sucky). And there were a lot of other mess ups. I liked it, but I didn’t love it. Stressful. Seriously.
Post # 13
I truly loved our wedding, but I was able to enjoy it so because of a few things:
1. The majority of my family came into town early and helped out as much as they could beforehand. This allowed me much more time than I would have had as they all pretty much decorated the entire site themselves. All I did was lay a few things out for them and they just got it done. It was nice seeing about 20 of my family members work together like they did.
2. My aunt was my DOC and was a bulldog. She called the shots and everyone listened. She made my timeline, checked and double-checked with vendors, and made sure everyone knew exactly what they were supposed to be doing and when.
3. We lucked out with the weather. It was a seriously amazing day. You know the kind where you walk outside and it just feels amazing (which is asking a lot in Florida).
4. My vendors were awesome! I really loved each of my vendors (my rentals had some issues but it worked out). They all seemed to care a lot about our day and making it special.
5. We were married at a place that holds a special place in me and my husband’s heart, and that you just can’t fake!
6. I had planned and re-planned about a thousand times exactly how everything would play out, and anything that might come up on that day. I had a plan B, C, and D. I’m anal, though, and am a believer that you can’t be too prepared.
7. While I am anal, I really took it to heart to just relax and enjoy our day (and the days leading up to the wedding). I just went with the flow and tried to find a sense of peace in knowing I would be marrying the most important person in my life. The day most likely won’t be perfect, but building it up too big in your head can really cause you unnecessary stress. Don’t become your own worst enemy by convincing yourself nothing will go wrong. Just make a choice that when it does, everything will work out just fine.
Post # 14
I liked our wedding, but I didn’t love it, for various reasons.
I’m finding though that as time goes on, it bothers me less and less. Things that I felt like crying over in the weeks and months right after the wedding have already started to fade away and lose their sting. The wedding really is just a day, and time and a more distant perspective away from the bubble are really helping me to understand that.
Post # 15
I didn’t love it. I hate to admit it, and wouldn’t tell my husband, but it was not amazing. Too many small things happened, and big too. There were so many headaches and our DOC needed her hand held over some parts, so while I enjoyed it….it could have been a lot better….
Post # 16
I enjoyed my wedding, and I was a very happy bride, but I didn’t love my wedding. There was a lot of family drama that happened; I’m mostly over it now, but it has taken me a while to let go of those hurt feelings. What I really loved was marrying my husband. 🙂 That was the most incredible part of the entire day, and I wouldn’t change that for anything.
If I had to do it over, I would convince my husband to take off a whole month from work and just go elope. The honeymoon was awesome, and I would totally do that part again, too!