Post # 31
DH had my e-ring for a WEEK before he proposed. We lived together, and I didn’t even know he’d bought one! I had no say in the ring, because I had NO CLUE I was getting engaged! But my ring is perfect, and EXACTLY what I would have picked for myself – 1/3 carat round brilliant in a tension setting. That’s right, no prongs! If my ring had a prong setting, I just know I’d have lost the diamond by now. I’m such a klutz.
@texasmeredith – I agree, I think getting engaged should be a surprise! 🙂
Post # 32
I had nothing to do with mine! I had been pretty vocal about wanting to get engaged, but although I occasionally looked online, had NO idea in what I wanted in a ring. But mine is absolutely perfect! If you had sat me down with about 20 other rings, this is definitely the one I would want to wear on my hand forever. Its simple, but he even tweaked the design with the jeweler to make it more me. Everyone I showed it to when we first got engaged just commented how it was like me…only in ring form! He did a great job and I’m SO glad that it was a complete surprise. I know picking it out works for other people, but I love surprises and my Fiance has my taste down to a tee.
Post # 33
Mine was a complete surprise. No input whatsoever, not even my ring size. He did it all. I love it completely and was/am blown away that he did it without me – seriously impressed and deeply touched would be the top of my list of emotions about it.
I found it interesting that my parents actually went shopping together and picked out my mom’s engagement ring, back in 1971 when they got engaged. I thought that was more of a modern thing. My mom was surprised when I told her that it’s more traditional for the ring to be a surprise. News to her!
Of the four couples I know who got engaged in the last six months or so, one went ring shopping together, the other three did the surprise thing.
Your Fiance has got to start listening to you on this one. You said you’ve brought it up before, but let him know you’re serious: it’s hurtful that he doesn’t believe you when you tell him you love the ring. It may be just a little thing in the big picture of a marriage, but he has to learn how important it is to trust you when you tell him how you feel.
Post # 34
@kaybee – Thats so cute that he took another ring of yours with him to get the size! He had SIL ask me one night what ring size I was because we were gonna go to a bridal show with a friend and I wanted to pretend I was engaged and get free stuff 🙂 Turns out she forgot the size because she was drinking when she asked me!!
DH talked to both his brothers that are married about the ring, bought a book and learned all about it and made sure he got what was best. He did it perfectly!
@littlestbirds – I think he really does know and believe that I am serious but lets his head get the best of him, which I do all the time. I KNOW something but then I overthink it and then get all jumbled up. Maybe he just needs reassurance?
Post # 35
Well we didn’t go ring shopping together, but Fiance knew I wanted a solitaire with a yellow gold band. In terms of the shape of the diamond, I had originally liked the asscher cut, but i didn’t say I needed a certain cut. I did give some suggestions on the color, quality of the cut and carat though…
He did pick it out and have it mounted by himself.
Post # 36
this is going to sound bad but my e-ring is a hand me down.
i dont care he worked hard for it and it meant a lot to him i really dont care i got to pick the bands
Post # 37
My instructions to my fiance were, “platinum band”. Everything else was 100% up to him. And I love my ring. When I told one of my bridesmaids that I’d gotten engaged, her first words were, “Congratulations! Do you like the ring?” And I totally agree with her point of view: My fiance took the time to pick a ring that he thought I would love, but not necessarily one that he adores. A friend of mine has an e-ring that’s radically different from mine, and I don’t like hers at all. And I suspect that she doesn’t really like mine. But we each love the ring we have – our men chose perfectly.
Post # 38
I didn’t pick mine out either…Fiance did it all by himself!
Post # 39
He sent me lots of pictures to see what I liked, but I told him I wanted him to pick something out himself. My only specification is that I wanted a ruby. He got something custom and vintage-style, and I’ve never seen anything like it! Love it so much more because it was his design for me. 🙂
Post # 40
The mister and I discussed what I liked for a long time, but I didn’t know he was shopping or planning anything. And I was gifted the most beautiful version of what we had discussed. I didn’t pick it out, but he knew what I liked.
Post # 41
I had no say. In fact, truth be told my ring is probably as far from what I thought I wanted as I think you can get. I wanted a simple princess cut tension set ring. He picked out a round cut halo setting. I absolutly love my ring and couldn’t imagine having anything different.
Post # 42
We picked out my setting together but he 100% picked out the diamond all by himself to put in the setting.
Post # 43
I did NOT pick out my ring. His proposal was a complete surprise (though I suspected it was coming). I could not have picked out a better ring for myself 🙂
I’m negotiating on the wedding band right now. I really want a matching eternity band. Fingers crossed!
Post # 44
My Fiance picked out my ring himself as well (actually he designed it too)…he did a good job! I had envisioned a round stone and he went with a modified cushion. When I see other people’s round stones I wonder about it sometimes, but in the end I think he knows me better than I know myself…my ring is lovely.
Post # 46
going through the “ring” i was starting to think the same thing!!! that and rings no longer come in a size below a ct!
but yes im a fellow non picker! i tried to give my guy a few guidelines if and when the day came. told him white gold, NO princess or heart shaped…round marquise,oval, or pear were all options…solitare…no invisible settings or settings that try to make your ring look like it has a ct when it has a speck, nothing over the top and big( i like dainty) and only if it was in his price range! i even showed him an example at walmart of a 1/5 ct marquise that was perfect!
but then i went on vacation with my dad to visit my grandma for 2 weeks. we didnt really talk all that much or getting engaged at a specific date or anything but when i came home he surprised me at the airport! its a silver band with 5 rounds….totally not what i expected!!! but…..I LOVE IT!! he wanted to get silver cause he sees it as a pure metal…they use silver in artifacts in the church in history cause gold was a prideful metal and wasent humble. so that really meant a lot and im so glad its a band and not solitare….i think i would bang a solitare too much and risk the stone being damaged or lost.
so he did great and it so different and looks great now to find a clauddah ring that i can wear with it cause he wants them for our bands :D. having gap trouble or the bands i find are wide…thinking of posting on this so i can get ideas 😀