Post # 48
I didn’t pick out my e-ring. I kinda hinted around certain rings, like that I liked color and diamonds set with sapphires. And he choose a beautiful round solitaire flanked with pear shaped yellow diamonds. I’m not sure if I would have picked it out myself but I love it and can’t imagine having another ring. I always describe the ring as nothing like I would have imagined, but also everything I’ve ever loved.
Post # 49
I didn’t pick out my ring. We had looked at some together and it incorporated some things generally that he knew i liked. BUT the one he ultimately bought was still very different from the others we’d looked at and it was not something I picked out.
He just needs to trust that you like it and feel comfortable with his decision. It seems like this is mostly insecurity on his part based on what he is hearing from his friends.
Post # 50
I didn’t help my Fiance pick out my ring either. No, it’s not exactly I would have picked myself, but that doesn’t matter because I still love it! One of my favorite memories from the “post-proposal glow” was him telling me how he went into the store with one of my other rings (for sizing, like a previous poster mentioned) and spent 3-4 hours there picking something out. To me, that makes it 100 times better than anything I could have helped him pick out. I absolutely love imagining him in the store carefully selecting the ring I’ll wear for the rest of my life.
You may have tried this, but could you mention that to him? That the effort he went through to pick out your ring by himself means more than the ability to choose your own? I don’t know if that’ll help…but that sort of gives him the pride of “I did it myself” rather than other guys who had assistance, which I know my Fiance enjoys. Hope that helps at least a little. 🙂
Post # 51
I didn’t even know my Fiance was THINKING about proposing, so I had absolutely no say in the whole process, which is exactly the way I wanted it to be! Also, I knew if he ever DID propose it’d be all on him… A long time ago when we first started dating, we were watching something on TV where this couple was going ring shopping together. Fiance got all annoyed and was like, “I think if I’m to the point where I’m going to ask someone to marry me, I should know what her taste is, and be able to pick something out that she’d like!” Which I whole-heartedly agreed with!
My Fiance did an AWESOME job, and my ring is more than I ever imagined myself EVER getting! He’s wonderful, that guy! 🙂