(Closed) Did anyone NOT use a Rabbi?

posted 6 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m Jewish and Fiance is Christian. I didn’t want two officiants that we wouldn’t know, so a friend will be doing it. We will incorporate a couple of traditions, though. Not sure what you should do, sorry!

Post # 5
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Be very careful to check state law if you’re considering having a friend officate!  In many states, using a friend ordained online can invalidate the marriage.  And you won’t necessarily know that the marriage is invalidated until and unless it is tested in court–e.g., on death, divorce, or bankruptcy–at which point it will be too late to fix the issue.

Interfaith Family can refer you to a rabbi or cantor who will marry an interfaith couple.  Or you could look at a secular officiant who was willing to incorporate some Jewish customs.

Post # 7
1095 posts
Bumble bee

You could probably go see a reform rabbi, they usually support and officiate interfaith couples. Im not 100% sure about the “earlier Saturday wedding” though. A cantor can also marry you.

Post # 8
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We used a cantor for our wedding. My husband is not Jewish but was 100% okay with us having a Jewish Wedding. Our cantor was not affiliated with a specific temple – she actually tutors kids in her home and at their summer camps to prepare them for their bar/bat mitzvahs. It was a perfect match!

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