(Closed) Did anyone RSVP no that you thought would be a sure yes?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We had a few people (distant friends) that were surprised to see. We also had one cousin that we really didn’t WANT to invite, RSVP’d no and showed up anyway. Can’t win haha!

Post # 4
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@excitedtobeMRSF:  We had really good friends who had another wedding on the same day (in Texas, ours in Boston). They were really bummed to miss it and we thought they’d be a sure thing!


Post # 5
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

One of my best friends has already told me she can’t make it.   She’s not in the bridal party so we are ok there.  She has a big test for work that only happens once a year and it just happens to fall on our wedding day and is 8 hours from here 🙁

Post # 6
2352 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had lots of verbal yesses and then all those ppl never sent their RSVP card back so they didn’t get a seat reserved. Since its in the Caribbean, I’m fairly certain they won’t show unannounced. Every single person we thought would go did not and those that we counted out were the ones who accepted early on. 

Post # 7
4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@excitedtobeMRSF:  LOTS of DH’s friends couldn’t make it due to work and one couldn’t because there first baby was due in a few weeks, that was a bummer.  Then I had very close family friends turn down our invitation.  We invited 125 and ended up with 100.

Secretly, every time we got a “no” in the mail I refigured our budget and did a little dance of JOY!

Post # 8
11239 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had a friend who comes to every single event RSVP no. We actually had to drag it out of him after our RSVP due date and he responded, “You guys know that I go to Burning Man every year that weekend!” No, no we don’t.

Post # 9
9556 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Absolutely. Only a couple people that we really thought would come RSVPd “no”. But I had a cousin who planned on coming for a year and then had an emergency right before the wedding and had to cancel. And another couple couldn’t come because she threw out her back the day before the wedding. And that’s not counting the 6 people who RSVPd yes and then no-showed and I never heard from…

Post # 10
678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yep, my own brother just RSVP’s “no” for our DW reception back home. But since he’ll come to the DW itself I can forgive him!

We’ve had mostly positive surprises- people that we thought wouldn’t show up. And the ones we thought were a sure bet we haven’t heard from yet!! We’ll see how the final count plays out.

Post # 11
9256 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

A few family members couldn’t make it due to health problems that cropped up at the last minute.  Besides that, we were lucky.  ALL ~150 or so of our close friends and family, who are scattered all over the country, all came to the middle of nowhere Wyoming for us 🙂

Post # 13
9556 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

My first instinct was to be ticked, but that doesn’t really gain me anything and leaves me feeling crummy, so I just didn’t let it bother me. We had padded the numbers a bit with the buffet caterers so we didn’t overpay by too much.

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