Did anyone set their date in their head before having a SO?

posted 10 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ha well funny story. My husband and I are friends from high school. We used to joke if we got to 30 & weren’t married that we’d marry each other. 

Little did we realise is that we would fall in love. Got married aged 32 😂😀

Post # 3
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Helper bee

When i was very young, younger than 12 i said i thought i should get engaged at 26, married at 28 and 1st child at 30. I liked nice even numbers. I totally forgot all about saying that as years went by…but after getting engaged at 26 and married at 28 i was jokingly reminded of it by a very close family member. I was also on track to have 1st child at 30 until i suffered a miscarriage.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I know when I was 4 or 5 I thought that once you hit 25 you were married. You just were. Never mind finding a spouse, one would just happen upon you.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA

I hoped I’d be married by 25. I’m glad my past relationships didn’t work out because I feel like I’ve changed a lot since then and my fiance is a million times better than my exes. I’ll be 33 when I get married next year.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

When I was 19 I wanted to be married by 23 and have my first baby by 24… Turning 26 in 2 weeks and we’re getting married in April and still waiting on him to decide when he’s ready for kids lol. 

Oh to be young and naive lol

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I’m just the opposite. I never figured I’d get married, and kids? Forgetaboutit. NEVER. Then I met my Dh, and I knew that being with him meant having children. Things have worked out pretty well, considering. Still and all, there’s nothing wrong with being single at 30+. Sometimes life has its own plans.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

Yup! I always intended a holloween wedding! 

Spoiler! Didn’t happen lol. Got married in July instead lol.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think I always imagined having an outdoor summer wedding, which we did end up having. But to be honest I think I got married younger than I would have expected at 24. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I don’t remember what I anticipated as a little kid, but I’m sure it meant two kids before 30 since that was “soooo old!” I still want one before 30, but feel in no rush.

When I started dating in high school, I told my boyfriend I wanted to be married by 25, especially since we started dating at 17. We ended up legally married at 21, but having our big wedding at 23, so things went quicker than anticipated. Not gonna complain about that though!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

chelbell23 :  

Me too. I didn’t  particularly want to or  not want to, I figured you just  were…

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I wanted to be married at 25. Instead, I eloped at 19 and divorced at 26. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Nope, can’t say I did. Honestly, I think it is a bit weird to have a “plan” or a timeline for something over which you literally have NO control.

“I want to graduate with __ degree by __” makes sense. It is a thing you can concievablyplan out and accomplish. 

“I want to get married by __” makes no sense because either your plan is banking on you magically meeting the right person at the allotted time, or you’re setting yourself up to settle for whoever you happen to be dating around that time. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

catqueen92 :  At our 7 year anniversary with my (then) boyfriend, I totally looked ahead in the calender and picked out wedding date. I even scheduled it in the calender and everything! I thought it was perfect ebcase the date I selected was also an 18 (same as our current anniversary) but in August the year of our 10 year anniversary! I thought; HOW PERFECT!

However, things didnt go according to my non-sensical and non-realistic plan and he didn’t propose until that year! There was no way I was planning a wedding in 6 months so we set the real date for exactly 1 year later! 

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