Post # 1
Let me preface this by saying, that this may turn into a minor rant.
I have been trying to find “the perfect venue” since October and failing miserably. Places that i trully love and can see myself getting married in are WAY out of my budget or so far away that it may as well be a Destination Wedding (which we can’t do). Places that are in our budget, I really don’t like – they’re not right for what I envision our wedding to be and they just don’t make me happy. We’re starting to approach the 1 year mark for when we want to get married and we really need to pick a venue, but I don’t like anything!
I’ve been reading all of these posts from people who say, they walked into the venue and they “just knew” that it was perfect and everyone on here seems so pleased with their venue.
Please tell me I’m not the only one who will have to settle on a venue and will not be completely in love with it! Do any of you bees flat out dislike your venue?
Post # 3
I settled, and am not happy with it.. but it will have to do if I really do want to get married.
Post # 4
I’m afraid I am going to be you when it gets to be that time… So, I’m not there yet, but I’m guessing I’m going to be. I feel like such a brat, but I see some venues and I want to say “I’d rather elope than get married/celebrate there.” I’d rather have perfect memories of a small event than poor memories of a larger event (I have a big family) at a place I don’t like, with pictures I don’t want to see. Its the wrong attitude for me to take, I know, but I feel like it whenever I try again to search for venues. I’m hoping I’ll get over it, but I completely feel where you are coming from.
Post # 5
I somewhat settled. I wanted a South Beach Miami Modern feel… except… I am getting married in Colorado lol. It was a huge challenge.. and nothing really was perfect. But we got as close as possible and I am happy with the end result.
Post # 6
Sure did. But, that’s what happens when you only have 8 months to plan for a June wedding in a small town. I don’t *hate* my venue, but it’s not perfect.
Post # 7
I am getting married at the Columbus Zoo, and although I like the uniqueness, I wanted something more rustic/natural…but the zoo was the most cost-effective and it was the best option since it was more unique than just a country club, etc.
It’s all in how you decorate the facility, really. You can personalize it and make it your own through the mood you set!
Post # 8
I wanted to get married at a restaurant that has a great rustic/outdoors-y feel. I have been set on it for almost 6 months. When we went there for dinner, we were so disappointed with the food (I already read horrible reviews for the food and was hoping the reviewers were just picky…but no. THey were right, it was horrible).
My Fiance and I settled on a country club that has AMAZING food (and ended up being cheaper). It does not have the relaxed vibe I am really going for, so I changed my color palete to create a casual vibe (gray, coral, peach, ivory). It is not your traditional country club, it is kinda modern and has a beautiful landscape and bar.
So yeah, I guess we setled, but I just think that sometimes you can’t have it all, ya know?
Post # 9
I feel you especially since we’re both from New Jersey. I’ve been engaged since May and everything we’ve seen in our budget or just above seems like we need to settle. I don’t have a dream place but I thought we would be able to find something nicer than what we’ve been seeing. I know we’re going to have to settle at some point so I’m starting to put my efforts toward making other elements awesome like a great DJ. Yes, people might notice that it’s not a great venue but hopefully they will be having too much fun to care once they’re inside.
Post # 10
I’m not sure if I would say I settled or I’m being reasonable. Our reception is going to be in a bare bones community type hall…for FREE. So…no brainer to me. It’s not ugly, just plain but I plan to jazz it up with lots of DIY projects and soft lighting. We are having 200 people, and it’s just the most reasonable way to go. Some of the best weddings I have been too were not in the most amazing hall. It’s all about creating the feeling of warmth, love, and intamacy. Having food and drink for your guests, and enjoying the day.
Post # 11
I had to settle a bit. The outside is beautiful and the inside is kind “eh”. It’s going to work just fine and it’s a phenomenal deal, but admittedly it’s not as aethetically perfect as I’d like. I’m ok with it! It’s about the marriage, not how perfect the reception looked. We also have an amazing photographer who knows how to maximize the beauty and minimize the flaws. To us, great photos were more important than a perfect venue.
Post # 12
We settled based on price. I never had a dream venue so that was not an issue. I will say that I was able to have what I had dreamed of… all that main people in my life were there. In the end that was all that mattered.
Post # 13
We settled, I had 3 amazing venues picked, all 3 booked before I was bale to physically get there to see them (semi destination). I was SO disappointed. We considered changing our date to accomodate, but I found a hall, that willwork, with a lot of DIY/decor projects!
But I am still a bit sad I don’t get the amazing venue I wanted 🙁
Post # 14
I’m madly in love with my venue and I don’t think brides should have to settle. Pick 3-5 things your venue must have, then 3-5 things you wish your venue had, and lastly 3-5 things you DON’T want. Visit each venue with an open mind and don’t look at any venues outside of your budget. I also recommend expanding your search. There are many different types of venues, some of which have similar feels. For example, if you wanted a manor home, try a country club. You get the same feel without the cost and unavailibility of dates. Looking for a ballroom? Try your Parks & Rec centers. Many of them have banquet halls at a fraction of the price of private ballrooms. Looking for a hotel wedding? Try to trim your wedding size and check out boutique, nonchain hotels.
Post # 15
Yes, I settled. My venue is absolutely beautiful and there really isn’t anything about it I don’t like–huge ballroom with high ceilings and double staircases, beautiful grounds, separate and large space for cocktail hour BUT it wasn’t my first choice. Fiance and I have always dreamed of having a small wedding. Neither of us like to be the centers of attention so we were considering a reception for 100-120 people max. We fell in love with a smaller, water side venue. When we started talking to our families, we realized that having a small wedding was out of the question–FI is extremely close to his very large extended family and since his parents are contributing to the wedding financially, we had to settle for the venue that could easily accomodate 200+ people. *sigh*
Post # 16
I really like my venue but it wasn’t completely what I wanted. All-in-all, I picked a venue that included food/cake, etc. versus the venue that I really loved that may have been a bit too small and would require us to do everythingon our own…in the end, cost effectiveness made a big difference…