(Closed) Did anyone show up to your wedding without RSVPing?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did anyone show up to your wedding without RSVPing?
    Yes - 1-2 people : (7 votes)
    15 %
    Yes - 3+ : (10 votes)
    22 %
    No : (29 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @cindeeeh:  Well I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I’ll tell you after this weekend! FWIW, I called and made sure I got at least verbal responses from everyone I sent an invite to. 

    Post # 4
    2437 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @cindeeeh:  No, but i did have guests not respond who assumed I knew they were coming. I only knew bc i tracked them down after not receiving their response card.

    Post # 5
    2757 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2007

    @cindeeeh:  Yes, I had people come without sending an RSVP, I can’t remember how many it was exactly but more than 5. I spent the entire photo session in between ceremony and reception stressing and on the phone with the caterer.  Not cool!

    Post # 6
    4522 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @mrsmay07:  That is *beyond* shitty. I cannot wrap my mind around some peoples entitlment issues. I’m really sorry that happened to you!

    Post # 8
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @mrsmay07:  That’s awful! I agree with @cindeeeh… no chairs or dinner for such rude people! You are way nicer than us hehe. 🙂

    Post # 9
    1470 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I voted no, although going through the photobooth photos, there was a random girl in the pictures with family friends. She wasn’t there for dinner (I stopped by their table), but may have showed up later. A little random, but not really a problem. I’ve never asked them who she was… But I didn’t have to pay for her or anything, so no skin off my back!

    Post # 10
    3181 posts
    Sugar bee

    @cindeeeh:  My situation was a bit strange. I sent formal invitations and then my Mother-In-Law issued informal verbal invitations. We had agreed on a family only wedding because she wanted to have one and she offered to pay and plan it but I made it clear that it should only be family only so we wouldn’t have to worry about inviting or not inviting friends. I knew that the nine other people would show up who were neighbors (or as she says, family of the heart – there was a big disagreement over it where I almost called off the wedding). One of the neighbor’s son (who is DH’s childhood friend and around our age) invited his girlfriend too (I knew he would!).

    So officially I guess we had 10 people come without an RSVP but of those I knew who were going to come anyway, we had one extra. Oh well…

    ETA: These people couldn’t hide because we only had a total of 43 guest including the 10 extra.


    Post # 11
    188 posts
    Blushing bee

    I did not, but when working at wedding events I have seen it first hand. Being way over count and running out of food. I had people who RSVPed they were coming and did not show up- only like 1 or 2 people. That is why I felt it was important to do a seating chart (even for my small 80 person wedding) for the reception…Opps you don’t have a seat because you did NOT RSVP. 

    Post # 13
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes I had 2 people that I didn’t include that came with someone I invited.. Luckily I had 2 no shows so they took their place.

    Post # 14
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i hope not i have about 30 people not accounted for. So we are thinking of allowing other family to attend. Bad idea? Also REALLY weird we have an rsvp from a man we dont know! Its from a batch my mom now says she misplaced the rsvps were numbered and do not add up to the family no one knows who he is! What should i do?

    Post # 15
    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Elizabeth_A:  you definitely need to call/email/smoke signals contact anyone whose RSVP card you have not received. Please, please don’t just assume they aren’t coming, or you could end up in quite a jam on your wedding day!

    Post # 16
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @iarebridezilla:  we have done all we can to try and contact them with no reply at yhis point ill have three empty tables

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