Post # 16
I would be too worried that we would have trouble TTC. It took me awhile to decide to buy a onesie to announce a future BFP to Darling Husband, I couldn’t imagine buying more.
We will be painting our guest bedroom/future nursery if we don’t get a BFP by the first of April, but we want to repaint it no matter what – and we’re just painting it a neutral light gray.
Post # 17
Yikes no way. I am 5.5 months right now and still have barely bought anything….
Post # 18
tessadub : Oh gosh I can’t even get on etsy lol.. that’d be bad news. It was so dangerous for me wedding planning. I bought so much extra crap I probably didn’t need.. I just see stuff at target or wherever I’m out and about 😂
And all other responses.. im definitely back and forth about it. I get the whole past the first trimester and heartbeat thing and all that.. but anything can happen at anytime. I know someone who lost their baby at 24 weeks, I know someone who announced it to the world (aka facebook) at 6 weeks and went full term perfectly. If anyone follow or knows who Jamie Otis (married at first sight) is.. she lost her baby last year at 17 weeks. So now she’s super excited about her rainbow baby and announced before 12 weeks because she wants support and love if (God forbid) something were to happen, as well as being able to be excited about this baby with everyone she loves. I just feel like whatever is supposed to happen is gonna happen, past first trimester or buying baby gear or not.
And I’m 100% to each their own!! Not knocking anyone who waits or doesn’t feel comfortable by any means! I’m grateful for everyone’s opinions and responses and im just expressing how I kind of feel but am not sure yet! 😂 and I also completely get not buying anything expensive! I’m much too frugal to do all that just yet! I just mean little things like a cute onesie (clearance racks are the best) or blanket or something!
Post # 19
I bought a diaper bag and some muslin blankets before we even started trying. My best friend also bought a ton of stuff – our babies are 2.5 weeks apart.
When I got my bfp I went wild and bought a lot of gender neautral items. We also announced at 9w that I was pregnant to friends and on social media.
Post # 20
No, I won’t again. Primarily because I don’t know how long it will take, and its hard to see baby stuff if something goes wrong. I do have a stroller/carseat that I bought because I couldn’t resist black Friday, and I had a mc a few weeks later. My husband moved it into a trailer behind our house because neither one of us wanted to see it. I may buy some small things one day that are easy to pack away in a closet and forget about until I need it. I personally wouldn’t want to have a whole room of baby stuff though. I’ll most likely wait until mid-second trimester next time. Just me though!
Post # 21
I bought my first baby item when I got to the third trimester. On the other hand, I know someone who has been collecting stuff for her future children for probably the last 10 years and she’s still single. Personally, I don’t like a lot of clutter and it was challenging to find places for all my baby stuff.
Post # 22
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zoey0317 : So I have a onesie I want to use to tell Darling Husband when I get my positive and a baby bag. I know I want to cloth diaper and since those can be kind of expensive, I thought about buying 1 per month with coupons and at the rate I’m going (10 months ttc with no luck) I should have a good stash by the time we finally conceive lol.
But really, some days are harder than others. I think I got the baby bag like 2 months into this journey and had I known it would take this long, I don’t think I would’ve gotten it. It was from my favorite designer and it was on a good sale though so I couldn’t resist. I just wish I could use it though and it wasn’t sitting in my closet reminding me daily that I am not pregnant
Post # 23
were on our 9th cycle and I have definitely bought stuff. Most of the stuff we have picked up while we were travelling, or they are things I ordered in preparation for a pregnancy announcement (to dh and family) which obviously hasnt happened yet. I think im up to a few pacificers (bought at a football game for dhs favourite team) 5-6 onesies, 2 pairs of moccasins, some books, and a tree ornament. With that being said we also refer to our spare room as the future nursery and just finished redoing it. I know some people are supersticious and would not do this, but im not.. and dont believe it will jinx us per sae. As for it making me sad… well i stumbled upon this social media post where this girl discussed her fertility journey, and explained how she had a baby hope chest where she allowed herself to purchase one baby thing a month, every time they were unsuccessful. She explained that this collection of baby items reminded her each time she felt sad that she WILL have a baby. Although it may take awhile… at the end of the road, she will have a baby and will be able to use the things her in hope chest. I really liked thta mindset and it has helped me too… I feel good when i purchase one thing here and there because its affirmation that I WILL have a baby… just not sure when 🙂
Post # 24
teacherbee01 : that’s how I feel. Buying things (so far just the 2 things I bought for Darling Husband to tell him when we get a bfp) kind of keeps me positive like I know it’s happening, just a matter of WHEN. I have bad anxiety and mild depression so honestly, I’m in such a rut most days about not being there yet that anything to reaffirm within myself that YES, it WILL happen might help. Maybe I should do something like that chest. One thing a month. Praying I dont see another bfp again, but that’s my plan if I do 🙂
And good luck and baby dust to any of the ladies who have commented and are still trying right along side me!
Post # 25
zoey0317 : Yes, I saw the bob revolution on clearance at target and purchased it. Come to find out I need IVF and wont be pregnant for another 6mo at the earliest, so I’ve stopped for now but yeah.. huge purchase. Lol
Post # 26
Excited To Bee : idk what that is. I’ll have to Google it! Lol.
I hope all goes well with the IVF and you get your baby as soon as you can! ♡ good luck!!!
I wanted to purchase a car seat because target cartwheel kept having the one I’d want for like 15% off, plus the 5% with the red card.. my friend promptly reminded me that car seats expire which I forgot lol. Squashed that idea.
Post # 27
Well I just bought a car seat last week. But that’s cause it was only $22 shipped. Pretty sure they screwed up the price on Walmart’s website cause the same car seat on amazon was I think around $150.
Post # 28
Sorry for the bummer story…I got a BFP unexpectedly in December and bought a onesie and matching toddler shirt for my nephew to announce with. Unfortunately I miscarrried before my items even shipped, and when they arrived a few weeks later it was just a reminder of sadness. We’re TTC again now, but I don’t think I’ll buy anything until I’ll a little farther along. I don’t think it’s jinxed, just even more disappointing if things don’t go as anticipated.
Post # 29
We’re 5+ months TTC with no BFP. My parents know we’re TTC and mom has been so excited working on baby quilts, etc. I don’t have the heart to tell her not to work on them, but it kills me every time she shows me her progress and mentions her grandchild when we are struggling to conceive. I won’t buy anything prior to getting a BFP and even then I’ll probably wait a good long while to purchase anything. To each her own, but I couldn’t take the reminder of what I hoped I’d have by now.
Post # 30
No. We took ages and fertility treatment to conceive and it was depressing enough for me to see baby stuff in shops and all my friends getting pregnant. My home was the one baby free place I could guarantee. Even if I’d put stuff in a cupboard, I’d still have known it was there.
for the first 3 months of my pregnancy I didn’t even allow myself to look at cute stuff, and now at 20 weeks, we still haven’t bought anything!