Post # 46
We have been trying for about five months, and I have purchased items to tell Darling Husband whenever I get a BFP, and also a onesie to tell his parents with. I’m still trying to decide on something to tell my parents with. It is something fun to look forward to and think about while waiting. If we are trying for another year or more with no positive it might get dissapointing, but I’d rather have the perfect items for those moments than not. Also they are stored away somewhere I don’t see them, hidden so Darling Husband won’t find them. I actually bought the onesie I’ll be giving to Darling Husband over a year ago, nine months before we started trying – it was too cute (and on too good of a sale) not to get! And I figured there was always a chance we could have gotten pregnant before we were officially trying.
So for me personally, buying items to reveal to DH/family/friends is okay, if I find the perfect item(s). I’m not going any further than that, though it is tempting sometimes – I see so many good deals that would be perfect in a nursery. But I’ll wait a few months into pregnancy before getting those kind of items.
Post # 47
I haven’t bought anything because I’m nervous about jinxing it…but I compromised with myself and I’ve got a secret amazon wishlist going so that I can go back and buy the things I see around the internet when I’m ready and the time is right 🙂
Post # 48
I’ve had two onesies sitting in the closet for a year and a half.. I’m also getting very restless so I started crocheting a rug that I loved for a nursery. I just couldn’t wait anymore.
Post # 49
I didn’t really buy stuff specifically for me before my BFP… but I always keep my eye out for good baby things on sale to have so that I can add them to baby gifts for friends/family. When I got pregnant I kept a few of the items for my baby instead 🙂 it kept my baby shopping fun rather than discouraging because I knew that I’d be able to clear everything out if I was feeling depressed about it. I definitely don’t recommend buying the bigger “gear” items until later (especially things where time might impact safety- like car seats). Wishing the best luck to you!
Post # 50
mrspuppylove : that is adorable!!! I wish I knew how to crochet or knit!
rsquared : thank you 🙂 I wish I had SOMEONE’S baby to buy for right now! There isn’t any babies in the family currently.
Post # 51
I’m browsing and making a registry (which we won’t share with anyone.. I don’t know enough women locally that I’ll have a shower, it’s just for me) but not actually buying anything yet.
Post # 52
I was afraid I’d jinx myself and didn’t want too and then the month I got my bfp my mum persuaded me to go in to a baby shop and get two baby grow sets that were on sale. One snoopy and one 101 Dalmations. I bought them feeling so silly but reasoned I could gift to a friend. About 10 days later I got my bfp. It felt like it was meant to be and the snoopy set is in my hospital bag. 11 days till due date.
Post # 53
zoey0317 : I wanted to SO badly! Our department store was having a huge baby sale, 50% off the big items. The crib that I LOVE was 600 down from 1200. Sooooo tempting. BUT if you start buying things now and it takes a while to TTC, will it just be a sad reminder? What if you miscarry? And I love the idea of buying my first baby items when I’m actually pregnant – save those fun/exciting things for when you do get the BFP.
Maybe if you want to “do” something baby related for positive affirmation, you could declutter the house, give it a good deep clean, start writing down areas of the house that will need to be baby-proofed (eg will need 28 electrical socket plugs, baby gate for bathroom, etc), research/print local classes and pregnancy groups, go through your closet and donate things you don’t wear anymore, put a lock on the medicine cabinet, start making some freezer meals…. things like that?
What are you doing to prepare? If you’re taking prenatal tell yourself “today I am taking this vitamin to help the baby that will be conceived this cycle”, get your pregnancy exercise regime sorted, clean up your diet if need be, start going through your cleaning products and eliminating harsh chemical cleaners.
I’m big believer in fate/everything happens for a reason/positive thinking for positive outcomes but I also think when it comes to natural pregnancy we just have no control.
Another thought: if you’re just feeling super clucky and you want to buy baby items for anyone, why not search for some bargain baby clothes to donate to a children’s charity?
This is the the third time. Have edited this post but I want to add: I would however consider buying something if I were overseas and saw something, or there was a limited edition item I wouldn’t be able to get again.
Post # 54
zoey0317 : We are past a year of TTC and I regret buying stuff ahead of time. I bought a onsie and a book for Darling Husband (which has been wrapped since last year sitting in my office) for him for when we do get pregnant as well as a sign and a beer bottle cover to surprise him (it’s to announce with). I came across “freebies” online of a sling and the month countup stickers so I got those. I also got a painting that was for a charity event of a pitbull that I can use any where but I have it aside for the nursey for whenever we do have kids. This way our dogs are looking over the little one. I got all of this while we were TTC in th begining thinking it would happen at any moment. 7 months later we learned about our infertility problems and I feel like getting the stuff ahead of time jinxed us. So now every time I see the stuff, it is just a reminder of… it may never happen. It sucks. I considered giving it away to our friends that have been pregant during the time of us TTC but I can’t get the hurt to part with it. I think if it doesnt happen by Christmas, then I will becaue at that point my hopes will be very low of it ever happening.
Post # 55
I didn’t and I’m glad. It took us 3 years (40+ cycles) and I ended up pretty depressed thanks to that, so having baby stuff staring me in the face (or even hidden away) would not have helped. Even now we’re 6mo along and I just yesterday made our first baby purchase.
Post # 56
zoey0317 : I bought an outfit I saw in this children’s boutique in town. It was just…exquisite. I fell in love with it and I bought it. Three years ago. I put it in a box in my closet. Darling Husband and I started trying for a baby a year and a half ago with no luck. I will admit that I was recently at a restaurant and I saw a baby in the same outfit and I started crying at the table. Not dramatically sobbing, but I was visibly upset and had to excuse myself. Because of this, I wouldn’t buy anything else. It kind of just acts as a reminder of what’s not happening for us.
Post # 57
I bought a onesie to tell Darling Husband and that stayed in a drawer for over two years and it sucked everytime I saw it. I’m so glad I didn’t buy anymore than that. I’m 27 weeks and just started buying things in the last week or so. I just didn’t feel comfortable doing it any earlier.