(Closed) Did anyone start planning before they were engaged?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Trish2211: I started looking at venues and getting ideas, I had venue quotes by the time he proposed and came up with a ton of ideas, the thing is… as time goes by I change my mind about things I used to like and thing I now want, I wouldn’t recomend start ‘doing’ things, planning and getting ideas great, but if you do semthing now you might not like it later on, specially if there’s so much time to go.

Post # 4
466 posts
Helper bee

@Trish2211: Yup.  My Fiance told me back in August that I could start planning and we found a venue, picked a date and started asking people to be in the wedding…..but we didn’t officially get engaged (with a ring) until 2 weeks ago in October.  Enjoy your planning!   🙂 

Post # 5
4176 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

sorta… but nothing concrete. just lots of ideas!

Post # 6
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012


I only did mental planning though.

Post # 7
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Every so often I would look at different wedding wesites just to look. Nothing official was decided. And I’m glad because now that’s actually happening and I have a venue and such I have changed my mind about a lot of things. Including what type of dress I want! haha.

Post # 8
2637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I started planning beforehand…but I got engaged 7 months before the date we had chosen!

But you’re still 1.5 years away! That is a loooong time…. you will be so sick of planning by the end of it. 

Please, just enjoy the stage of life that you are in now. (Don’t start planning til at least a year, unless you have your heart set on a certain venue that you know won’t be available closer in advance or something!)

Post # 10
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I’ve been planning for like six months and have bought my dress and set a date and  still don’t have a ring or the offical proposal, but it is mainly because we tend to do things together and are already an estabished couple(kids, joint accts, joint property, and all that jazz) and he wanted to presenting of the ring to be epic, so in my mind being a little backwards is cool.

Post # 11
40 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I started planning in the same kind of situation. He had bought the ring and was waiting for the right moment. It was fine, but stressful. I would advise you to wait. It’s hard not knowing the date, and if you dont know when he is going to ask… you dont know when the date will be. 

Post # 12
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Trish2211:  I didn’t start planning until we got engaged, but a few months before my Fiance proposed, he said I can start saving up.

Post # 13
232 posts
Helper bee

Me too!

Post # 14
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No planning for me.

Post # 15
466 posts
Helper bee

@AmandaLP: I agree…..it was rather stressful trying to make plans but still wanting to keep the news from our families until it was “official”.  I finally ended up telling people and then going “but don’t tell anyone, it’s a secret”….it was so funny, because by the time we got engaged, everyone already knew!  


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