Post # 1
My sister is having a family member at her wedding who I believe 100% would steal from her. (The family member steals all the time) My sis is obligated to invite her because she is in the immediate family. I personally think she shouldn’t, but if she doesn’t, the family will cause major drama over it. This individual will take the money to buy drugs, and will probably do anything to get the cards.
Have you ever heard of anyone stealing money even when the card box is locked?
Post # 3
My mom keeps warning me about this, but I’ve never seen or heard of it happening. Interested to see what others have experienced!
Post # 4
No one stole anything at our wedding; however, in your situation, I would have someone responsible in charge of looking after the card/gift table. The person that you designate could empty and store away the cards as they collect in whatever you are using to collect them in, and then they can give them to you at a designated time. Maybe designate two people, so one person doesn’t have to be watching the entire time.
Post # 5
i voted other because many times i have been given the job of keeper of the cards – i make a satin pouch big enough for envelopes and as the guest give their gifts to either the couple or the gift box i take them and put them in the satin bag and i keep it with me all night and hand them to the couple as they leave. the last wedding i did this for was because the brides parents are chinese and there was a big hassle between the bride and groom (who were paying for the wedding ) and her parents who thought they should be able to take the money and keep it – talk about awkward.
at my nephews wedding 3 people had items stolen, a camera and a couple of phones that were left on the tables but no idea if it was guests or staff
Post # 6
My parents went to a wedding where the wedding planner stole all the envelopes and cards. They didn’t figure out for a while that it was the wedding planner, but the person got caught using one of the stolen gift cards at home depot. I’m not sure they recovered much of anything from it.
I think designating a trusted person to periodically collect everything and hold on to it is a good idea.
Post # 7
This didn’t happen to me but we did attend one where it happened. A cousin took all the cards, opened them and took the cash/gift cards. He left the cards and the checks. If the gift table is not going to be in a visible location, it is probably a good idea to have someone keep an eye out.
Post # 8
I’ve thankfully never had this happen at any of the weddings I’ve planned. However, I never put the cardbox near the entrance/exit door. I usually do a table near the stage/DJ or close to the head table or cake table. Somewhere visible.
I’ve never understood why people would do this. I know from my first wedding we got a handful of giftcards, a very small amount of cash and some checks. Where can you cash a check that isn’t yours? I can’t imagine even trying to do that. Ick.
Post # 9
@MissIntent: WHOA!! That is a terrible wedding planner!
Post # 10
No, but that’s really awful!
Post # 11
We didn’t have any theft at ours. Indeed, a camera I left there by accident was found several months later and returned to me. However, we had our reception at a private club, so there was no one there other than our guests. And the club owner and security people were personal friends, so they were keeping an eagle eye out for anyone who might spoil our day.
Post # 12
how would you really know? most thieves don’t get caught. As far as I know we weren’t stolen from. I put bells on the card box so that if someone tried to take it hopefully someone would have heard them leaving with it.
Post # 13
Wow. I would never have thought about that! That’s just crazy how horrible people can be. As many have stated, having someone to kind of guard them sounds like a good idea.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
My adopted dad’s father stole a money tree from his first marriage, about $5k total. They didn’t speak for…a long time (I think 20 years or so). I’m pretty sure I don’t have any family members who would do this now… I agree with @noritake22: designate someone to collect any cards.
Post # 15
Designate someone to keep an eye on the box and another to keep an eye on your guest!
Post # 16
I know this isnt as extreme
My sister had chocolate sea shells on her cake, and some unknown family member went and ate them all off!
Somone said they saw them do it, but wont say who, to keep from drama, oh boy!