(Closed) Did anyone stress about FIs choice? Am I the only one? Feeling guilty….

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My guy and I discussed rings and getting married for awhile. During that time I couldn’t help but look at rings. When I found styles or particular rings I liked, I put them together for him. That way he had the choice of what to pick for me, but still knew what I liked and I wouldn’t know which one it was. It turned out to be the one I really liked! Just give him a little push in the right direction and have some faith in your man!

Hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!

Post # 4
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I WAS JUST ABOUT TO POST THE SAME THING!!! M has let me know last night that all my ring searching for the best price and emailing it and the cutest ring was in vain.  The only thing I hope he listens to is I don’t want a diamond (they are really pricey!!) I love the blue topaz or aquamarines.  I pray he is not suckered in at the jewelry store where they say all women want diamonds blah blah blah.


Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Haha I did stress about this initially! My bf has great taste in gifts but he has never bought me jewelry so I really didn’t know what his style would be. Also, I don’t wear that much jewelry so he doesn’t have much to go on! 

I suggested once about a year ago that we go ring shopping together because I knew (and told him) we were not yet ready for marriage so we could easily shop and see what I like and then IF we got engaged it would still be a surprise/he could shop alone/whatever– he said no way. He didn’t want my help if the time came. 

Fast forward to this spring and things are very clearly marriage-bound and I start dropping ring-hints such as “wow did you see x’s ring? it was really pretty but so not my style don’t you think?” and then I decided to just come out with it and tell him: If you ever decide to buy me a ring, please please PLEASE use my friend S to help you because she knows exactly what I love. 

Fast forward to last week and I get the word from S that he asked her to help shop! Yay! So my advice is to find a friend who knows what you like and ask him to use their help. It is a great compromise between him getting to do it alone and surprise you, and you not ending up with something you hate. 

Post # 6
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We picked out my ring together. I’m glad we did, because I really had no clue what I wanted until we started trying things on.

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I wouldn’t say I stressed, I did worry a little bit here and there that he might miss the mark. But I told myself that no matter what he was the one who picked it out so I would be happy. In the end he didn’t even have to pick it out, it’s a family ring and beautiful!

Post # 8
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I still feel guilty about the price!! We are both sunken by student loan debt and are working really hard to pay it off, so I feel bad that he went and bought a big old honkin’ rock for me. However.. he keeps saying I’m worth it and that it was his decision.. so I have to respect that! I just feel a little too lucky 🙂

Post # 9
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you are really concerned about debt, maybe you could look at rings that aren’t very “traditional”. I know a lot of the women on here have gemstones as their rings and they are just as pretty if not prettier than some diamonds. Sapphire seems to be the most popular gem because it is second in line to being the hardest stone to a diamond. Just a thought.

Post # 10
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I scoured eBay and emailed him a ton of suggestions for ones I liked.

We both love my ring and the price was awesome!!

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