Post # 1
My wonderful brother is officiating our wedding in about 7 months and recently asked me recently about a script or if there is anything specific we would like him to say. Because our wedding is the first he will officiate, he said he would prefer if we could write something out for him that is meaningful to us in the form of a script and he would add in his partsl.
We want something short and sweet. I started writing something but find it getting longer and longer without it actually going anywhere.
Has anyone done this before? Do you have any tips or tricks or other ceremony scripts that helped you out? (Or any tips for formatting it so that it doesn’t go too long or get off topic?)
Post # 2
I did. We pretty much looked up a bunch of different scripts online, cut and pasted the stuff we liked from various ones, adjusted the wording. It’s really easy if you don’t try to do the whole thing from scratch. A Practical Wedding had a few scripts we really liked.
Post # 3
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We wrote our own because our pastor only had 2-3 that didn’t fit our personalities so he was fine with us going rogue. I can’t seem to remember what we used but it was something like this https://www.officianteric.com/wedding-ceremony-samples/ where you can add in and change out portions. Basically you’re looking for a wedding ceremony generator. We did the mother’s rose ceremony so I wanted wording for that since it’s a bit different from most traditional Baptist ceremonies.
Read it out loud, slow at times and allow for pauses while timing yourself. Add/take away until the timing feels right for how long you want the ceremony to be.
I can send you mine if you’re interested in a Baptist/Christian style. While personality and uniqueness is fun- I find that when officiants go in too deep with too many inside jokes of the couple they end up loosing the crowd. So I’m with you at keeping to the task at hand.
Or read it to a bridal party member once you’re close and see how they feel- do they laugh and aww, or do their eyes get glazes over.
Post # 4
I actually used language from some of the blogs here as a base for things like the wine box ceremony and mothers’ rose ceremony. We kept it pretty straightforward, so the ceremony took 15-29 mins.
I would start with an outline – what MUST be included (i.e., vows, ring exchange, whatever else you want), then go back and write those parts.
Post # 5
i wrote our wedding and it was beautiful. I would say do your research. There are specific parts to ceremonies that have meaning and you can choose which fit you and which don’t. It will seem long. Ours was three pages single spaced but it was only about 15- 20 minutes long. We left the opening prayer up to our officiant and wrote everything else. It sounds like you are having trouble transitioning the text to move the ceremony along. Without actually seeing what you have I suggest making an outline to make sure you are hitting all the necessary points and keeping the language more meaningful by keeping it short and very direct and choosing words carefully.
Post # 6
Yes! Check out A Practical Wedding website – they have tons and tons of scripts and vows, etc. We pieced ours together, and I loved how it turned out.
Post # 7
Yes, ours was very short & sweet. We did it the same way as hikingbride :
Post # 8
I did! I wrote the whole thing and I basically knew the flow that I wanted and searched around for nice passages that spoke to who we are etc. I put different things together from different sources – mostly things about marriage and unity and what it means to be there for your partner etc. until I had the script that worked for us! Ours was completed non religious and we did a hand fasting ceremony but with no rope and I cut it down by a few lines too. I agree with what Lokie85 said! Go for it, I am sure it will be fantastic.
Post # 9
I started by bullet pointing what I wanted to say. Then I scoured the interwebs for examples of scripts. My favorite source was Offbeat Bride if a featured couple posted their scripts. From there, I took readings I wanted, quotes that meant a great deal to Darling Husband and I, and kind of smooshed it all together. Then I started reading it out loud to check to see how it sounded and whatnot.
Post # 10
Sorry about the bad grammar in the title. Totally just realized it. I was originally writing “Has anyone written their own ceremony script.” But then changed it to “Did” and forgot to change “written” to “write.” Oops. Haha.
Post # 11
We wrote our own. We used others to get the basic idea of what needed to be covered (if it was up to us we likely would have forgotten something major – like the ring exchange). We took quotes from meaningful texts (The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, the Song of Solomon from the bible), and each of us memorized a section that we quoted. It was a nice way to personalize the ceremony so that it wasn’t the same as all other weddings. Looking at the video now, we were a bit too serious – we emoted those Prophet quotes like we were in a Shakespeare play! My biggest suggestion is keep it light. I love when people do their own vows – and have fun things like ‘I promise to make you waffles when you’re sick’.
Post # 12
We wrote our own too. I did a lot of research and pulled bits and pieces from what I could find on the internet. Definitely recommend https://www.officianteric.com/, as well as a Practical Wedding. I also really liked these on the knot (https://www.theknot.com/content/sample-wedding-ceremony-scripts) because they showed ceremonies from start to finish. Some of the other examples would simply be for that single piece of the ceremony, and it was difficul to understand how to establish flow.
I would also recommend getting this book: https://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Officiants-Guide-Conduct-Ceremony/dp/1452119015. I got a bunch of other books with readings, but honestly none of them quite struck the tone of what we were looking for. But this book was great, because it deals with the logistics of getting married (like where you can get ordained, different state laws, what HAS to be said in a ceremony to make it legal, etc.) Incredibly helpful for anyone planning their own ceremony.
We wrote out different parts of the ceremony in chunks well in advance. Closer to the date, we laid it all out and read through. From this, we were able to tweak wording to change flow, or to call back to earlier parts of the ceremony. I found it far easier to rewrite and personalize some of these more stock samples through this method.
Lastly, our officiant wrote his marriage address on his own. He asked us a few questions beforehand (What did you remember from your first date; what do you love about the other person; etc.), and wove our answers into the address. It was so sweet, so personal, and new for us.
Best of luck!
Post # 13
We wrote our own (to be performed in 9 days!) and people have already listed all of the resources we used. I then handed it over to our officiant who worked on it and did an AMAZING job. I was just editing a few things and almost started crying. I highly recommend coming up with a “skeleton” for the ceremony as early as possible and then reviewing it or (if your officiant is willing) passing it to your officiant for editing/additions.
Post # 14
I wrote ours. I googled different ceremony services, used some of what was in our church hymnal and came up with our own. Since it was a vow renewal we could pretty much do what we wanted. But take a little time to research and find some you like, take bits and pieces to make it your own. CONGRATULATIONS!
Post # 15
My mom officiated for us, so I wrote the entire script. I basically just looked at a lot of blogs where people included their scripts and picked what I like from each one. It was difficult because we did not want a religious ceremony. Since the wedding ceremony is essentially a religous tradition, it took awhile. But in the end it worked great! I can send it to you if you’d like. There are tons of blogs and websites that can help you. Good luck!