(Closed) Did anyone's Exes get engaged / Married right after you did?

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yes!  My ex & I were talking one day last May & he told me that he didn’t need a girlfriend. He loved being single. Then I told him I was getting re-married. Spoke to him 2 weeks later & he suddenly had a serous girlfriend. She moved in 2 weeks after that with her 7 year old. They got married in Cancun 2 weeks ago. He’s, like 15 years older than her. I don’t have high expectations on it lasting, but who knows…

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Not engaged, but my super commitment-phobe ex not only decided to move in with his girlfriend, but that he needed to tell me about it after not speaking for a year. We broke up very amicably because while he was a great guy he just wasn’t moving forward in his life or in our relationship. He’d never lived with a girl before and he was 32. I don’t know if my being engaged had anything to do with it, but I thought it was funny that he messaged me to literally say “look at us! You’re getting married, and IM finally moving in with someone!”

I also know that his long term roommate recently moved out so he probably couldn’t afford his place anymore and then his girlfriend got a job with free board in the US. So I don’t even think it was so much taking a leap, as being pushed. I could be tootally off base, and I do hope they’re happy, but I found it amusing. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Yes! My ex was also a commitment phobe (he ended all past relationships including ours). I got engaged in October and he got engaged about a month or two ago. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My ex boyfriend and I both got engaged a few months apart…. And then shortly after closed on houses on the same street in the same month. 

We are at opposite ends of the street, and there are about 15 houses between us. Because of the way the houses sit, it honestly would have taken me about a year to figure it out if I hadn’t been told by a mutual friend. In three years, I’ve only seen him a few times walking his dog. His wife and step kids are all really nice, but it’s still a little awkward.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017 - Maui, Hawaii

My ex got engaged a week after me! I think it was total coincidence though. We don’t talk anymore but are still friends on Facebook. It was an amicable split, we just weren’t in love with each other. I’m genuinely happy for him and I think it’s awesome we both found our forever person around the same time. So glad we broke up!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t know. I don’t keep tabs on him and certainly wouldn’t credit myself as the reason he got engaged if he did..

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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carolinabelle :  right?! Even if I kept up to date I would never think I was the reason he got engaged 🤔🤔🤔

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Yes, it’s almost so cliche to say it. Timing is everything. Three of my exes got married within 2 years of my wedding. I admit it does feel good to be married first. I don’t keep in touch with any of exes but i’m all very happy for them.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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carolinabelle : 

😂

yeah, I’m sure my ex got engaged after I did because he is still just so into me and she was definitely his second choice *eye rolls* 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin

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smoocheepoo :  I am DYING at your story, and in awe of your very calm and rational reaction! wink

My ex got engaged on my wedding day. He also had previously made a huge deal about his anniversary with his now-fiancee being my birthday. To all of this my reaction is essentially:

…but I guess I’m just petty. Lol.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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kellykapoor :  He is the ONLY past relationship I’ve ever had that ended amicably, so that why it’s really easy for me to be calm about it all  One day we both kinda just decided that we just weren’t moving into that long term love affair type relationship. We are friendly when we see each other, and I think we are both genuinely happy the other has found someone, but it is just so wierd to be with my kids and DH, and chatting with someone I slept with.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I lived w my ex for 9-10 yrs and his ex was always around ‘because of the kids’ well she kept hopes of getting w him all along and I was well aware and cautious of it.  When I dumped him she was all over him. She was playing  stepmommy to my son… She went as far as to take me to court for her (children) rights.  It was a nightmare. I just wanted everyone on his side to be gone.  Well, I got engaged to my husband and as soon as she noticed the engagement ring she asked me how did I do to get over my ex so fast? to what I happily replied “a real man knocked on the doors of my broken heart, he asked me to come out since I won’t let him in and he told me he wanted to take me to a place where unicorns and mermaids are real so I said I’ll go but I’m afraid I can’t stay and so I went and saw the unicorns and the mermaids and he said let me mend your heart and I got to walk on rainbows and jump on clouds and he was there with me and my heart was mended so I’m happy” then I say to her “you can have him (my ex) now if you think he’s all that!” THe following weekend she got a chain with my ex’s name on it around her neck (I was like yeah I have always known you to be a dog) so I got married and didn’t tell anyone else other than those we invited and those that were a part of MY and out life.  When she found out I got married she became so jealous of my life all over again and I was like “girl I’m out of your way now so go get your bone!” lol soon after she was like so over him…IDK what went wrong… (Actually I do, if you start a relationship by being a weekend girl that’s all you will ever be and nothing else, even w kids between them. They only “dated on Friday nights” so probably she wanted something more and he wasn’t for it .) ok so moving on, less than a month later she was “engaged” to this guy from that she met through the mosque and I was like well let me meet him I need to know who is around my son when you have him.  She said he has yet to get his visa to come to the is as a refugee!!!! WTF!!!  Yeah… You guessed right, an arranged marriage! I was bumped like… Wow!!! When? Why? How? It was true, two months after I got married she literally found someone that would marry her and did so. As to my ex? He found out the hard way… He was in denial and very confident Of himself until his own two older children told him I am married.   So, since I had dropped from the radar he took me to court. He wanted the judge to order me to give him  my address, phone number and wanted to be in contact w me! Well it was not granted so he ended up with the same girl he claimed he was only friends with and guess what? I have never seen her nor know her name and I’m told that she’s also a Friday girl. (Before I ended it I had told him to end their “friendship” he said no because she’s going thru struggles so I said “sayonara, you under-estimated me you should know what you lost” and just like that I moved out of his house and his life) 

so there you got it. 

Ohhh wait!! My husband’s ex? The very same day she found out he married me she lost her mind and ended up on a psychiatric hospital for three weeks! And her life spiraled down…she still has not recovered. 

Now im done there you got it!! Lol

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

My experience is flip-flopped. My on/off again ex of 4 years got engaged and had a destination wedding quickly after. About 6 months after their wedding, I got engaged and we are also having a Destination Wedding 😂 Total coincidence though.

We ended on good terms and still occasionally talked when we ran into eachother. Then he and his Fiance ran into me at my job one day during the period of their engagement.. I’m guessing she didn’t like our cordial, friend relationship because he deleted me off social media shortly after. Lol. Doesn’t bother me any one way or another!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I got remarried 8 months after the divorce was final, and my ex-husband of 22 years married my former best friend that he was cheating with a few months later.  I hope they’re happy but you know what they say about the one that cheats with you. 

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