Post # 1
I’ve been watching videos on YouTube of flower girls ‘stealing the show’ – accidentally or intentionally. They are very funny, but not filling me with a whole not of confidence. Did your flower girl make it down the aisle without a fuss? If not, what happened?
Post # 2
I didn’t have a flower girl but my ring bearer did just fine. He was very pleased with himself: you can tell from his beaming smile in the photos.
Post # 3
Yep. Had 2, one was 4 and the other 6. They did great. A bigger gamble of ours was our shy of 2 year old ring bearer. We originally were going to have him to walk out with the flower girls & hold their hands. Right before walking down the aisle he had a MAJOR meltdown. Screaming, refusing to go down. Turns out he just wanted to walk by himself. They let the flower girls go first & he followed. He did great, walked the whole way quietly & plopped down on the stage.
Post # 4
I went to a wedding a few months ago where they had 3 flower girls (youngest was probably 5), whose mother was a bridesmaid. I have no idea who was in charge of watching the girls during the ceremony, but 1 of them wandered off (it was an outdoor ceremony), and then we heard her start crying! It took a while for someone to get the girl. It was very distracting
Post # 5
I’ve only ever seen well behaved flower girls. they have all walked down the isle and sat nicely. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor once and I was a bit worried about this little boy I was going to walk with (whats a boy flower girl if he didn’t have rings?). in the rehearsal he was so shy that he flat out refused to walk and hid behind his mom. clearly he has been spoken with since during the day he was great. He never looked up but he held my hand and the minute he was allowed to, he walked swiftly to his mum 😀
Post # 6
My nieces were 4 and 6 at the time and did just fine. They had been flower girls before so they knew what was expected.
Post # 7
My friend’s niece was around 4 or 5 and she did a great job. It’s always a risk though.
Post # 8
Mine were either 6/7 or 7/8 and impeccably behaved. They did get hungry though – the reception started at 7:00, so in hindsight they should have packed snacks.
My daughter’s flowergirl was 9 and was no problem.
My granddaughter was asked to be a flowergirl this year at 33 months. Her mother declined. Her Mom started singing at weddings 15 years ago and could probably write a book about bridal party behavior.
Post # 9
My flower girl and ring boy did great, 4 and 5 years old. I put my JR bridesmaid in charge of getting the little ones down the aisle, she is 8. Once they got down the aisle they sat with non bridal party family members (reserved seats for them in second row). As long as they get to practice and know what is expected of them, it should be fine.
Post # 10
My three nieces have all been flower girls for family weddings.
Ages 4 & 6
The 4 yr old practiced at the rehearsal putting flowers on the ground outside. Due to the rain this couldnt happen. She started to have a tantrum & wouldn’t walk into church as it wasnt as rehearsed. As a bridesmaid I could sense her throwing a tantrum so I literally dragged her down the aisle with my arm. She sulked the whole ceremony
Ages 4 & 6 – 3 months later at brother’s wedding
Same four year old sat in church poulting the whole time & pushed over her older sister in the garden at the reception. Screaming everywhere
Ages 6 & 8 + 2.5 year old – last year at sister’s wedding
The 4 year old was now 6 & was fine. her 2.5 yr old cousin talked through the whole ceremony but no tears
Also I was a flower girl when I was 3.5 years old & I ran up to the alter & tried to interrupt their vows.
They are kids & at that age unpredictable. I am not having flower girls. I cannot have the 2 older nieces who are now 7 & 9 without having my niece who is now 3.5 yrs.
Post # 11
I had two who were sisters and they did a great job! Age 6 and 5. Their parents were both in the bridal party, so I told them to pick a parent and walk to them…and if they got too scared to just stand at the back and we would take pictures with them later (the wedding planner knew the plan so she could signal me to start if they weren’t going to make it). They did a great job, threw their flower petals and giggled the whole way. I think their adorableness may have stolen the show, but that was ok with me 🙂
Basically, I think giving them an out if they didn’t want to do it helped give them the confidence to do it. Also that there were tw of them who could go together.
Post # 12
On the opposite end of the spectrum…. I was at a wedding where the grooms aging grandmother loudly whispered throughout the ceremony and made comments about what was happening. It was distracting, but sort of funny and cute.
Post # 13
I didn’t have a flower girl but I had 2 ring bearers who made it down the aisle just fine – my half brothers, aged 8 and 5 at the time. The 8 year old walked on his own then a few paces behind walked the 5 year old walked with our sister (aged 14 and a bridesmaid) – they’re both pretty shy, so we thought having them walk together would make them feel more comfortable. I needn’t have worried – all 3 of them did fantastically and were smiling genuinely in all the photos. The 5 year old is now bugging our other sister (in her mid 20s) to get married so he can be a ring bearer again.
I definitely think age is a huge factor in how well flower girls and ring bearers are going to perform. A few people asked us if we were going to make DH’s nephews ring bearers alongside my brothers, but they were much younger at 4 and 1.5 years old. We think the 4 year old would’ve been fine providing he didn’t have to walk alone and was able to walk with someone he knew (he’s always been quite mature for his age and able to follow instructions very well), but the 1.5 year old would not have cooperated lol. We never even considered having them do it.
Post # 14
One memorable wedding was a 3 year old flower girl. Neice of the groom. Walked right up to groom and held his hand the entire time! (Until he really had to let go to exchange rings) it was adorable.
I’ve seen a grumpy tears in his eyes ring bearer walk down unhappily. But honestly it’s stuff like this that just makes ceremonies memorable!
Post # 15
My flower girl was just under 4 so I was a little concerned, but we had her walk down the aisle with her older brother (6), who was the ring bearer. She made it through a Catholic wedding ceremony and didn’t fuss at all. She held my MOHs hand for a little while until she was comfortable. We also made sure her mom was seated nearby just in case.