(Closed) Did DH go with you?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I guess I would call and see what the appointment is. Sometimes they do a dating ultrasound and go through a lot of information, then I would bring him. Sometimes it is just really a confirmation visit, and then no I wouldn’t have him come.

My Dh does go to all of my appointments, but we didn’t go in until 9 weeks and got to hear the heartbeat. He plans to come to all of them, him and my doctor are like BFFs, so that probably has something to do with it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

at my doctors office, the first appointment is usually paperwork and then they have you schedule an appointment with the doctor from there. BUT, since you’re already 6-8 weeks, they may do an ultrasound. you should really call and find out what they’re doing. Because if it’s just paperwork, it will be quite boring for the daddy.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband didn’t come to an appt with me until 20 week appt! He definitely came to all ultrasounds and emerg visits, but nothing scheduled until then! Was also our first appt with baby doctor, the rest had been with my regular family doctor.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would call like blondemotives suggested, you never know.  At my first appointment (8 weeks) they did an ultrasound and went over the dos/donts and what books to read.  They actually didn’t do a full history until the genetic testing at 11 weeks.  My husband wouldn’t have missed that first ultrasound and seeing the heart beating (we couldn’t hear it yet, but you could see the flutter) for the world! Congratulations!!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Darling Husband didn’t come with me to my first appointment at 4 weeks but has come to everyone since. Darling Husband is also self employed so he can get away for a doctor appointment. I think he should go to your 1st ultrasound, your 12 week appointment, and your 18 weeks appointment if he is able to get the time off. The first ultrsounds you get to see the baby for the 1st time, at 12 weeks it would be nice to have support in case anything was wrong, and the 18 weeks is the gender scan. All other appointments I have been a tad annoyed that he was there lol. It’s just weight, blood pressure, urine, and a quick visit with the doctor for questions.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband couldn’t come with me to the first appointment because of work, but I sure wish he had. They did a transvaginal ultrasound and I saw the baby & heard the heartbeat, He was so bummed when he found out that he missed that and hasn’t missed an appointment since. It all depends on what type of appointment it is. If I were you, I would call the doc’s office & inquire & decide from there.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Darling Husband has come to both appts so far and we scheduled following appts to make sure he can make it.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Darling Husband has been at all of my appointments. Our first was at 8 weeks, and we had an ultrasound (dating because of a recent miscarriage, wouldn’t have gotten it otherwise until 10 weeks). They also took a fairly detailed medical history from both of us. It was really important to him to be there, and when we scheduled out our appointments they were made around his work schedule (in the early AM, he works afternoons/nights).

I agree with a PP, though…you should call and find out what they’re going to do. If it’s just going to be giving you a pee test and taking some blood that’s one thing, but if it’s more in depth it might be better to have him there. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband only came to 2 apts one was earlier to hear the heartbeat and the other was for our ultrasound.  I actually prefered it that way.  That and Darling Husband doen’t like doc offices/hospitals so he was okay with it also

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

mine came though after we were there i realized it wasn;t essential for him to be there. i really just want him at the ultrasounds. But since it was my FIRST appt, i actually was really glad he came sicne he got to meet the doctor and form his own impression.  He also came to my second appt just beause he was able to and it was easy for him to leave work to come.  But i think in the future i’ll tell him he doesn’t need to.  As long he is there for our next and final ultrasound where we find out the gender, i am happy!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

actually i take back part of what i said. i think i will want him there for the third appt since at that appt we will get the results from our second ultrasound and round of blood tests. I am super paranoid about getting bad news, so i would like him to hear the results with me.  If all goes well, then future appts after that one, i don’t think it will be necessary for him to come.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

Darling Husband came with me to every appointment except for 1 right in the middle. It was a heartbeat check though. Thank goodness he did come with me though, b/c some were tough. The first miscarriage was tough and the first appointment for our current pregnancy was really emotional. 

He also wanted to meet all of the doctors within the practice too so he at least would meet the person delivering the baby! So he tries to come to every appointment if he can!

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

My first pregnancy he attended the first appointment with me and the last one before I was induced. This pregnancy he only went to one ultrasound. It’s honestly fine with me, I only go in there to get weighed, blood pressure, hear the heartbeat, get measured. So he really wouldn’t have much to do. Plus there is kind of a “girls only” vibe at my office and I never see many men in there.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@KatyElle:  i feel like that too after our last appt that lasted all of ten minutes. i even felt bad that Darling Husband left work to come.  I was happy to have him there to hear the results from our first ultrasound, but since all the doctor said was “everything is good”, it ended up being futile for him to be there since all that happened was a Bridal Party and heartbeat check, a weigh in, and i got to ask my questions.

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