Did everyone who is a bride go down a size when they got married?

posted 3 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 16
14966 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I never understood the desire to lose weight for the wedding, unless you plan on truely making a lifestyle change and maintaining the weight loss.  If you want to try to lose weight and have a healthier lifestyle, I’d all for it.  But if you’re going to crash/fad diet just to look good for one day, I’d say don’t bother.

Post # 17
2098 posts
Buzzing bee

weddinggirl2009 :  Well if it helps, your weight and height sound amazing to me! I am 5’6 and got down to my goal weight of 149 for my wedding. Size 8 is a lovely size. Enjoy it, don’t stress. There are some negatives to losing weight before a wedding as well– my dress was not tight enough for instance. 

Post # 18
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I lost weight, but it wasn’t for the wedding exactly. I switch between calorie surplus for muscle gain and calorie deficit for fat loss for the gym  and I ended my surplus about 12 weeks before the wedding. I’m a US 4 and I had put on a bit of fat after it, so I dieted for 12 weeks to lose that (2 weeks to go!). At 5’7 I was at 68kg (150lbs) and I’ve dropped down to 62kg (136lbs). That’s 15lbs in 12 weeks – I do a LOT of excersize too, but it was mostly diet.

Two months is so much time for you. Honestly the biggest factor is your nutrition, don’t worry if you can’t fit exercise in. It’s 30% exercise and 70% nutrition. You’ll lose weight just by cleaning up your diet.

You could easily lose half a pound a week – putting you at a total loss of about 6lbs by your wedding date. Cut all junk, eat clean (think lean chicken breast, turkey, white fish), rice, potatoes, LOTS of green veggies such as broccoli, cabbage, beans.

Count your calories in My Fitness Pal. You’ve got this, but only if you want it.

Post # 19
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

I lost about 25lbs for the wedding and then gained 5lbs since. Overall I am happy with my weight loss and have put workout into my weekly routine. I just don’t watch what I eat as much as I used to nor do I workout as hard as I used to.

Post # 20
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I lost a little bit of weight in the year before my wedding, but I didn’t do it for the wedding. In the few years since moving in with Darling Husband, I had put on a few extra kilos that I wanted to lose – I had actually started working really hard at it before even getting engaged. I’ve dropped the few kilos and have maintained this weight; I haven’t really tried to lose anymore. I probably could have been a little slimmer for my wedding, but this is me and I accept who I am.

Like PPs, everyone I know who has dropped a drastic amount of weight for their weddings has put it back on (and then some) afterwards. One girl I know put on so much weight after her wedding that within 12 months she was the heaviest she had ever been and has since struggled to lose very much weight at all.

Post # 21
2921 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

What? No, of course not! During my engagement (which was a little less than a year) I don’t think I lost any weight. I wasn’t weighing myself so honestly I just don’t know, but I was going to the gym a couple of times a week because I enjoyed it and as far as I know my clothes all fit the same. It’s one thing to make a few small changes like “drink more water, eat more veggies!” but counting calories and spending hours at the gym is a drag.

Post # 22
4994 posts
Honey bee

weddinggirl2009 :  No, I lost about 10 pounds but must have been water weight bc I was the same size. I gained after then lost again. I would just do weight training so you feel better and toned. I wouldn’t go for anything drastic because it’s stressful. Stress is the worst for weight loss and is bad for your health. 

I did weight training, cardio and stretching. Our feels great to Syu those and then you feel less tension. Enjoy the wedding planning process! 

Post # 23
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

In the lead up to my wedding I started working out and eating more healthily. I dropped 20lbs that year. I am by no means skinny now but I feel healthy and confident. In my wedding day I felt like I was a really healthy weight and it’s completely changed how I view diet and exercise. I will keep this up for life. It’s been 2 months and I’ve lost a little bit more but I think I’ll stay roughly this weight for life now. 

Post # 24
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

I’ve lost 5 pounds so far and the wedding is in 1.5 months. I know I could lose 12 pounds and reach my goal weight before the wedding but with final exams coming up I’ve been super lazy with the diet. I actually won’t look that different between 108lbs (where I am now) and 96 pounds (where I want to be for the wedding). But I might see subtle differences in pictures like maybe slightly thinner arms, a more protuberant collar bone, and higher cheek bones. So even though it won’t make a huge difference, I wouldn’t mind seeing the subtle differences in pictures. 

Post # 25
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’ve lost some weight during the engagment, but mostly because I had gained it during a period of uncertainty when I moved around a few times in one year and breaking my routine off always makes it hard for me to maintain my healthy lifestlye… I wouldn’t say the weight loss was FOR my wedding, though. I think the wedding was a good motivator to get started and be serious again. I didn’t want to be skinny or anything, just wanted to get back to the weight where I feel like “me” which is where I am right now, about 2 weeks out to my wedding date. 

Bottom line, I wouldn’s ever advise someone to lose weight just for the wedding, but a big life change/moment (like your wedding) can be a good motivator if it’s a lifestyle change you want to make permanently. 

Post # 26
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - City, State

I started dieting a couple of months after getting engaged, but it wasn’t so much for the wedding. I had gained about 10 pounds during my senior year in college (hello happy hours and working part time at a Chili’s!). 

Darling Husband has always been active in the gym, so I started going with him. I think I lost like 5 pounds from the time I started going to the gym, to the wedding day. But my lifestyle change came after the wedding. I now eat healthy and do weightlifting with some cardio about 4-5 days a week. But what really made the difference, was my nutrition. I count calories (with one cheat day where I don’t count my calories), and track my macros. At this point, I don’t really need to count calories anymore, but I still do so that I don’t fall off track! Since getting married in March 2015, I’ve lost about 20 pounds of fat, 25 pounds of fat since graduating college. My wedding dress is super loose on me these days. I’m 5’3 at 105 lbs. 

Two months is enough time to get noticeable results. Just eat healthy, you don’t necessarily need the gym. You can use MyfitnessPal as a start. Now and after your wedding. But either way, I’m sure you will look amazing on your wedding day 🙂


Post # 27
2318 posts
Buzzing bee

I actually gained weight before my wedding. I started off dieting and exercising.  The 4 months after my engagement I was able to loose about 10 lbs.  Then I started working more, and wedding planning took over my exercise time.  And instead of preparing dinner we were eating fast food or frozen pizza.  Ice cream and wine were my two main food groups.  The month before my wedding I dont  recall eating a single healthy meal.  

I DIY’d my entire wedding and I was super busy and stressed all summer.  On my wedding day my dress was much tighter than it was at the fitting 3 weeks prior.  It was pulling across the hips.  It still fit fairly well though and I looked gorgeous, even with the extra weight.  

I was 31 when we tied the knot and I have to admit, I am a whole 49 lbs heavier than the first time I planned a wedding at 23. (I called it off)  I feel much more elegant as an older bride than when I did when I was younger.  There is a certain maturity that the pictures have that is unparrelled. I think its the confidence and self-assurance that come with age.   Maybe beacuse my 30 year old body has more curves than my 20 year old self (YOS) had.  (in a good way)  My 20 YOS chose a ballgown and wanted to be a princess, but now I confidently rocked a mermaid.  Even with my extra weight, I know I looked great!  You will too.  

Post # 28
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m 35 and soooooooo sad that I’m not the 00 or even the 5  I once was but you know what? We had a good run lol. I ordered my dress in a 10 and I look great in it. Do I look as good as I did at 25? I guess that’s in the eye of the beholder. I dropped prob 20 lbs to get to the 10 but I fluctuate about 20 lbs these days anyway. I stay between 140-160. I will prob forever compare myself to 20’s me (Little Miss 120-140). I try not to but it’s effing hard. I think it always be. If I crunch numbers though I’ve been a size 8-12 for almost 10 years. This is me, as much as I hate to admit it).  If I got down to my 20’s weight I wouldn’t look like me (and I’d be starving myself. It’s normal to want to lose a little and look your best for your wedding but your best should be the best version of you now. Not 20 year old you. Be the girl he fell in love with. Not the girl he never knew 10 years before he met you. That’s my goal at least. 

Post # 29
27 posts

I’ve gained 25 lb over the course of my relationship due to junk food and not exercising like I used to. Now that I’m engaged it has def gotten me more motivated to make healthier choices.


Post # 30
625 posts
Busy bee

You weigh 11 pounds less than me so feel happy lol. Seriously though your husband to be loves you at this size, I say just rock it. 

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