(Closed) did getting the proposal fix all of the waiting agony and make you feel “better”

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: did getting the engagement make you feel "better"?
    yes : (13 votes)
    48 %
    no : (4 votes)
    15 %
    sort of : (10 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Hey, I have been engaged since dec. of 09, its just a new waiting game lol

    Post # 4
    Member
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Kinda. I mean you get to feel “official” and you aren’t “waiting” but really, like @Mrs.duck said, you are just waiting for something else. Lol. Especially if you’re having a long engagement (we are.) It certainly doesn’t “fix” anything.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    Good question!

    For me its sort of.

    I have “forgiven” FH for the reasons for the delayed proposal, but because it involves his family I am having a hard time not allowing it to color my perception of one of them (his sister) or of how the family treats said sister.  And randomly I still make comments about it. Honestly? I never will I suspect. (by randomly Its been 3 times since last August, and I am sure it will be less and less, but I am darn sure when I am 50 I will still make a comment)

    I think it depends completely on what the issues are.

    Post # 6
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    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It did make me feel ‘better’, but given that we have been together for almost ten years, it doesn’t really feel any different. It kind of felt like a weight had been lifted.

    Although as PP have said, now its the wait for the wedding and then we are going to start trying for a baby so I’m sure that I will feel the same again waiting for that to happen.

    Post # 7
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    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Uh.. yeah. Any and all anxiety I had from worrying about us getting engaged totally vanished once I had a ring on my finger. Our relationship got even better. We felt closer, more committed, more secure. And getting to actually plan the wedding (for reals, not just me drooling over wedding blogs LOL!) has been so exciting!

    It does kind of suck to have to “wait” yet again, this time for the wedding, which I definitely wish were sooner. But the way I see it, people are ALWAYS waiting for something in life. After you get married, you’ll be “waiting” for when you start TTC. Then you’ll be waiting to get pregnant. Then you’ll be waiting to have the baby. Then maybe you’ll be waiting to buy a house. Then perhaps waiting on a job promotion. Then the whole baby cycle again. Then for the kids to start school. Etc., etc., etc.

    So, I think it’s important to just stop and appreciate where you are in life and take it all in, chapter by chapter. Like that one country song… ahh how does it go? The girl just got married and her dad stops by her apartment and she kind of complains and starts talking about having babies, and the dad tells her to “just slow down,” or something? Anyone? lol

    Post # 8
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @AmeliaBedelia: Well we were engaged before my daughter was born, on the 1st of april she will be 14 months, and we wont be getting married till august, so when you do the math… it will be 20 months from engagement date to wedding date lol.

    So yea, the waiting still sucks lol. I just can’t wait to be his wife 😀

    Post # 9
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    In some ways it felt like a weight was lifted from us since we have been together for over 9 1/2 years.  It still seems a bit unreal that we are finally engaged and for a second I forgot we were lol..  Because nothing has changed.  But what is nice now that Fiance isn’t afraid to talk about weddings and the future and that stuff.  When before he would clam up and not want to feel pressured by getting engaged.  Now we are officially moving forward with our lives and our families are happy too.  But yeah at least I am not waiting wondering what is going on.

    Post # 11
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    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @littlemissmango:  Well said!  🙂  Somehow waiting for the wedding is much less agonizing and crazy-inducing than waiting for the ring. 

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