(Closed) Did Having a Baby “Ruin” Your Vagina?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Please check those that apply to you.

    I had a vaginal delivery and am happy that I did.

    I had a vaginal delivery and wish I’d had a c-section.

    I had a vaginal delivery and my vagina looks different now.

    I had a vaginal delivery and my vagina feels worse now/sex is worse.

    I had a vaginal delivery and my vagina feels the exact same as before.

    I had a vaginal delivery and my vagina feels better now/sex has improved.

    I had a c-section and am happy that I did.

    I had a c-section and wish I’d had a vaginal delivery.

    I had a c-section and sex has gotten worse for me.

  • Post # 3
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    I have had two vaginal births and actually felt tighter after #2. I had an episiotomy and still tore with #1 so I had a lot of stitches. After that healed things didn’t look that much different.

    Sex has defiantely still been good (obviously since #3 is on the way). I have talked to DH about this and he says that there isn’t much difference at all and he really has no filter so he would tell me the truth:)

    Post # 4
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My having a vaginal birth did not effect my vagina. However, having a child has effected my sex life! haha

    Post # 5
    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I like that you included the last option for people like me, lol!

    Post # 6
    8008 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Cash000 EXACTLY! Ha ha ha!

    Post # 8
    8008 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Wait- seriously- I have had 2 vaginal births- one with an episiotomy and one where I tore naturally a little bit.

    Recovery/ after effects were not a big deal in my experience.  I honestly can’t tell the difference.

    Post # 10
    2747 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Will check back to see poll results later!  I am also very intrigued.  Great topic, Juliepants!


    … I also voted for the last option LOL

    Post # 12
    5285 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m also interested to hear the answers on this post. I have numerous amount of friends who have children and I have heard all the stories but I like to get all kinds of perspectives from every angle.  I also chose the last option on the poll cause I love voting in the polls 🙂 

    Post # 13
    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Having a vaginal birth didn’t “ruin” my vagina.  From what my doctor told me the tightness and good feelings during sex are directly related to how often you keep up with your kaegels, which you’re supposed to continue doing after child birth.  My daughter’s father said it was even better than before because things felt just as tight, but I lost some of my inhibition after my daughter was born (in a good way, I used to be very shy in the bedroom), but I think that was more a personality thing for me.  The tightness feels the same to me as it did before (and he agrees).  We split up a number of years ago (my daughter is 9 and we split when she was pretty young) and my now Fiance says I feel the same, sometimes tighter, than other girls he’s been with.  We’re very open, sometimes to the point of Too Much Information lol.  I really do think the key is to keep doing your kaegels and since it’s a muscle (or lots of muscles) things will go back to how they were before and you wont get “ruined”.  For most people, of course there are the exceptions.  Hope this helps! 🙂

    ETA: I had some tearing also (which I think is common) so needed some stitches.  We waited until about 8 weeks after delivery to have sex.  Tried after 4 weeks, but my body wasn’t ready.  Even though the stitches had healed it hurt pretty bad, so we stopped and waited longer.  After 8 weeks it was great.

    Post # 15
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @hisgoosiegirl:  Me too!  I’m curious and watching this thread!

    Post # 16
    9952 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had a vaginal delivery 20 years ago and everything went perfectly for me.  I had no tearing and after waiting the allotted time (I think 6 weeks, maybe 8) sex felt amazing and just as good as ever.  Nothing was different, except it was a little tight and more sensitive, but in a good way.  Nothing looked any different.  If you get a good doctor and have a healthy delivery there should be no problems.  Then again, breastfeeding didn’t harm/change my breasts at all and I didn’t get many stretch marks either, so maybe I was just lucky.

    Edit:  Agree with the fact that kegels definitely work.

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