(Closed) Did having a first look ruin the moment?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Are you doing (or did you do) a first look
    yes : (57 votes)
    48 %
    no : (60 votes)
    50 %
    other please explain : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Not a chance, made my day so much more special. I loved having one on one time with my husband before the ceremony to really take in the moment. And really, how could I have gotten these pictures?

    Post # 4
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We’re doing a first look (obviously haven’t experienced it yet, though!), and I don’t think it’s going to take away from the special-ness of the moment. We’re both quite private people, so I kinda like the idea of that first moment just being between the two of us.

    Post # 5
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Birdee106:  oh your picture took my breath away!

    Post # 6
    1853 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    commenting bc we’re doing a first look and I want to read the responces

    Post # 8
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I had to be convinced to do it, but it was a great decision.   It was great to be able to see him beforehand.  And it was no less special coming around the corner and seeing him standing up there waiting for me.

    I’ve said before… he isn’t your groom until he’s standing next to an officiant in front of your friends and family.  You aren’t his bride until you come walking towards him on your fathers arm.  That’s the moment that you catch each other’s eyes and realize that you’re going to get married.  RIGHTNOWOMG. 

    Post # 9
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No, not at all. The pictures of just the two of us from the first look are awesome and so emotional. The added bonus is that there aren’t guests, Bridal Party, officiants, etc. in the background and both of you can be captured in one photo. We did a first look and I tell anyone that is thinking about it to do it! Plus, I loved having the validation from him that I look awesome and that it’ll be amazing before the ceremony itself. We also did all the family pictures before the ceremony too and it was great as everyone could mingle with the guests during cocktail hour.

    Post # 10
    2563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We did it and it was a very special moment between the two of us. And honestly, as I was walking down the aisle with my dad, I was so shocked by all the many people there staring at me that I forgot to even look at my Fiance as I walked and instead smiled like a nut and teared up staring at all our family and friends waiting to see me. It’s a very emotional moment and having a special time with just Fiance and I (and photogs/videogs) before really gave us time to take each other in and see what we look like on our big day, kiss, whisper I love yous, and pose together for our first pictures on our wedding day! 🙂 Not to mention it saves a boat load of time for your photog for pictures with everyone. And your guests won’t have to wait so long for you to join them at the reception.

    Post # 11
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    The idiosyncracies of the way my venue operates are FORCING us to do a first look. I am less concerned with it ruining the moment, and more concerned with finding a way to do it that isn’t “sneak up and tap”.

    I think I’ve heard maybe one person ever say they wish they had not done FL. Many people are glad they chose not to, but few who actually did seem to regret it.


    Post # 12
    2840 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @imanw:  I had always dreamed that the first time he’d see me would be as I was walking down the aisle, too.  For that reason we did only a first touch picture and not a first look picture.

    Post # 13
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I decided not to do a first look and (now) kind of wonder what it would be like if we did.  I think, ultimately, you just have to make a decision and go for it (but I wouldn’t let the photog pressure you into doing one thing or another).

    I have a friend that did a first look walking down the aisle – which I thought was a great idea for those who want the drama of walking down the aisle along with a first look. 

    I had a friend whose husband was upset (after the fact) that they did a first look vs. him first seeing her as she walked down the aisle.  They had talked about the logistics before hand, but he didn’t realize it was an issue for him until after they had been married.

    Personally, I got SO overwhelmed when the doors of the chapel opened and there was Darling Husband and the entire room filled.  I almost couldn’t TAKE it in (wait – I literally couldn’t take it in)… and I’m not quite sure I would have had that same emotion if we did a first look.  BUT – I also don’t think I needed quite so much emotion.  Meaning – walking down the aisle would have been JUST as special to me.  But, I wasn’t sure, so i went with the route of least disappointment from a (wow – first time) factor.


    Post # 14
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We did a first look picture, and it really helped calm my nerves when it was time to walk down the aisle. I made sure we got a picture at that moment, and I am SO, SO, SO glad I did that.

    However, we took pictures before the ceremony, so we kind of had to see each other. LOl.

    Post # 15
    3 posts
    • Wedding: June 2003

    Not a chance in heck I would have done a first look, then again, I don’t think first looks were as popular 10 years ago as they are now. If we were to do a vow renewal or something, I would certainly do a “first look”, but I guess I’m just one of those folks that feel like seeing your groom before the wedding ceremony is bad luck. LOL. Not saying it is, but I just couldn’t shake the idea, and I really really wanted the first time my husband (to-be) to see me in my wedding dress was walking down the aisle, heading to him.

    Post # 16
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We did a first look and didn’t regret it. Our wedding was intimate and private and we are also private people, so the FL really suited us/the moment. Also I really like that I was able to talk to him, spend some quiet time together and hear him say how beautiful I looked in my dress.  Honestly I was more nervous about the FL, then I was walking down the aisle.

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