(Closed) Did he ask your father first??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@brandybelle:  My fiancee didn’t ask, and until I read your reply, it had always irked me a little bit. I feel much better about it now ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@bella731:  Awe that would have been sweet! For her you both to have new rings ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I’m really close with my dad and he is very involved in both my Fiance and my life so I think he expected to be involved in the process to some degree. I’m glad your Fiance asked your father for his blessing on your marriage. It may be “traditional” and not a must for everyone but I understand you being excited about it as it is a sweet and respectful gesture. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance talked to my dad before proposing.  It wasn’t so much “asking” as it was just letting him know.  He told me all about it afterwards and my dad said some very touching things to him.  I had never considered talking to my dad as something he needed to do, but now I’m really glad he did because it definitely brought them closer together.  My dad is usually not one to share his feelings but it means a lot to me that he was able to do so with my Fiance.  

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

I supppose he didn’t ask permission, but I guess he asked for my parents’ blessing.   I thought it was sweet.  

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

Mine did! My mom said it was silly and he didn’t have to but I think it’s a very sweet gesture. I wasn’t there obviously, but he said it was a nice moment ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Fiance didn’t ask my father for permission because I don’t see my father, but he did tell my mum the night beforehand and asked for her blessing Smile I thought it was sweet. He also told my granny beforehand as well. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Fiance sat both my parents down and asked them together – he told me that he was planning on asking my dad, and I was the one who suggested including my mom. They both really appreciated it – my dad actually told my mom that he’d never regretted not getting *her* dad’s permission until my Fiance asked him for his.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes, my Fiance asked my dad

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My SO plans to ask my father for his blessing of us getting married….not his permission…..course my parents have been expecting it to come for atleast 5 years….sooo lol….

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance asked for my dad’s blessing and my dad directed him to my mom, the head of the household. My mom then went on to ask him a zillion questions….10 hours later we were engaged.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He asked. I (and my dad) would be upset if he didn’t and he knew this long before planning to propose. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My father’s not in the picture so my Fiance asked my mom for permission. We’re a pretty old-fashioned family, and his isn’t, so my mom (and I) were soooo impressed that he did. Even more impressed, considering we’ve been together almost 8 years and he and my mom are already pretty close. 

Post # 31
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yup. We are both from traditional families like that.

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