(Closed) Did he ask your parents’ permission to marry you?

posted 12 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did he ask your parents for permission to marry you?

    Yes, he asked permission, for their blessing, or otherwise informed them and I'm glad he did

    Yes, but I wish he hadn't...we are adults!

    No, and I'm glad he didn't...we are adults!

    No, but I wish he had asked or informed them

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 17
    153 posts
    Blushing bee

    I originally was okay with my FH not asking (because it made it a complete surprise to everyone, and you know, we’re freaking adults), but now I kind of wished he at least did a heads up.  He mentioned that he had a very complicated plan to get to from London to Chicago and ask, then find a way to get into my work in DC and propose.  It was just too difficult to organize, so he nixed it.  Oh well, our parents had already met, everyone is happy, so no big deal. 


    Post # 18
    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My fiance totally asked for my parents’ permission while we were visiting for the weekend.  He even managed to sneak around and show my parents, my sister, and my grandmother the ring while I was getting ready one day.  I was very glad he did  I think it got my parents excited and it meant a lot to them too.

    Post # 19
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    The Mr asked my dad if it would be okay if he proposed, now a bit of background of the Mr he is really shy and nervous about things. So my dad told him Of course it would be okay that it wouldnt make him any happier.

    I think its the sweetest thing ever and I love tradition. I think that it is only proper to ask permission or to ask for the blessing of the parents.

    Post # 20
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    He didn’t, but I wouldn’t have wanted him to. And my parents adore him, so it wouldn’t have mattered much if he had.

    Post # 21
    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I thought it was so cute the way it happened for me.  He didn’t ask their permission because he couldn’t find their phone number.  So he ended up calling them about 5 minutes after proposing to me, and he asked for their permission to propose without telling them I was right there.  I could hear them shrieking with excitement on the other end.  Then he said to them, "well good, because I just did it!" 

    Post # 22
    45 posts
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I was adamant that he not "ask" them, but he did inform them. Everyone (I mean EVERYONE—friends, parents, family, colleagues…) knew before I did!

    Post # 23
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

    He called my dad the morning of… he had been trying to talk to him in person, but my dad was always out of town.

    Post # 24
    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    yeah he did…I guess my dad didn’t know what to say so he said "well…good luck!" we still joke about it…lol

    Post # 25
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • V
    • 12 years ago

    I don’t think it has anything to do with being ‘adults’…there are plenty of ‘adults’ that make 5 yr. olds look like 60 yr. olds!

    IMO, it has to do with tradition and RESPECT. As a girl/woman, if you have a good relationship with your parents, is the best way to start a marriage (In-law relationships). Plus your Fiance gains ++++ brownie points. 


    Post # 26
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    he called my dad the weekend before he flew out and proposed and my dad could hardly keep it a secret for that long (though he did!)  It was definitely something he ws planning to do, but I let him know early on that he should ask my dad first, even if it was just a formality.  My dad would’ve had a hard time letting me go all the way across the country if he hadn’t.  But in the end my Fiance was himself, asking for a blessing and not permission :-). 

    Post # 27
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    He took my dad out to dinner to ask for his permission when I was studying in Crete! I’m glad that he did because my relationship with my parents is very important to me.

    Post # 28
    773 posts
    Busy bee

    My fiance didn’t ask my parents for permission.  To us it is a sort of antiquated/silly tradition– it’s not like my parents own me!  I don’t think they wanted/expected him to ask anyway- they’ve never said a word about it.  My parents and I are extremely close, By The Way.

    Post # 29
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My fi asked for my father’s blessing in person and then called my mom (they’re divorced) to tell her that he’d be proposing.  While it wasn’t necessary, I’m glad he did because it made my dad feel special.  I’m really surprised my mom was able to keep it a secret for 4 weeks because we talk almost every day!

    Post # 30
    2680 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes, he asked my dads permission.  He met him one day for lunch and asked him, Im sure my dad knew what was up though 🙂  My dad didnt tell my mom because I had already mentioned before that if he did ask my dad not to tell my mom because I would be able to tell when I talked to her.  She wouldve had that happy excited voice every time I called thinking I would be saying he proposed.  When I did call to tell them he asked, my mom had no idea and was mad my dad didnt tell her 🙂

    Post # 31
    7429 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My Fiance didn’t even know he was sposed to say anything to my parents. He didn’t find out til after he proposed that he was supposed to. Oops! But my parents love him so they forgave him

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