Post # 17
I originally was okay with my FH not asking (because it made it a complete surprise to everyone, and you know, we’re freaking adults), but now I kind of wished he at least did a heads up. He mentioned that he had a very complicated plan to get to from London to Chicago and ask, then find a way to get into my work in DC and propose. It was just too difficult to organize, so he nixed it. Oh well, our parents had already met, everyone is happy, so no big deal.
Post # 18
My fiance totally asked for my parents’ permission while we were visiting for the weekend. He even managed to sneak around and show my parents, my sister, and my grandmother the ring while I was getting ready one day. I was very glad he did I think it got my parents excited and it meant a lot to them too.
Post # 19
The Mr asked my dad if it would be okay if he proposed, now a bit of background of the Mr he is really shy and nervous about things. So my dad told him Of course it would be okay that it wouldnt make him any happier.
I think its the sweetest thing ever and I love tradition. I think that it is only proper to ask permission or to ask for the blessing of the parents.
Post # 20
He didn’t, but I wouldn’t have wanted him to. And my parents adore him, so it wouldn’t have mattered much if he had.
Post # 21
I thought it was so cute the way it happened for me. He didn’t ask their permission because he couldn’t find their phone number. So he ended up calling them about 5 minutes after proposing to me, and he asked for their permission to propose without telling them I was right there. I could hear them shrieking with excitement on the other end. Then he said to them, "well good, because I just did it!"
Post # 22
I was adamant that he not "ask" them, but he did inform them. Everyone (I mean EVERYONE—friends, parents, family, colleagues…) knew before I did!
Post # 23
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
He called my dad the morning of… he had been trying to talk to him in person, but my dad was always out of town.
Post # 24
yeah he did…I guess my dad didn’t know what to say so he said "well…good luck!" we still joke about it…lol
Post # 25
I don’t think it has anything to do with being ‘adults’…there are plenty of ‘adults’ that make 5 yr. olds look like 60 yr. olds!
IMO, it has to do with tradition and RESPECT. As a girl/woman, if you have a good relationship with your parents, is the best way to start a marriage (In-law relationships). Plus your Fiance gains ++++ brownie points.
Post # 26
he called my dad the weekend before he flew out and proposed and my dad could hardly keep it a secret for that long (though he did!) It was definitely something he ws planning to do, but I let him know early on that he should ask my dad first, even if it was just a formality. My dad would’ve had a hard time letting me go all the way across the country if he hadn’t. But in the end my Fiance was himself, asking for a blessing and not permission :-).
Post # 27
He took my dad out to dinner to ask for his permission when I was studying in Crete! I’m glad that he did because my relationship with my parents is very important to me.
Post # 28
My fiance didn’t ask my parents for permission. To us it is a sort of antiquated/silly tradition– it’s not like my parents own me! I don’t think they wanted/expected him to ask anyway- they’ve never said a word about it. My parents and I are extremely close, By The Way.
Post # 29
My fi asked for my father’s blessing in person and then called my mom (they’re divorced) to tell her that he’d be proposing. While it wasn’t necessary, I’m glad he did because it made my dad feel special. I’m really surprised my mom was able to keep it a secret for 4 weeks because we talk almost every day!
Post # 30
Yes, he asked my dads permission. He met him one day for lunch and asked him, Im sure my dad knew what was up though 🙂 My dad didnt tell my mom because I had already mentioned before that if he did ask my dad not to tell my mom because I would be able to tell when I talked to her. She wouldve had that happy excited voice every time I called thinking I would be saying he proposed. When I did call to tell them he asked, my mom had no idea and was mad my dad didnt tell her 🙂
Post # 31
My Fiance didn’t even know he was sposed to say anything to my parents. He didn’t find out til after he proposed that he was supposed to. Oops! But my parents love him so they forgave him