(Closed) Did he ask your parents’ permission to marry you?

posted 12 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did he ask your parents for permission to marry you?
    Yes, he asked permission, for their blessing, or otherwise informed them and I'm glad he did : (283 votes)
    68 %
    Yes, but I wish he hadn't...we are adults! : (2 votes)
    0 %
    No, and I'm glad he didn't...we are adults! : (93 votes)
    22 %
    No, but I wish he had asked or informed them : (24 votes)
    6 %
    Other (explain below) : (13 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 94
    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    He didn’t ask my parents. (But my parents have been wanting us to get married for years.)

    Post # 95
    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    No, there wasn’t really a point to, I have been my own person for years. Before we were engaged, we talked of the whole permission thing and I simply said that it was I who was getting married, not my father and so it was my permission he needed to ask to marry me, not my father’s and what if my Dad said no, he didn’t have his blessing? Why should I put my life on hold until he changed his mind? Once we were engaged, WE told my father who gave us a small prayer and blessing.

    Post # 96
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    He asked my daughter!!

    Post # 97
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    He didn’t ask for permission (I told him not to months before, because I felt we are adults and nobody except for myself can give permission!) but he did call and let them know he was going to do it. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 98
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    No he didnt ask but he didnt really ask me either ๐Ÿ˜€ We just decided we were going to get married and looked for a ring for 6+ months. BUT his mom had NO IDEA until a few weeks after my ring came in!

     I would have been mad if he had asked I dont like the idea of asking one bit. I am not owned by anyone & we have been living together our whole relationship.

    Post # 99
    722 posts
    Busy bee

    He did not-we did not even consider it. I am in my late 30’s and it would have been odd. We don’t ask them permission to do anything else so we wouldn’t do it here. My do like him very much and had been hoping it would happen.


    I did have someone ask me before who had asked my dad. This guy and i had only been dating 6 months and had never discussed the future-a complete surprise proposal. We were going to Italy together and before we left he asked my dad, and swore him to secrecy. So I got the proposal in Rome with the big ring and it completely came out of left field. Plus we were traveling together for 2 weeks after the proposal. I was pressured into saying yes, but called it off very quickly. My mom and i were both mad at my dad for not warning me! He has no idea what is going on in my relationships.

    Post # 100
    2828 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011


    I probably would have been offended if he had– my parents have never really been ‘hands on’ or involved in my life to a great extent, I’ve been independant & my own person for years. Besides, it’s not my families decison to make, it is ours and ours alone.

    Post # 101
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    he sure did ๐Ÿ™‚ and they were so excited to be included!  

    Post # 102
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I guess I’m in the minority here… my Fiance didn’t ask permission and I am glad that he didn’t.  I wouldn’t have been offended if he did ask, but I would have been a little “weirded out” for lack of a better term.  I think my parents would have been a little “weirded out” too.

    Post # 103
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    my parents love him and i know they approve. i also dont love the tradition because we are adults. however, to this day my mom still bitches that my dad never asked. so i told fi to ask. he didnt because he was afraid i would find out.  oh well, all worked out!!

    Post # 104
    516 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Nope, my Fiance decided not to because he didn’t want the suprise ruined. Everyone got over it quickly because Fiance went right to my dad after and appologized LOL

    Post # 105
    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Yep, he asked their permission! He was actually very sneaky about it – He was going to college and I was living at my parent’s hosue an hour and a half away while working full time. He actually drove all the way out during one of my Saturday shifts and asked for their permission. I didn’t know anything about this trip of course until after the proposal, but I was shocked they were all able to act so naturally!

    My parents definitely respected and appreciated it that he made the gesture. Of course we would have married with or without the blessing, buuuut it is the thought that counts.

    Post # 106
    4 posts

    I think it is sweet not so only really to ask permission but just to inform your parents beforehand, its nice for them to be in on the secret! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Boyfriend is actually at my house right now and im pretty sure he is asking as we type hehe ๐Ÿ™‚ NYC this weekend should be eventful!!! 

    Post # 107
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted “yes and I’m glad he did”.  My dad is my best friend (besides my fiance) and we’ve always been really close.  My fiance knows how important my dad and I are to each other.  When he asked for my dad’s permission, my dad said “what doe this got to do with me?  You are adults”! Then he gave his blessing, of course, haha! I am glad my fiance asked, even though he didn’t need to.  It shows me that he really respects my father and values his opinion… even though he still would have proposed if my dad said no, haha!

    Post # 108
    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yes he did. He actually took both my parents out to lunch. We have been together for 13 years, living together for 11 and own a house together. He even asked my dad to meet him in the city to helped pick out my ring. 

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