(Closed) Did he ask your parents’ permission to marry you?

posted 12 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did he ask your parents for permission to marry you?

    Yes, he asked permission, for their blessing, or otherwise informed them and I'm glad he did

    Yes, but I wish he hadn't...we are adults!

    No, and I'm glad he didn't...we are adults!

    No, but I wish he had asked or informed them

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 32
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wish he could ask my dad..but he passed away 10 years ago.

    He has met my grandparents, that’s a possibility.  My sis and bro in law and care of their opinion of him, and of course my son.  I know he will ask my son about it.  He’s already asked how my son would feel..of course really happy.

    Wierd part is my mom whom I love, is rather distant.  She hasn’t seen us in a few years and although I talk to her on the phone, he hasn’t met her in person and he’s asked me "when am I meeting your mom?"

    We’re already unofficially engaged and everybody knows we’re getting married this year though.

    Post # 33
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    182 posts
    Blushing bee

    He sure did! So sweet!

    Post # 34
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    397 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    He didn’t.  At first I was a little upset he didn’t.  But he thought there was no need to… being we had been together for 7 years and they knew it was coming.  I had always thought he would, and I love hearing the stories of the guys talking with your fathers.  I think it’s very respectful, even if it is unneccesary in this day and age.  Oh well, the Fiance had good reasoning that I agree with.

    Post # 35
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    absolutely he asked both my parents for permission…it was very important to him and definitely to my mom/dad!

    Post # 36
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    782 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    He asked both of my parents for their permission back in December (he proposed in February!), and both of my parents appreciated it very much!!!

    Post # 37
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    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    He asked for my dad’s permission….and in turn, my dad blew the surprise!"

    "It’ my understanding that this young man is planning on asking you to marry him, and I just wanted you to know that I gave him my blessing."

    Oops!

    Post # 38
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    5282 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Yes, he asked my dad while we were visting my parents, they kind of blew it though, because when I woke up the next morning there were two champagne glasses in the drying rack and I put two and two together ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 39
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Yes, he asked my dad, who managed to keep it a secret from everyone, including my mom!

    Post # 40
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    1356 posts
    Bumble bee

    He asked my dad, which meant SO much to my parents. Like many others on here, he asked for my dad’s blessing, rather than his permission.

    My sister’s husband, on the other hand, didn’t ask – and it definately didn’t go over well with my parents!

    Post # 41
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    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I am so glad to see that the choice, "Yes, and I wish he hadn’t!" got ZERO votes. Just goes to show how it’s good when you and your Fiance are on the same page.

    We discussed marriage and decided together that we were ready and what we were going to do about it. There was a "proposal" but I remember the moment that we went from talking about marriage as something in the indefinite future to when we were planning ours as the moment we became engaged. 

    Post # 42
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    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My Fiance asked me how he should approach my dad when he was ready to ask for his blessing.  I told him to just call him, because my dad is quiet and gets nervous about that kind of stuff.  A couple of weeks later I happened to be over at my mom and dad’s and the phone rang.  We could hear my dad talking and my mom wanted to know who it was.  She can be kinda nosy!  Anyway after the call my dad said it was Scottie and right then I knew what he had asked and so then I told my mom what had just happened and that she had to keep it a secret, because she would’ve told everyone she came in contact with, before the actual proposal.  It happened the next day and my Fiance to this day, still thinks, my mom didn’t know until I called her!! 

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    He and I went out to dinner with my parents and he asked them then! It was more of a formality than truly "asking" but they were really pleased with the tradition. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 44
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    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    He wrote my dad a letter from basic training. (We’re not lovestruck teenagers…we’re in our 20s!) It was amazing because everyone  in my family (and his!) knew he was going to propose. I have a really big family (5 sisters, 3 brothers) and he even asked all of my siblings if they would give him permission. The best one was my big brother. He’s stationed in Japan, and they played phone tag for a week! Then, 2 days before the big day, they finally caught each other. ๐Ÿ™‚ My family is really important to me, and the fact that he asked every permission meant a lot.

    Post # 45
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Yep, he asked them months before he proposed! It turns out he was trying to decide whether or not to give me my "dream" ring or his grandmother’s ring. It turns out his grandmother’s ring was my dream ring all along…sigh.

    Post # 46
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    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    He couldn’t do it in person since every time we saw my parents, I was there.  He called my brother to set up a phone time…actually, he emailed my brother to set a time for a phone call, so he can run by my brother how to go about asking my parents; my brother misunderstood and had my parents all ready and present when my FH called – so then he just asked!  ๐Ÿ™‚

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