(Closed) Did he have a ring before asking for blessing…?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Helper bee

Ring first, blessing second, then proposal.

 

It was less of a ‘blessing’ than a ‘hey I’m going to propose to your daughter, you won’t kill me right?’ conversation. 😛

Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

DH had the stone, but the ring was still in the production phase (custom-made) when he spoke to my parents. I think it was more of a heads-up that he was going to propose than a request for a blessing. 

His parents had already started treating me like a daughter (his dad even asked me to dance during a father-daughter dance at a wedding), so we had their tacit blessing already. My parents were suprised he approached them, but thought it was a sweet gesture. 

 

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

TL;DR he didn’t ask because he knows me, and knows I would have been REALLY annoyed.  But if it’s important to you that he does, maybe talk to him about it.

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lahela017 :  agreed, before we got engaged a few of my friends asked if i thought he would ask for “permission/blessing” from my mom.  (a friend just got married and her parents were asked for permission) I told them that if he did, then maybe he didn’t really know me.  As much as I love my mom, I haven’t asked for permission on making life choices since I was 13, and I’m not going to start again now.  I too felt that I should be the first person to hear about it, and I was 🙂

 

That being said, my mom would have enjoyed being asked but she knows me, and knew she probably wouldn’t be hearing about it until I did.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

He did not as for anyne permission to marry me becasue I am a grown woman. I would have been very angry if he asked my parents. 

He did however ask my dog. Which I loved. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

He bought the ring and as far as I know he has yet to talk to my parents. We don’t need their blessing but we both want it, I have older parents so tradtion is important to them, I am thier only child so the thought of doing something this important without just didn’t sit right with me. I told my SO that the only thing I care about when it comes to a proposal is that I wanted him to talk to my parents.

Post # 36
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43 posts
Newbee

He has had the ring for a long time and hasn’t asked for my families blessing. I have a feeling he might not ask them at all though.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Dallas Arboretum and Botanical Gardens

Hew had the ring for weeks before he asked their blessing. They is no way they would have said no, but he said he was just that nervous lol

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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winebarbiekiss :  He decided he wants to marry me, he bought the ring, proposed, I accepted, we’re getting married, Yay! 😀. We dont need anyone’s permission/approval/blessing or anything, we will be 32 and 40 y.o at our wedding, have been living in sin and fornicating for 5 years. Baha :)) We are rebels, yaaas! 🙄😏😂

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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musicluvr325 :  😍😂 this is the best. Too bad the dog is our mutual dog (well he rescued the dog a month before we met, so the dog is a little more his than mine) otherwise I would have wanted him to ask the dog for sure!

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I honestly never realised that asking for ‘permission’ was still a thing 0.o

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

He bought the ring, informed my dad (definitely didn’t ask for permission – more of a “heads up” than anything), then proposed a couple of weeks later.

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