Did he (or she, or you) get down on one knee?

posted 1 year ago in Proposals
Post # 76
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Newbee

Yes he got on one knee.  It wouldn’t have mattered to me if he didn’t but OH is quite old fashioned with his values and it was ‘the right thing to do’ in his eyes. The whole thing was just lush though, he was a total cutie.

Post # 77
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Busy bee

no proposal yet with my partner (we’re on an early summer timeline), but about six months into our relationship, we were touring a botanical garden at the height of spring. There was this one spot that was so clearly where someone would propose… perfectly framed for a photo, truly romantic from all angles, whispy trees with delicate petals falling all around us. We were just standing there, taking in the beauty, and he slowly gets down on one knee next to me (we’re surrounded by people who, at this point, are looking at us expecting a proposal). I saw him out of the side of my eye and just turned and hit him on the arm. We both burst into laughter. 

I knew he was messing with me (we were only together for six months, that would have been insane). It was just a perfect setting and would have made a perfect proposal….. a year plus later! 

Those poor onlookers were probably so confused.

It DID make me realize that I 100% do NOT want a public proposal with onlookers, and that I didn’t necessarily need the kneeling proposal, so that was something I definitely told him afterward. 

Post # 78
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Helper bee

Yes, both times. More of a traditional romantic gesture. It was sweet.

Post # 79
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Blushing bee

Love hearing everyone’s different stories! My fiancée did get on one knee… In the absolute pouting rain 😅 and wouldn’t budge until I’d given a literal ‘yes’ rather than ‘of course’ or ‘I would love to’ 😍 bless him! His jeans were so wet from the water creeping up his knee! 

I was engaged once before in my very early 20s too and he didn’t get on his knee. It. Wasn’t really a proposal, was just sort of told we seemed to be going that way and handed a ring box 🙈

 

Post # 80
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Blushing bee

My husband did get down on one knee.  He proposed in front of the giant Christmas tree in Chicago, it was very sweet.  I wouldn’t have cared either way, but it was important to him to do the knee thing, and he said later that he really wanted it to be sincere and special because he knew I had been proposed to before in a bizarre manner (my ex proposed by saying “here.” and tried to hand me a ring box while I was up to my elbows in soap, washing the dishes.  I said no, lol).

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

 

Long story short – no. A bit of me wishes he did (really just for the retelling of it/societal expectations; the meaning to ME was still there!), but it was in bed on a Saturday morning after he’d been up all night thinking about the future, the house we were buying together, etc. I’d been wanting it for months (and so had my mom, his mom, his sister, my friends, etc) and had made it abundantly clear what my answer would be. Turns out what had held him up was initially covid and the protests dashing his ideas for how to propose (it would have been downtown, doing the same thing we had on our first date), and then he misunderstood and thought I NEEDED him to ask my dad, and again – pandemic, so that took months. 

I cried a lot. A LOT. He makes me tear up on a regular basis by doing the tiniest things – it’s disgusting but goes to show how much HAPPIER I am in this relationship than the previous ones!

No ring; I knew he hadn’t even started looking and he was so weird about not wanting me to ‘basically pick out my own ring’ (that seemed to ruin it a bit for him). On the other hand, I know his taste and he would’ve gotten me a solitaire with a plain band, and I knew I wanted a pave band, round cut with a halo, either lab diamond or moissanite, so I was fine with him not having one. I was totally fine with picking it out together but he’d been very reluctant, but my mom made a point to mention (when he was asking them) that my dad didn’t have a ring ready either, and that he proposed when they were sitting on the couch, no fanfare, and that it’s totally fine. His parents were similarly no-fuss. 

We picked out the ring together and I’m perfectly happy with that – I REALLY wanted that specific style, but also wanted to make sure we were on the same page with the budget (I don’t need an 8k ring). I had done a bunch of research, and I would’ve hated for him to accidentally spend more or less than I was okay with, get the totally wrong style for my taste, etc. We got my dream ring and a little under budget, so we went ahead and got the matching wedding band. 

And then of course like 20 minutes after proposing he tells me he’s fine with going to the courthouse that week…. -facepalm- 

Post # 82
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@peanutbutterandjam:  

l think my first husband did, too long ago to remember really, but we bought/ chose  the ring together, so perhaps not.  
This time there had been some kneeling involved but not of the proposal sort . We were in bed and the question came after, as it were. Something like ‘do you think it would be cool to be married?’ 

Post # 83
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2022 - Newton Square, PA

No, he didn’t. We were carving pumpkins on the floor, I got up to pee, and he put my ring on one of the stems then waited for me to notice. It took like half an hour tbh. 

Post # 84
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Helper bee

My husband did get dowm on his knee. He’d gone to quite a bit of an effort- he actually managed to book out the entire zoo and proposed in the enclosure with my favourite animal. It was amazing and I knew something was up and was super nervous so I can’t remember what he said! 

Post # 85
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not that it would matter as he prepared 12 love letters, a video and a speech, but he did and it was perfect!!

I don’t really get the unequal comment though. I see it as a nice gesture for asking something very important in most honorable/sweetest way.

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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@gimmepretty:  That’s a mature and highly romantic proposal.  I Love it!!!!!  Says a lot about your relationship 

Post # 87
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Busy bee

He got down on one knee.  Prior to this we went to several ring stores where i tried on a bunch of styles and picked out a list of about 5 that i liked.  He bought 1 of the 5 which happened to be my fav (but i never told him).  I’m glad he got one of the ones i liked as im super picky and would want a say in it!

I find going to one knee romantic

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - Boulder, Colorado

Nope. We talked seriously about getting engaged and it took me a while to get comfortable with the idea. After a few months of adjustment, I started to refer to us as engaged.

I’m not a fan of gender roles or traditional expectations, so we’ve done most of it differently. It’s very important to me that we each do and get the same thing. We are both getting a custom diamond engagement ring (albeit with different designs), which we have designed together. If I get a second (wedding) ring, so will he. We are planning to take his grandmother’s maiden name as our married name. There is no expectation for which person has to pay for what, because we generally share our finances anyway. Fiancé feels less strongly about gender roles than I do, but he does share the same views and is glad that there’s less pressure on him to pull everything off himself.

Post # 89
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Bumble bee

Nope. We discussed getting married and agreed we were engaged. If he had gotten down on one knee it would have been very uncomfortable and embarrassing for me. I’m not some princess or aristocratic lady in the regency era or something. Thank god it didn’t happen! 

Post # 90
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - Boulder, Colorado

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@yogahammy:  This is exactly how we feel about it too!

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