(Closed) Did he picked a ring for you entirely on his own? If so do you like it?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@Nena16:  Thank you so much!! That is super sweet 🙂 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I had no idea and he had no idea what I wanted. He told me he looked on my Pinterest page but didn’t see any and didn’t talk to my family about it.

i do like my ring, is it what I would have chosen… No. But it’s beautiful and has grown on me. I am having my wedding band custom made so it will hopefully look a little more of what I want but still keep what he gave me 🙂

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

Athough I am still “waiting” we picked my ring together.  Initially he asked what I liked (shapes ect) but I quickly realized my baby as much as I love him knows absolutely NOTHING about rings, diamonds, settings, ect.  All he knows is they are expensive. After looking at a few rings online, we realized he and I had different tastes. I also realized what I though I wanted didnt appeal to me in real life.

We are a bit different however, we are in our mid-30’s, buying a house soon, and knew from our 2nd date we would eventually wed, so the “surprise” element was never really there; plus I have a child from a prior relationship so we often discuss our future since it isnt just about “me,” and I include my daughter in all major decisions.

Anyway, we went shopping one day, we fell in love with a particular setting, it was unique (my wish) and elegant and sparkly (his wish), he picked a diamond for the center stone (he wanted a large diamond 2 ct+, I was more concerned with cut, color, and clarity – so we compromised in the middle getting a 1 ct brilliant round with excellent cut, color, and clarity), they made the ring while we went out to lunch and that was that.  I know what my setting looks like and what diamond he picked, and waited in the car when he picked it up…but as for my actual ring … I will have to wait until the proposal to see the final product.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yes, I wanted him to pick it completely on his own. All he knew was that I didn’t want a diamond because I had mentioned it in passing many times. He did an amazing job and I wouldn’t change a thing.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard

@brazilian_american:  he picked mine on his own, but I hinted a little. I said square, simple, and not too big. I love my ring, but there were a couple things I would have worded differently. He misunderstood “square” (I meant cut), and got me a round diamond in a square illusion setting. it’s really cool though. also, I did not know one single thing about fine jewelry. when I said “not too big”, I was picturing something roughly 1ct in my head. I should have done my homework so I could have asked for 1ct.  I wound up with .5ct. both of us knew so little that we didn’t even find out the size of that stone until we got it appraised. but again, I really am very happy with it. I was mostly concerned about design and in that sense he nailed it. 

I think there is nothing wrong with giving guidelines on what you want, whether it’s vague or really specific. besides, he might really appreciate the help. it’s a very stressful purchase to make on your own!

EDIT: even though I had hinted to him, it was still 100% a surprise. I had literally not one clue when he started shopping for it. I hope you get to have your surprise too! 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard

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@marie02:  OMG, I love it!

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t tell him what to get, but he did know that I like round stones. I can’t remember if he asked or if I just pointed it out at some point, but other than that he didnt have any guidance from me. He did an amazing job!

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had no say in my ring – he went to the jewelry store and said he wanted something simple, which I appreciated – I wouldn’t have been able to handle a big, intricate ring.  Would I have picked something else?  Perhaps, but I doubt what I picked would have ended up going so well with the heirloom band I ended up getting from my grandmother.

Besides, I can always wear rings I pick on my right hand!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I mentioned to my sweetie that I preferred round, oval, or pear stone shapes, but otherwise it was 100% up to him. Not only is it classic and perfect, it’s also endearing to think of all the research he did into the “4 C’s” and then picked this ring especially for me! I got to pick my wedding band, so I got to do some shopping later.

Post # 26
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Helper bee

@brazilian_american:  I actually made him a 4-5 page word doc with pics of what I like and don’t like (complete with arrows and circles and descriptions). That way he would be sure to not get me something I hated, but the ring would be a surprise. We actually just ended up using my grandmas ring (which I love and am still waiting for) so all that work was for nothing Haha

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Fiance and I went ring shopping a few times just for me to get an idea of what type of ring I liked. I tried on many different styles and fell in love with the halos  and the clusters that formed a floral design. That was the extent of my input! He picked out my ering all by himself and he chose one with both styles I loved. He did an amazing job and I adore his selection!  

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@brazilian_american:  All I said was that I wanted something small that didn’t cost a fortune – he did awesome and I love my ring! 🙂

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am like you very picky, I have shown him a few pictures online, and it seemed like he brushed me off. When I would see a ring on a friend I would always comment on what I liked and didnt like about it. He was very sly and had the ring hidden at our house for almost 4 months before he proposed. What a tricker, didnt know that he could keep such secrets from me! Anyways my ring turned out perfect and exactly how I wanted. I am glad that I “guided” him in the right direction because he would of picked something else a lot more tradional then what I would have wanted.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yes and no. We had previously talked about rings and he had made it pretty clear how much he likes the look of solitaires… I had no idea how passionately he felt about that! He was also very headstrong about certain aspects of the ring (clarity, metal, colour and where it was from). I basically told him which cuts I prefer and he did the rest. I love it! Honestly though, he could have given me anything and I would love it.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

SO and I have been looking at rings and so far we seem to have an idea what we both like.  

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