(Closed) Did he see you in the dress before the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Show him or not.
    Guilty : (27 votes)
    20 %
    No way!!! : (107 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    He was actually the one who took the picture of me in the dress. He came with me when I tried on dresses because I really wanted his input on my dress. Basically, I think it’s our wedding and I want him to be just as happy as I am with the dress. Plus, I already had an idea of what dress I wanted, so I wanted to see his reaction to it. But he won’t be there for any of my fittings (so he won’t see it fitting properly). Basically, he won’t see me all done up and it fitting properly until the wedding day, which is good enough for me. Plus, I don’t have to worry about whether he likes the dress on me or not. He loves it just as much as I do! ๐Ÿ™‚

    He thought it was a silly tradition. I understand it, but I don’t want to follow it. Either way, I don’t think you’re crazy! lol

    Post # 4
    296 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I broke tradition! Considering we eloped first, it was hard not to show him. He is my absolute best friend and also my BIGGEST fashion CRITIC! I showed him all of the pics of the gowns I tried on and let him narrow it down to a few. My mom actually suggested I show him some pictures so I can get a feel of what he likes, but then it ended up being all of them. On top of it all being in a new area with not that many friends and having a deadline to met, I needed some opinions! WEDDING DRESS SHOPPING WAS BY FAR THE HARDEST THING for me to do! I didn’t have THE FEELING, in the end I picked the one that looked best on me and I was ok with the PRICE TAG! Smile

    Post # 5
    1518 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    No i waited until we did a 1st look before he saw what my dress looked liked. We wanting to keep with tradition by waiting until the wedding day (even through we did 1st look) because it is exciting and he wanted the surprise. 

    Post # 6
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am not even doing a 1st look ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Heavens, no! He isn’t even seeing a PICTURE of the dress. It’s staying safely tucked in its garment bag until the moment I walk down the aisle.


    Post # 8
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    no way! he’ll see it at the first look instead of the aisle, but definitely not before that!

    Post # 9
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yup.  He’s seen me in the one I WAS going to use (vintage gown that was given to me, but isn’t ME) and I kept bugging him about “what do you think?” while looking online.  

    Besides, I know too much about the reasoning behind the whole “why a bride wore a veil” and “can’t see the bride before the wedding day”.  Not to mention the reason white is used now for wedding gowns.  Learning the history behind the traditions/beliefs really takes the fun out of weddings for some people.  

    There’s also the fact that I already know what he’s wearing, we’ve been living together for over two years now, have been together for 8 and have a daughter together.  Kinda pointless to keep something as trivial (in my opinion) as a wedding gown secret.

    Post # 10
    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nope!  And he’s the one that doesn’t want to!  He is adamant about not seeing me until the ceremony…I wanted to do a first look, but he vetoed it.  I can’t stop myself from showing him pictures of all kinds of dresses, just to see his reaction, and he refuses to react.  He’s gotten to the point where he’s banned all discussion of wedding dresses! ๐Ÿ™  haha

    Post # 11
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Since many of our wedding details are non-traditional, we decided on a few traditions we would stick to. Fiance is not spending the night with me the night before the wedding, and he will not see the dress until I enter the church.

    Now, logistically, it may not work out. We are traveling together to our destination wedding, and I’m carrying my wedding dress on the plane with me, so it’s possible he may stumble across me stuffing it in the garment bag or taking it out at the hotel. And I have pictures on my cell phone and my email account, so if he was snoopy he wouldn’t have any trouble finding out what it looked like. But we’re trying to keep it a surprise. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yup; after I bought my dress he helped me into it himself so I could show it to him! I share everything else that’s fun and exciting with him, so why not the dress? Besides, I figure just seeing the dress on will be nothing like seeing the whole shebang (hair, make-up, dress, accessories, blah blah blah) and he’ll probably forget what it looks like by the time the wedding rolls around anyway lol

    Post # 13
    38 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    He hasn’t, but I completely understand your post — I’m used to sharing everything with him and would love for us to decide about the dress together!  He said he would look at it if I want him to, but our moms keep saying that he can’t see it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We did the first look the day of the wedding, but he didn’t see it before then.

    Post # 15
    5282 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    No, I didn’t want him to see anything. And it was funny b/c he didn’t want to show me his vest,tie, or cufflinks either! haha!

    Post # 16
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I wouldn’t even let him know what it looked like. I gave him a very vague idea so he would know what he should wear. But I had some fun with him and would always tell him lies about the dress, like it had big poofy sleeves and hot pink stripes. He never knew if I was serious or joking so he was afraid to say something in case it was true!

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