Post # 1
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Worker bee
When a couple of my friends found out that I had sent my fiance a picture of myself in my dress they nearly had heart attacks. “Oh my gosh! What?! He’s not supposed to see that until your wedding day!!!!!!” I do think that is a really cute tradition, but I just couldn’t resist. He’s my best friend and I always have such a desirte to tell him about/show him anything and everything that I experience right when it happens. This was no exception. Plus, it was just a picture. Won’t compare to the real deal.
So what about any of you ladies? Did you break tradition too or do you think I’m crazy : p
Post # 3
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Helper bee
He was actually the one who took the picture of me in the dress. He came with me when I tried on dresses because I really wanted his input on my dress. Basically, I think it’s our wedding and I want him to be just as happy as I am with the dress. Plus, I already had an idea of what dress I wanted, so I wanted to see his reaction to it. But he won’t be there for any of my fittings (so he won’t see it fitting properly). Basically, he won’t see me all done up and it fitting properly until the wedding day, which is good enough for me. Plus, I don’t have to worry about whether he likes the dress on me or not. He loves it just as much as I do! 🙂
He thought it was a silly tradition. I understand it, but I don’t want to follow it. Either way, I don’t think you’re crazy! lol
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I broke tradition! Considering we eloped first, it was hard not to show him. He is my absolute best friend and also my BIGGEST fashion CRITIC! I showed him all of the pics of the gowns I tried on and let him narrow it down to a few. My mom actually suggested I show him some pictures so I can get a feel of what he likes, but then it ended up being all of them. On top of it all being in a new area with not that many friends and having a deadline to met, I needed some opinions! WEDDING DRESS SHOPPING WAS BY FAR THE HARDEST THING for me to do! I didn’t have THE FEELING, in the end I picked the one that looked best on me and I was ok with the PRICE TAG! 
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
No i waited until we did a 1st look before he saw what my dress looked liked. We wanting to keep with tradition by waiting until the wedding day (even through we did 1st look) because it is exciting and he wanted the surprise.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I am not even doing a 1st look 🙂
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
Heavens, no! He isn’t even seeing a PICTURE of the dress. It’s staying safely tucked in its garment bag until the moment I walk down the aisle.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
no way! he’ll see it at the first look instead of the aisle, but definitely not before that!
Post # 9
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Honey bee
Yup. He’s seen me in the one I WAS going to use (vintage gown that was given to me, but isn’t ME) and I kept bugging him about “what do you think?” while looking online.
Besides, I know too much about the reasoning behind the whole “why a bride wore a veil” and “can’t see the bride before the wedding day”. Not to mention the reason white is used now for wedding gowns. Learning the history behind the traditions/beliefs really takes the fun out of weddings for some people.
There’s also the fact that I already know what he’s wearing, we’ve been living together for over two years now, have been together for 8 and have a daughter together. Kinda pointless to keep something as trivial (in my opinion) as a wedding gown secret.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
Nope! And he’s the one that doesn’t want to! He is adamant about not seeing me until the ceremony…I wanted to do a first look, but he vetoed it. I can’t stop myself from showing him pictures of all kinds of dresses, just to see his reaction, and he refuses to react. He’s gotten to the point where he’s banned all discussion of wedding dresses! 🙁 haha
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Since many of our wedding details are non-traditional, we decided on a few traditions we would stick to. Fiance is not spending the night with me the night before the wedding, and he will not see the dress until I enter the church.
Now, logistically, it may not work out. We are traveling together to our destination wedding, and I’m carrying my wedding dress on the plane with me, so it’s possible he may stumble across me stuffing it in the garment bag or taking it out at the hotel. And I have pictures on my cell phone and my email account, so if he was snoopy he wouldn’t have any trouble finding out what it looked like. But we’re trying to keep it a surprise. 🙂
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Yup; after I bought my dress he helped me into it himself so I could show it to him! I share everything else that’s fun and exciting with him, so why not the dress? Besides, I figure just seeing the dress on will be nothing like seeing the whole shebang (hair, make-up, dress, accessories, blah blah blah) and he’ll probably forget what it looks like by the time the wedding rolls around anyway lol
Post # 13
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Newbee
He hasn’t, but I completely understand your post — I’m used to sharing everything with him and would love for us to decide about the dress together! He said he would look at it if I want him to, but our moms keep saying that he can’t see it. 🙂
Post # 14
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Busy bee
We did the first look the day of the wedding, but he didn’t see it before then.
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
No, I didn’t want him to see anything. And it was funny b/c he didn’t want to show me his vest,tie, or cufflinks either! haha!
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
I wouldn’t even let him know what it looked like. I gave him a very vague idea so he would know what he should wear. But I had some fun with him and would always tell him lies about the dress, like it had big poofy sleeves and hot pink stripes. He never knew if I was serious or joking so he was afraid to say something in case it was true!
