Post # 32
I actually brought him wiht me to try on dresses because I really valued his opinion. And honestly, wearing a dress in a salon that is too big with ur hair down and no makeup will not even COMPARE to seeing me on my wedding day all down up! Plus, these are guys, you think they are going to remember details from your wedding dress?
Post # 33
He won’t even look at the sketch of my dress!! I’m dying to show him but really want to wait….it’s like holding a Christmas gift 2 weeks before Dec 25 and not being able to open it!!
Post # 34
@Adriana.Niva: Haha, I’m parially counting on him forgetting what it looks like. I feel like even though he has seen a picture of me in the dress. A year from now that image will be so faded that when he sees me on our wedding day in the dress properly fitted AND with hair and makeup, he will still feel like he’s seeing me for the first time like that.
Post # 35
We’re both terrible at keeping secrets from each other. I managed to pretty much keep my first dress a secret from him (showed him an ad of one similar) but when that blew up he came with me shopping for the second dress. Mom still doesn’t know- she thinks Bridesmaid or Best Man L drove me and I just happened to be able to us FH’s credit card… She was already upset I let him help me shop online for options.
We’re not having a first look the day of, and I can trust seeing the dress ahead of time doesn’t ruin anything. He’s going to cry regardless.
Post # 36
I did everything the nontraditional way. We got dressed together, went to the ceremony together, greeted guests together (had a 60 person wedding), and waited together for our time to go to the ceremony. It just fit us. I also showed him a million dresses and wanted his opinion, although looking back, it didn’t matter if he liked it or not bc he would have been fine with any dress! Unless it was really off the wall or something.
Best of luck!
Post # 37
I think it’s fine if you want to show your Fiance the dress. I didn’t, and he even though he sort of wants to see it and I sort of want to show it to him, we’re both excited for the big reveal on our wedding day.
To those of you who say he won’t remember what the dress looks like, doesn’t that defy the point? I want him to see me on our wedding day and ALWAYS remember what I looked like in that dress, the day I got all dolled up to marry him. So even though we’re doing a first look, I don’t want to spoil that moment.
Post # 38
We did a first look before the ceremony, but he didn’t see it until then.
Post # 39
He was with me when I bought it. We had just moved to a new city and I didn’t know anyone. I wanted the opinion of someone who wasn’t going to get a commission on the sale, who would tell me if I should keep looking, and who’s input I value over anyone else’s. For a while he was even looking at dresses online and emailing me links of the ones he liked the best.
Then, a week or so before the wedding, I tried it on with the shoes and the veil and all to show my mother, who hadn’t seen it yet, and Darling Husband came into the room without knocking.
PS We got some horrified looks when I introduced him as my Fiance in the salon. Pretty much every employee within earshot (and several other customers). I swear one bride even crossed herself. You’d think we were blatantly breaking a law or something (instead of a commonly practiced tradtion). The only one nonplussed was our actual consultant, who took kind of a “hey, whatever floats your boat” stance.
Post # 40
@Mrs Sarah McK: I know the feeling! I brought my Fiance, my grandma, and my aunt and I got so many looks and comments. Even my consultant was saying “Well, we don’t get many men in here… especially not the fiance.” Even my own consultant wasn’t totally comfortable with the idea. My grandma and my aunt just made fun of the fact he was there. They were totally fine with it because they know I’m not exactly traditional.
Post # 41
I definitely didn’t let him see because of the tradition, and it was so hard to keep it from him! I turned it into a game, though, and kept “slipping” fake facts about my dress to him. By the end of our engagement, he had been told that my dress was super poofy, covered in bows, had sleeves, and a five-foot train!
Post # 42
When I bought my dress, they took a picture of me in the sample, and I took it home and showed it to my fiance right away. I couldn’t resist. He got all teary-eyed, which is not like him! I bought my dress almost a year before the wedding though, and only showed him the picture once. He asked to see it later on and I said no. It looked completely different on me on our wedding day anyway, because it was properly fitted, and he admitted he didn’t really remember what it looked like anyway. We’re not a traditional couple, so it didn’t bother me to show him ahead of time.
Post # 43
He’s actually been the one helping me pick out dresses, since most of my girlfriends & family (mom/sister) are either too far away or too busy to hang around and tell me my butt looks big.
I think it is a really cute tradition to keep is a surprise, but he would be ‘wowed’ if I were walking down the aisle in a burlap sack.
Post # 44
Well, he has seen me in a wedding dress, we went dress shopping together; just not “the dress”.