(Closed) Did I accidentally steal her thunder?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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4036 posts
Honey bee

Do nothing. They’re the ones behaving badly. If you had grabbed the microphone, at his wedding reception, and announced it, that would have been over the top. They’ll just have to get over the fact that they aren’t the only people, in the universe.

Post # 3
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4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No way, you have nothing to apologize for. I wouldn’t even bring it up, especially since you’re “being told” that your relatives are mad. It could be that whoever your source is is blowing it out of proportion.

Just let it be unless someone confronts you directly. You have done absolutely nothing wrong.

Post # 4
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135 posts
Blushing bee

You didn’t steal anybody’s thunder. They need to get over it. 

Post # 5
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8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Please don’t even entertain this nonsense.

Post # 6
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Gawd, what is the world coming to where people have to hide their good news for fear of offending someone else’s spotlight? geez! What a bunch of whiney assed divas! Enjoy your day, and you are more than entitled to announce your news however you see fit 🙂

Post # 7
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288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

noms…cake:  People need to get over this notion that no one can announce their happiness the month they are getting married, having a baby or getting engaged. You don’t owe anyone an apology. Tell your aunt and your cousin I said “Get over it! You don’w own a month.”

Post # 8
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3199 posts
Sugar bee

Don’t even bother.  If you were constantly one-upping  and turning the conversation top you,  I would suggest you stop being egotistical. But if people are asking and it is normal conversation, they need to get over it.  

Post # 9
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953 posts
Busy bee

I don’t get it? You are stealing the Thunder because u posted on fb that you are engaged?

That’s messed up. They are getting married in a few weeks…your not. You got engaged…where is the Thunder stealing? 

 

Post # 10
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2521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Youve got nothing to apologise for. It’s not like you got engaged at their wedding or announced your engagement the same day they did. Everyone lives their own lives.

You may not want to do too much wedding talk especially if they are talking about the cousins wedding…you can wait a little bit until after the wedding. But by talking about it a little is fine. 

Post # 11
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235 posts
Helper bee

They have literally no reason to be mad or upset or jealous or whatever…

Post # 12
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824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Honestly, if you didn’t even know then why are they mad? I believe in respecting other people’s events and happiness but it is not like you actually disrespected that 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

noms…cake:  That is so ridiculous!!!!! So because your cousin is getting married in a few weeks, you can’t have a life? My cousin got engaged 3 months before my wedding and it was fantastic HUGE news. I would have felt like such an asshole if she couldn’t announce it because of my wedding. That’s so stupid it makes me mad for you!!!!

If they can’t be happy for you for such a huge step in your life, they are horrible people, starting with your cousin. 

Post # 14
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2350 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am pretty sensitive to things like this and to be honest, I don’t feel like announcing an engagement near a wedding is stealing any thunder. Now, having an emergency impromptu wedding the day before another family wedding, maybe. But I don’t think your current situation is anything to dwell on.

 

 

Post # 15
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547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

So no one is allowed to be excited enough to share good news because a relative is getting married in a few weeks?!?!? Ridiculous! Don’t apologize, don’t explain. You’re doing nothing wrong. Good Lord. Think if it was reversed and you were the one finding out a cousin was engaged weeks before your wedding. Would you seriously be offended that someone stole your thunder? I hope not. 

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