Post # 1
For starters, I don’t really believe in this whole “I get a wedding month” kind of thing, but I realise that other people do so I try to respect that without curtailing my own plans too much. I recently got engaged on New Years Day and for a variety of reasons (namely a family funeral and then waiting to tell people in person) we waited to make it official to the masses (aka on facebook) for a couple of weeks. Before the engagement though, I knew it was going to happen and told my extended family, specifically my aunt and cousins on Christmas Eve, and they were excited – I even showed them pictures of the ring. I told them roughly when it would happen and everyone seemed happy and on board. So we’ve just announced on facebook and now I’m being told that my aunt and cousins may be upset because my male cousin is getting married in a few weeks.
Should I apologize? I’m more inclined to think that I gave everyone fair warning so they should have voiced their concerns then, and since they didn’t the bride (and my aunt and cousins) should just suck it up.
So what do I do? I live on the same street as my cousins and I don’t want this to cause an issue.
Post # 2
Do nothing. They’re the ones behaving badly. If you had grabbed the microphone, at his wedding reception, and announced it, that would have been over the top. They’ll just have to get over the fact that they aren’t the only people, in the universe.
Post # 3
No way, you have nothing to apologize for. I wouldn’t even bring it up, especially since you’re “being told” that your relatives are mad. It could be that whoever your source is is blowing it out of proportion.
Just let it be unless someone confronts you directly. You have done absolutely nothing wrong.
Post # 4
You didn’t steal anybody’s thunder. They need to get over it.
Post # 5
Please don’t even entertain this nonsense.
Post # 6
Gawd, what is the world coming to where people have to hide their good news for fear of offending someone else’s spotlight? geez! What a bunch of whiney assed divas! Enjoy your day, and you are more than entitled to announce your news however you see fit 🙂
Post # 7
noms…cake: People need to get over this notion that no one can announce their happiness the month they are getting married, having a baby or getting engaged. You don’t owe anyone an apology. Tell your aunt and your cousin I said “Get over it! You don’w own a month.”
Post # 8
Don’t even bother. If you were constantly one-upping and turning the conversation top you, I would suggest you stop being egotistical. But if people are asking and it is normal conversation, they need to get over it.
Post # 9
I don’t get it? You are stealing the Thunder because u posted on fb that you are engaged?
That’s messed up. They are getting married in a few weeks…your not. You got engaged…where is the Thunder stealing?
Post # 10
Youve got nothing to apologise for. It’s not like you got engaged at their wedding or announced your engagement the same day they did. Everyone lives their own lives.
You may not want to do too much wedding talk especially if they are talking about the cousins wedding…you can wait a little bit until after the wedding. But by talking about it a little is fine.
Post # 11
They have literally no reason to be mad or upset or jealous or whatever…
Post # 12
Honestly, if you didn’t even know then why are they mad? I believe in respecting other people’s events and happiness but it is not like you actually disrespected that
Post # 12
noms…cake: That is so ridiculous!!!!! So because your cousin is getting married in a few weeks, you can’t have a life? My cousin got engaged 3 months before my wedding and it was fantastic HUGE news. I would have felt like such an asshole if she couldn’t announce it because of my wedding. That’s so stupid it makes me mad for you!!!!
If they can’t be happy for you for such a huge step in your life, they are horrible people, starting with your cousin.
Post # 14
I am pretty sensitive to things like this and to be honest, I don’t feel like announcing an engagement near a wedding is stealing any thunder. Now, having an emergency impromptu wedding the day before another family wedding, maybe. But I don’t think your current situation is anything to dwell on.
Post # 15
So no one is allowed to be excited enough to share good news because a relative is getting married in a few weeks?!?!? Ridiculous! Don’t apologize, don’t explain. You’re doing nothing wrong. Good Lord. Think if it was reversed and you were the one finding out a cousin was engaged weeks before your wedding. Would you seriously be offended that someone stole your thunder? I hope not.