Post # 1
Ok, wedding was over the weekend but I’m hearing from my Maid/Matron of Honor that one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man were complaining that I was asking too much of her.
I had diy bridesmaids bouquets (that I assembled), they had to help me out with assembling place cards, folding of programs, and cleaning up my diy centerpieces at the end of the reception.
I admit that I had to plan the wedding out of state and I didn’t ask them for anything besides helping out the week before the wedding.
Now, a little background, for her wedding a few months ago, it was way less formal then mine was. She was able to pay for a professional for her bouquets. She really didn’t ask us for help besides the clean up of the entire reception site at the end. Her favors were done before we got there.
I kind of freaked out about a few days before the wedding because I asked them all that I had a few things that needed to help with and if anyone had any free time, it would be great. Only 3 out of my 8 bridesmaids offer to help. Luckily one of my other bridesmaids asked everyone if they were comng to help out and that got 5 of the 8 bridesmaids to come. But now I’m hearing that one of them was pissed because she had to do so much.
Wedding came out really well. I was on time going to the church. Everyone said it was one of the best weddings they went to. I thanked and hugged each one of my bridesmaids and told them how much I appreciated them helping me out.
Post # 3
I don’t think you asked too much of them. Just keep in mind some people just like to complain. It sounds like you enjoyed yourself and so did the others! Congrats on the wedding day!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Doesn’t sound like too much to me – it’s not like you demanded they help out! Don’t worry about it!
Post # 5
Sounds like your wedding was beautiful! Don’t worry about the complaining Bridesmaid or Best Man – as vintage2010 pointed out some people will complain no matter what. Also, who knows exactly what she said, since you didn’t hear it directly from her. I don’t think you were over the top with your requests at all.
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Post # 6
Sounds perfectly reasonable.
Post # 7
I think your requests were entirely reasonable, and if she didn’t want to help or be a part of your wedding, she could have stepped down. Personally, I have been in several weddings and would have expected to do much much more than you requested!
Thank her again, let her know how much it meant to have her there, and that if she ever needs your support again, you will 100% be there for her! Then let the guilt go..
Post # 8
people love finding reasons to complain about other people, it’s human nature. you’re totally fine
Post # 9
I don’t know the “had to help me” thing makes it sound like you expected it…I personally didn’t believe in my BMs being expected to do anything besides show up and be there for me, but I know that differs for others.
Post # 10
People always complain. It just sucks that one of the people you consider to be most important in your life was complaining.
Post # 11
I don’t think you asked too much, but I think that she obviously didn’t mean for you to hear it if she didn’t tell YOU! Don’t worry about it, just enjoy being married!
Post # 12
If she felt you were asking too much, she could have said no, I’m not helping. She’s complaining for the sake of complaining. Don’t let it get you down!
Post # 13
If I agreed to be a bridesmaid, I would gladly do (almost) anything the bride asked. And from what you described, you were most definitely NOT being too demanding.
Post # 14
Thanks, girls! I didn’t think I asked too much of them. I didn’t force them to do it. I was asking and hoping for some girls to help me.
Post # 15
i don’t think you asked too much of them at all, if anything they should be happy to help you!!
Post # 16
I dont think you asked too much – it wouldve been maybe a bit too much if you asked them to clean the entire venue but you just asked for help of cleaning your centerpieces. Not too demanding at all.
Congrats on the wedding! Glad to hear everything went well 🙂