(Closed) Did I ask too much of my bridesmaids?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think you asked too much of them.  Just keep in mind some people just like to complain.  It sounds like you enjoyed yourself and so did the others!  Congrats on the wedding day!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Doesn’t sound like too much to me – it’s not like you demanded they help out! Don’t worry about it!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Sounds like your wedding was beautiful! Don’t worry about the complaining Bridesmaid or Best Man – as vintage2010 pointed out some people will complain no matter what. Also, who knows exactly what she said, since you didn’t hear it directly from her. I don’t think you were over the top with your requests at all.

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Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sounds perfectly reasonable.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think your requests were entirely reasonable, and if she didn’t want to help or be a part of your wedding, she could have stepped down.  Personally, I have been in several weddings and would have expected to do much much more than you requested!

Thank her again, let her know how much it meant to have her there, and that if she ever needs your support again, you will 100% be there for her! Then let the guilt go..

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

people love finding reasons to complain about other people, it’s human nature. you’re totally fine

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I don’t know the “had to help me” thing makes it sound like you expected it…I personally didn’t believe in my BMs being expected to do anything besides show up and be there for me, but I know that differs for others.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

People always complain. It just sucks that one of the people you consider to be most important in your life was complaining.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t think you asked too much, but I think that she obviously didn’t mean for you to hear it if she didn’t tell YOU! Don’t worry about it, just enjoy being married!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If she felt you were asking too much, she could have said no, I’m not helping. She’s complaining for the sake of complaining. Don’t let it get you down!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I agreed to be a bridesmaid, I would gladly do (almost) anything the bride asked. And from what you described, you were most definitely NOT being too demanding.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i don’t think you asked too much of them at all, if anything they should be happy to help you!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I dont think you asked too much – it wouldve been maybe a bit too much if you asked them to clean the entire venue but you just asked for help of cleaning your centerpieces.  Not too demanding at all.

Congrats on the wedding!  Glad to hear everything went well 🙂

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