(Closed) Did I choose the wrong dress?!?!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love it on you and so will he!! Don’t show him anymore dresses. it will only stress you out! Looking at a dress on a model vs the love of his life is totally different! Plus stock images never llook like the real dress!

Post # 4
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

You’re right – pear shaped girls should NOT wear mermaid because it accentuates the hips too much.  BUT! You’re not really a pear, you’re more of an hourglass and the dress looks great on you!! It’s actually a really beautiful dress, you can tell the material is good quality and it looks very nice on you.  My only opinion would be to change it to a sweetheart, but I really love sweetheart necklines – so if you don’t, then leave it!  Other than that, don’t worry about what he says about dresses, it’s completely different seeing it on you than on the model and he’s going to think you’re beautiful no matter what you wear!  And btw, short girls shouldn’t wear poofy ballgown type dresses because it overwhelms them.  This dress is perfect for your height/shape!

Post # 5
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You look pretty in it. Like you, I didn’t think I would like the dress-style/shape that I ended up choosing but I loved it! You have to go with what you love. The bride should feel beautiful. And most of the time, men think they know what they like, but they are not women and they don’t know how everything will look especially when it’s put together and on the person they love.

My Fiance insists on taking his pointer fingers and making swirling circular shapes around his chest while asking, “does your dress do this?” lol He’s referring to sweetheart necklines and no my dress doesn’t have a sweetheart neckline but I didn’t run off saying “oh no! is that what he’s expecting? should i modify my dress?” I like my dress as-is. I LOVE your dress as-is so go with how YOU feel. He will be fine.

Post # 6
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it looks great on you.  I wouldn’t worry too much about what he thinks of stock photos.  The model in my dress’ stock photo for real looks like a fish lady.  Once he sees it on you, he probably won’t even realize it’s the same type of dress.

Post # 7
882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Stop stressing right now! You look amazing in that dress! Guys have no idea what dress will look good on their SOs. I went through this same thing-when looking at magazines and while (me making him) watch say yes to the dress, my husband’s comments made me think he liked plain, classic dresses…I had a tulle, totally over the top Vera ballgown. During our wedding he said that he couldn’t imagine his bride in anything else-and it’s his favorite dress ever. Literally, the opposite of what he thought he and I wanted.

Wear it and rock it. In my opinion-nothing beats a Vera. (Aren’t her fabrics and subtle details the best in the business?) Perfection, classic, and fashion-forward all at the same time. Also, the long bodice of the mermaid makes you look way taller than 5’1″! 

Post # 8
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

You dont look like a pear at all. I loveeee your dress!!!!! It is so gorgeous!

Post # 9
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Loooooooove it! I’m a pear with a mermaid dress but it makes me look like an hour glass! Show off what ya mama gave you ;-p

Post # 10
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

@HourThyme:  You look amazng, seriously. I agree with PP, don’t show your fiance anymore dresses because what he thinks he likes and he’d like on you are two different things. Also, IGNORE those articles and style blogs that say curvy/pear-shaped women cannot wear mermaids. It’s all about whether or not you want to flaunt your curves. An as a fellow pear, I think you flaunt your curves very nicely, love. 

I do think the neck comes too high, and the straight neckline is too severe for the softness of the gown. I suggest softening the neckline to a slight curve, a romantic traditional sweetheart, or a deep, dramatic sweetheart (very Old Hollywood):

Post # 11
2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@HourThyme:  I’m really not a fan of mermaid style dresses and if you had describedroiled wouldn’t like the sound of it. However, that dress is GORGEOUS on you!!! And he will too. Not liking something in theory and reality are a completely different thing.

Post # 14
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The dress looks great on you!!  


And seriously, no more letting him look at dresses.  I’m sure he was not actually adamant about that dress style, and if he knew how much this is freaking you out he would take his words back entirely!!  



Post # 15
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I did the same thing, I showed my Fiance the new Jenny Packham which includes a dress which is very similar to mine. He basically went “yuck” to all of them! I know he would probably like to see me in something which shows off my bum which my dress doesn’t 

While I do toss over the idea of getting a different dress from time to time, I just keep reminding myself that me in the dress is very different from the model, so hopefully he’ll love it

Also your dress Is beautiful and looks awesome on you. And personally I think that no matter what the magazines say, mermaids look best with some junk in the trunk!

Post # 16
5400 posts
Bee Keeper

Omg I loooooooove it! Don’t change it! Although I do like the alteration advice PP posted about the neckline. 

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