(Closed) Did I commit a huge faux pas on our invitation?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t get it…what else would you use? Apparently I have no etiquette…

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I didn’t know that. And I think your should embrace your new name starting now anyway! So, don’t worry about it. And if people say anything I will eagerly help them pull that stick out of their ass.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hmm… I see what you mean- but honestly it would not occur to me.  I think most people will think nothing of it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you mean you used his last name for both of your names?  Usually it’s your maiden name that goes on the invitation since you’re technically not married yet..

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

It’s considered bad luck and improper to use your married name/married monogram on anything that guests will see prior to the ceremony.  (ie you can use it on things for the reception but not things like the invitation).  But honestly… it’s just not a big deal.  No one else will notice or think anything of it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

huh? really? oh well. i think it’s fine.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’ll be fine. I can just imagine how beautiful your invites are!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

This is a well-known rule among people my age (which I would imagine is about your grandma’s age). Obviously it isn’t that well known among your peers (witness the bemusement of your peers here on this board). So, your own friends won’t think twice about it. Your fiance’s great aunts will go “tut, tut, she probably didn’t know any better; but she’s a pretty little thing, isn’t she?”  In between are a whole bunch of people who — if they notice at all —  will shrug and say “well, everything’s changed nowadays; I suppose that’s become the done thing.”

ETA actually, if it’s just an initial in one corner, the rare people who notice may just  think you’ve put it on in honour of your husband-to-be and not consider that you had any idea of using it as your own monogram.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I didn’t even think about that either. I definitely used his last name initial on our wedding invites for monograms. Really, we’re getting married and it will be my last name so its a mute point. I hardly doubt any of your guests will even notice it. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

so you used your soon to be married first initial surname – its the same thing i would have done to be honest and i would have thought it would be considered quite the normal thing to do

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

No problem in my mind but I’m pretty lax about those kinda things.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh dont freak out. I think that is perfectly acceptable. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve seen this done plenty of times. I think you’re overthinking it. 🙂

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