Post # 1
Yesterday I picked up my son from nursery and as we were walking home I heard raised voices coming towards us. I looked up and saw this couple walking towards us on the other side of the road. They were having an argument. I say argument, she was crying saying she didn’t do anything and he was f-ing and blinding at her, insulting her and being a general dick. He was getting so heated I genuinely thought he might hit her.
So I called out to her and asked if she was OK. She said yes and he threw some insults at me. I told him he should never speak to a woman like that. Another man who had been walking behind them (unconnected to them) had now caught up and he also tackled the bloke’s behaviour. It didn’t stop him – he continued to shout at the woman and she was just crying saying ‘I didn’t do anything’.
I kept watching them until they were out of sight. I don’t think the bloke was happy about having a witness.
Now I am worried that I did something wrong and I might have made it worse for her. I did think about following, but I had my 15 month old with me and so decided to just go home (and tell my son that he should NEVER speak to a woman like that)
Did I do the right thing? Could I have done more? I haven’t stopped thinking about that poor woman since. I keep hoping I might bump into her again and give her the name of some local resources to help her. She seemed so frightened by him.
Post # 2
Yes, you did the right thing. Your child was with you and your child comes first. I’m sorry you had to witness that, it must have been terrible. If you see her again and you’re both alone maybe you could reach out to her to make sure she’s ok. In the meantime, send up a little prayer for her safety, and I will as well.
Post # 3
Twizbe : it’s good to make him aware and her that his behavior is so alarmingly wrong that the general public objects. But after that, esp as you had your child with you, you do have to make the best decisions for yourself, which you did.
all around you did all of the right things.
It’s hard to see such ugliness and be helpless to stop it. Unfortunately the world is full of people like that man who feel entitled to behave however they want without consequences. You let him know that there could well be consequences, and in the long run that’s a good public service even if it didn’t stop him in the moment.
Post # 4
Twizbe : I agree wiith the others, your safety and your childs safety has to come first. I hope that poor woman realises that if it is so bad strangers are stopping in the street to ask if she is ok, then she probably shouldn’t be with that man. You did the best you could. Don’t beat yourself up bee.
Post # 5
you did the right thing. you interfered giving the woman an option to get out but your responsibility is to protect your child so beat to get out of the way. But make sure you teach your son not to speak to people like that, not just women.