(Closed) Did I do the right thing?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it’s ever smart to say anything to a supervisor that you don’t want action on.  By venting to a teammate, who you knew was in a leadership position, you should have known that this could have gotten escalated, especially because being drunk/high at work is almost always in employment contracts as a fireable offense. 

So now that it’s been escalated, the situation gets sticky.  If his profile is private, and no one else from the office could have seen the pictures, he obviously will know it was you, and pretending that you didn’t say anything will probably make it worse.  You have to own up to what you do, and you opted to bring this whole situation to light at work to a supervisor/leader.  If he confronts you, tell him honestly that you did it because you thought it wsa a bad role model for the kids you work with and puts a bad face on your organization.  Apologize for any trouble he got in, but don’t apologize for what you did if you believe you did the right thing.

Post # 4
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You absolutely did the right thing.  He should have been fired instead of just suspended for a day.  His behavior is disgusting, and he shouldn’t be around children in the first place.

Post # 5
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@anyanony:  first off, you did the right thing.  In fact, I would have gone directly to the supervisor upon seeing that he had consumed alcohol while at the school (the other stuff is his personal life–he clearly makes some questionable decisions, but the moment it starts affecting his job/the kids is when it matters.). As far as him posting that he’ll get back at who snitched on him on Facebook , I would hope it could be chalked up to him obviously being an immature, tough-talker, but in this day and age and having the potential to have children involved, you can’t be too safe.  Please voice your concerns to your supervisor before he even gets the chance to confront you, perhaps he can be moved to another team.  I’m a little shocked he kept his job–I was an aid for a while at an elementary school and with the invention of Facebook came a lot of “random” drug tests.  Anyways, good luck and please let us know the final outcome!

Post # 6
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You did the right thing, as a parent of a high schooler, I wouldnt want someone like that working with my sons. People need to learn that social media can effect your life, even your professional life. What if a parent had seen it, and often they do come across these things, it would have been much worse for him. His actions were irresponsible and stupid, totally his own fault.

Post # 7
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m not a parent, but I think you did the right thing. I would not want someone working with my child(ren) that is hungover and/or still high. I think when you take on a role as a teacher or even a teacher’s aide, you are taking on the responsibility of being a good role model for children.

Post # 8
9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tksjewelry:  +1.  Well said.

Post # 10
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@anyanony:  I would suggest you go back to the supervisor with that message. Especially if it is posted on a public site where anyone can see it.

He is being stupid posting this stuff where his employers can easily find it and he is using it as a medium to threaten. Even if it is an empty threat, it isn’t ok or professional at all.

Post # 11
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would have to agree with a PP that you can’t say anything to a supervisor and expect it not to escalate.

However, I do think that the situation will be handled the way that it should be.  He is supposed to be a role model for these kids.  And you should never go to work (doesn’t mater what your job is) high and hung over.  That is just irresponsible.

There are many companies that will actually search your FB page and you can actually get fired/or never hired in the first place just because of the pictures that you advertise on FB.

He will probably approach you about this issue and it is up to you how to react to it.  But make sure that you stay professional about it.  You wouldn’t want your job on the line as well. 

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