Did I do the right thing?

posted 2 years ago in Military
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think you did the right thing.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

You did the right thing. No one needs that kind of negativity in their life! There is a man out there who will treat you right! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think you did the right thing too.  That said, only you know in your heart.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You did the right thing.

Move on and find a guy that actually cares and respect you.  This guy doesn’t.  Otherwise why else is he constantly cheating on you and only come back a few months later after getting caught?  Cut contact with him and focus on yourself.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

elizabmac123 :  you did the right thing. He is very manipulative and tries to change things to make it seem like its your fault and that you are imagining things. You are not imagining things. He is lying to you. You don’t want to deal with this the rest of your life if you decided not to leave. You would constantly be wondering what he is doing or if he was lying to you. You wouldn’t have a safe foundation, as the relationship on his end has been nothing but lies and cheating. You didn’t have concrete proof and that’s why he tried to make it seem like it didn’t happen or he was lying. Even when you did have some sort of proof he lied about it and put it on drinking, you and his friend. Trust your gut and keep moving forward. He even tried to blame you for the break up as if he has done nothing. He caused the breakup. He’s the reason you are not together.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

You 100% did the right thing. Being married to someone in the military is hard enough without trust issues on top of everything. You’ve caught him cheating so many times and he doesn’t own up to it or try to work on himself – he just gaslights you and makes you feel crazy. These are not the actions of a good man. Stay strong! You’ll find someone who IS worth your loyalty. The only thing you’ll regret in a few years is not breaking things off with him sooner.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Yes, you definitely did the right thing. How unfair to you, who has been loyal all this time through long distance, to be cheated on again and again and then lied to about it. LDRs are HARD and he doesn’t deserve you waiting on him when he’s been nothing but unfaithful. Block him and try to move on! I was in an LDR with my Darling Husband, he was also military. I’ve loved him very much for so long but would have left in an instant if I suspected he was cheating on me. If he truly loved you he wouldn’t have cheated so many times.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Of course you did the right thing! Why would you be questioning that? He’s not a good man. And once you give yourself some time to heal you’ll see you didn’t lose anything by dumping him.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

100 percent right thing to do!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

110% did the right thing. A cheating leopard can’t change his cheating spots.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I wish I could be more understanding, but it’s quite obvious that this guy has cheated on you for the entirety of your relationship and would continue to do so if you stayed with him. Why would you possibly want to be with him? Block him on all social media. Block his number. Block his email. Move on, and never ignore such blatant signals again.

Yes, you did the right thing. The only thing you did wrong was waiting so long to do it, and not sticking to it when you left before.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

You did the right thing. He’s nothing more than pond scum and men who know that they can get away with that kind of behavior will do it Forever. It sucks but the guy never really loved you, you were just his go to when he was home. He was not the one and he never will be, you deserve a guy who respects you. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

A promise of marriage from a cheater is not a promise of future fidelity. You are moving on to better things, and when you’re ready to date again you’ll listen to what your gut tells you! 

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