(Closed) Did i Flip Out on FI for no reason?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You may have overdone it, but your frustration is absolutely valid. Guys hate having to track down rsvps, but we all make them do it for the guests on their side – it’s not that bad once you start making the calls. 

If he still refuses, then you make the calls to ask them. You really do have to know, and these guests really should have rsvpd. 

Post # 5
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Did you explain that you have to pay per head?  Maybe he doesn’t realize that if all of those people don’t show up you are still stuck paying for them?

Post # 6
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

3 weeks away…the least he could have done is agreed to check with a couple people he’s closest to! I know that some people can’t stand the idea of checking in on RSVPs and he probably doesn’t get that you are going to have to pay per head and could use the cost savings associated with canceling some of the tables, chairs, food, etc. if you can. If he won’t do it, the only thing for you to do is make some calls, send some emails, use FB or whatever to track down some of the missing peeps and get some answers! Good luck, OP!

Post # 7
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is his mom involved? If it’s family, she may be able to give you a better idea.

Post # 8
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3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ballen062: Yeah, the reaction was extreme but tis the season!  (I told Fiance this weekend that I think I’m going crazy, and he nodded.  Great)

I’d hit Mom up.  Aside from my FIs work people, I’m letting her know of the straglers on their side.  19 more days, Babe.  We can do this!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ballen062:  Then you just need to TELL him that he will be doing this.  He should see how important this is to you, if it’s not to him.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ballen062:  OK good.  We’re on the same insanity schedule.  I cried 3 times this weekend and I am NOT a crier.  I’ve had people comment on how cool I’ve been through this process and I’ve agreed…until this weekend.  Fiance walked in on my watching the Notebook and crying histerically this Friday.  Cue the “What’s wrong?”  “I don’t knoooooooowwwwwwwww <sob> <sob> <hiccup>” conversaton.  

Post # 13
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1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If he’s seeing them this weekend then tell him this is their last chance to send the RSVPs back with him. If they don’t respond by the day he returns then they will be counted as a no. It sucks but there is no other way around this unless you are ok with paying for a bunch of people that may or may not be there. I mean if it was half a dozen to a dozen but NINETY?!?!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That would annoy the hell out of me.  I understand your frustration.  My fiance invited some more people because his guys were talking about his bachelor party in front of two guys that he didn’t invite.  So, I’m kinda annoyed because we ordered invites and have an allotted amount of extras for things I already had planned, lol.  I don’t think guys get it as much as women do.  I get really high strung about wedding stuff too.  You probably over did it but who am I to judge.  I’ve had my moments too.

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