(Closed) Did I handle this appropriately or am I a Bridezilla?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

this is not your fault, if they would have read the invite they would know that it is not acceptable to bring their adult children. good for you for standing your ground!

Post # 4
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Nothing you did was wrong, what your guests did was wrong. Stop beating yourself up over it!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

If you are over capacity, then they can’t come. It’s not like you invited their children. I feel that they are being rude by adding people to the guest list.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

Don’t feel like a jerk.  I think you were super nice by inviting the couple you didn’t even want to be there.  My mom had a friend she wanted to invite (and it was only one person) and I said – NO WAY. 😉

So – tell you mom that she got to invite her friend and their spouse, but you cannot and don’t want to invite the adult kids.  Trust me, she’ll get over it and so will the couple.  

And, btw, it’s rude for them to ask to bring them, when they clearly weren’t invited.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@trugem: I second that!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is one of my biggest pet peeves. We’ve just started telling people we are AT fire code and cannot have any more because it’s true. You did the right thing.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If there’s no room…there’s no room. Nothing you can do about it. Weddings are expensive enough without having to deal with penalties and crap. You aren’t being a Bridezilla at all, just following the rules of the venue.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You have every right not to allow them to add their children.  That was rude that they tried to anyways – especially if your not close with them (I highly doubt your buddy-buddy with the kids then either!).   I bet your mom will understand if you keep standing your ground!! 🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah I would agree. You are correct in the way that you are feeling. We had one couple (FI’s Brother’s Inlaws) who even though their invite stated just them they RSVP’d along with their adult daughter and their other daughter who is 12. I brought it up with my Fiance and we agreeded it numbers became an issue then he was going to talk with them and let them know that their daughters were not invited. The thing is it still frustrates me and I feel myself getting worked up over it each time I think about it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

no thats perfectly acceptable.  you can only allow the mr & mrs.  it’s pretty simple. they’re lucky their invited, never mind their kids!

Post # 14
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I just want to agree with everyone and tell you that you are TOTALLY in the right and not being a bridezilla at all…. for all the reasons listed above : )

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

No, THEY are being rude. Guestzillas.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@JennyW1: Guestzillas. Love it.

Totally agree with everyone above. Put that foot down girl!

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