(Closed) Did I handle this question well enough?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Man, it kinda seems to me that she’s trying to figure out if she’s coming or not based on who she gets to sit with. I really hope that’s not what’s going on.

I think you handled it well.

Post # 4
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ya I think you handled it well 

Post # 5
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think you gave her more info than she really needed…

but still suffiently answered her

I probably would have kept it at engaged, married, living together, or those in long term relationships got a +1 due to space and funds

keeping names out of it….

it is funny she asked about the seating chart that won’t be done till like the week of the wedding.. pfft lol

Post # 8
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I dealt with that so I totally feel your pain. We had a Groomsmen that so would’ve gotten a date JUST for the wedding… like I have endless funds that can pay for 100 +1 guests. pfft…. they just don’t get it. lol

Post # 9
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i think you handled it good. i always blame it on the fire marshall capacity lol. i tell people if we have enough cancel i can invite them but wont know till the last minute. granted they are people i never intended to invite like my neighbor from like 8 years ago who found me on facebook that i never really liked to begin with lmao

Post # 10
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

To play devil’s advocate (since I don’t know any of the people in the situation), I hate going someplace romantic when I’m the only one without a date.  So I get it a little.  We invited several of our school friends, almost all of whom have long-term relationships/living together/etc.  When our rsvps came back and we realized there was literally only one single person in a sea of couples, we gave her the option of bringing someone.  She ultimately decided to come alone, but at least now I don’t have to feel guilty if she’s sitting at a table by herself while everyone else is dancing to a slow song.  I’m just sensitive to that stuff because I always hated it so much when I was single.

ETA – to answer your original question, you did handle it really well I think.

Post # 11
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You handeled it better than the “You were lucky to get an invitation in the first place…don’t push your limit” I would have given her! 😀

Post # 13
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Luckygir15: I wouldn’t even bother sending her a message – it seemed pretty clear from the conversation that you posted that she was borderline/on the fence about coming, since you didn’t let her bring a guest. Just let it go – nothing to be gained from confrontation at this point!

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